Why You Should Change Your Hair Style

Your hair is the crown you never take off, the best accessory you wear everyday, the epicenter of your external beauty people notice.

We change our clothes everyday. We adjust the style we wear with the event we are attending, if it’s a Netflix & Chill kind of day or if it’s a take on the town with the girls kind of night.

We don’t eat boiled chicken everyday. If we want spice, we order tacos (and margaritas.) If we want sweet, heck yes, we order cheesecake smothered in chocolate or berries or both.

When we are in a hair funk and feeling less than glorious with our mop, what should we do? CHANGE!

Hair was never meant to be static. Hair is hair that can be an array of colors, molded into numerous styles, and cut into sculptural masterpieces.

Investigate why and how your hair exudes beauty. How do you feel? Who even are you?

Change is good.

How many times have you changed your hair? Me? God, more times than I can count. I have been literally every color under the sun. I have had long, get stuck in my armpit hair and I have had pixie, shave the back of my head hair. I’ve styled it vintage, boho, rocker, & lazy. I mean I am a hairstylist so I may be bias. But, I love change.

According to a U.K. Study, a woman can change their hairstyle up to 104 times. Shit, even I am slacking (maybe). The study also found that women change their hair color at the very least 3 times and their cut on average twice a year.

But why do we have the burning desire to change our hair? And so often.

The ideal answer would be that we change to discover are uniquely true beautiful self. We finally find that perfect color, stunning length, and adorable style that accentuates all our best assets. I mean that’s the dream right? But when you find it, do you keep it forever and ever and never let it go?

Eh.

You change. Your life changes. Your body, face, & look change. And your hair follows foot. What was perfect then isn’t now. Hence why some of us change it a buttload of times. That edgy haircut your 18 year old rebel self may not be perfect for your now blank age we won’t discuss. The long, luxurious locks may be too difficult to tame with your now busy lifestyle.

Who you were yesterday is not who you are today. Who you are today will not be who you are tomorrow. So embrace change baby.

Word of caution though. Emotional changes need to be carefully thought out. Don’t go wacking off your locks because the d-bag broke up with you. Don’t go turning your platinum to black because you lost your job, your dog died, or your last friend had a baby and your about to be the old lady in the shoe with umpteen cats. Stop. Breathe. Think about it first. Don’t be going jumping out this hairstyle change plane without a parachute. Lucky for you, if you got a fantastic hairstylist, she’s flying tandem with you.

Life isn’t easy. (If you read my blogs, your probably like yea this poor girl got it real good this year.)

We all encounter conflicts, trials, & devastations. Sometimes, life just falls flat.

All those shitty, life-sucking events can drain out confidence. Once that pond is dried up, you kind of want to curl up with one of those umpteen cats with a pint (maybe 2) of Ben & Jerry’s, and go on strike from the adult world.

I get it.

We need a swift kick in the ass from the confidence boot. What better way than to book an appointment at a decadent salon (preferably mine… cough cough… Live Salon) and pamper your damn self. It is almost impossible to not walk out of there doing hair flips and feeling yourself.

Not only will you and your hair feel banging but you will more than likely receive a bazillion compliments from friends, family, and the lady behind you at Walmart.

A new ‘do can completely transform your image. Sometimes we just need to shed our skin and develop new. We change our jobs, we move, we redecorate our homes, we wear heels and we wear sneaks. Who wants to wear the same hairstyle we wore in our 4th grade pictures for the rest of our life? I sure as hell don’t. (Those pictures are hidden forever.)

“A women who changes her hair is about to change her life.” -Coco Chanel

Well said, Coco.

There are times we want to look sophisticated, sexy, professional, edgy, or gym-like. We wouldn’t go to an interview for a Fortune 500 company with a pink Mohawk nor would we go on a date with a hot man with a headband and sweaty bun. We transform when times call.

Needless to say, a new haircut is cheaper than redoing your kitchen or continuing to have that new car smell.

It is cheaper than botox. A new color or cut or even a minor style change can cut years off your looks.

Just because you are 60 does not mean you need to lop off your locks and go au naturel. That’s BS. Seeing an experienced stylist that can offer you advice on what would bring out the spring chicken in you would be a wise decision.

Life changing.

No seriously, a new ‘do can be life changing. Don’t laugh. It’s true.

At times we use our hair as our security blanket or body armor. We cling to it even when it doesn’t suit our truest self because it’s all we know. We don’t eat tomatoes because our parents hated tomatoes, but tomatoes are flipping delicious vegetables or fruits or whatever they are calling themselves these days.

Our attitude, personality, and inner beauty are all inextricably connected to our external style and ultimately our hair. Think of how badass, beautiful, and chatty you feel when you leave the salon and your appointment landed on your work’s holiday party compared to slinking into Walmart when you ran out of tampons in your jammies hoping you see like zero people you know.

I’ve seen grander stories happen- the shy girl who hid behind bangs and glasses suddenly walk around like her shit don’t stank because she went all platinum blonde ombré with her bad self or the 60 year old cancer survivor who wore ball caps and pony tails to cover the grey and thinness look in the mirror crying with her new brunette pixie not believing that she could look so beautiful again.

It happened. I saw it. And a simple hairstyle change can move mountains for you too.

How could you not want to wrestle in your own confidence, passion, or badassery? Do you not want to feel sexy, powerful, or perfectly feminine? To receive that unbelievable energy from a new hairstyle you have been dying to try is exhilarating.

Change your hair. Change you. Change the world.

Happy Transforming!

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Oil Love (Chapter 5: Energy, Meditation, Healing, & General Relaxation) 

If you have read some of my previous blogs on Life, you are familiar with my new found journey on taking care of ME and on ways to take care of YOU. And you know, I have an obsession with Young Living Essential Oils. So why not marry the two into one informative blog?Here, I want to elaborate on the benefits of essential oils and energy, meditation, healing, and general relaxation. Adding essential oils to your self care is not only beneficial but fun, great smelling, & extremely therapeutic. 

Essential oils are the life blood of plants just as the blood we have in our own bodies. Their healing properties for ailments have been used or thousands of years. Our bodies create energy as do essential oils and depending on what energy are bodies are creating determines what essential oil we need to balance and stabilize ourselves. 

I would dive deep into the world of energies, chakras, and frequencies but we would be here for awhile. Instead, I want to mainly focus on what happens to these when emotions come into play (as they often do). We are electrical beings living in an electrical world. Every person, element, food, emotion, and action has an energy frequency measured in MHz. In order to stay healthy mentally, emotionally, & physically, we must raise our frequencies, align and restore natural energies, remove blockages, and enhance perceptions. 

A healthy body measures at 62-68 MHz. Negative thoughts can lower our frequency by 12 MHz in just 3 seconds. A positive thought raises it by the same in about 12 seconds. When the body drops below the healthy level of frequency, sickness can occur. Your overall well being goes out the window. This is why stress and pent up emotions can cause more harm that you know. We need those “good vibrations”.  

Clinical research shows that essential oils have the highest frequency of any natural substance known to man, creating an environment in which disease, bacteria, virus, fungus, etc., cannot live. I believe that the chemistry and frequencies of essential oils have the ability to help man maintain the optimal frequency to the extent that disease cannot exist.

-Gary Young of Young Living Essential Oils

However, one must be careful when healing your energy or balancing your emotions with essential oils. Start with the oil with the lowest frequency and layer by ascending frequencies. If we were to mix the frequencies in a disorderly way, we could cause a chaotic reaction. When our bodies are in an emotional state already, it would not be wise. Why add chaos to the chaos? My favorite oils to balance my energy and raise frequency are Clarity (101 MHz), Abundance (78 MHz), Lavender (118 MHz), & Frankincense (147 MHz). 

We can diffuse or wear the essential oils topically. We can place them on the appropriate chakra. A chakra is an energy point in the body or the intersection of energy channels that are our life source and vital energies. When we are deeply connected to our energy, chakras can become spheres of radiant energy healing our emotions and/or ailments. Chakras are the gateways of consciousness. We can become intune with ourselves and become at peace. Each chakra has its own purpose, association, and connection and it is important for them to be balanced and in harmony with each other. This of this as road. When there is a road block, traffic occurs. And even if we take a detour, traffic will soon back up there. We must remove the road block to allow traffic to move freely. Root Chakra is our foundation or our “root”. When in balance we feel secure, connected, supported, strong, trusting and safe. When out of balance we feel insecure, angry, annoyed, irritated and worried about our basic needs. We become ungrounded. (Try balancing with Grounding, Patchouli, or Clove.)

Sacral Chakra is the centre for sexual energy, creativity and pure emotions. Balances your ability to give and receive feelings and emotions. When in balance we feel brave, passionate, energetic, confident, creative, spontaneous, excited, open, and kind. When out of balance we feel unsure of ourselves in relationships, vulnerabe, and fear in expressing ourselves. We tend to feel betrayed, frustrated, regret, anxieties, stressors, and guilt. (Try balancing with Release, Clary Sage, Ylang Ylang, or Sage.)

Solar Plexus Chakra is where the personality is formed and is also called our “gut instinct” chakra. When in balance we feel positive, whole, self-respected, compassionate, powerful, and hopeful. When out of balance we feel powerless, worthless, self-critical, rejected, and shameful. There is a great need to dominate and control (which is my biggest problem). (Try balancing with Cedarwood, Cinnamon Bark, or Vetiver.)

Heart Chakra is obviously our center of love, spirituality, humanity and healing. It is the major intersection of all feelings and emotions. When in balance we feel joy, gratitude, love, unity, compassion, acceptance, pride,inspiration, forgiveness and empathy. When out of balance we feel jealous, abandoned, anger, and bitterness. (Try balancing with Abundance or Bergamot.)

Throat Chakra allows us to communicate  our needs and take responsibility for decision making. When in balance we feel relaxation. We have the ability to communicate freely and express ourselves. When out of balance we feel powerless to speak out, fear of being judged and rejected. This can lead to feeling out of control, hurt, sad, and resentful (more of my personal issues). (Try balancing with Peace & Calming I/II, Stress Away, or Lavender.)

Third Eye Chakra is our perspective, spiritual wisdom, understanding, and intuition. When in balance we feel clear and focused. We are open to receiving wisdom, insight, and intelligence. There is an awareness of connectiveness. When out of balance, we reject ideas of spiritual aspects of life and become unable to self-reflect. (Try balancing with Clarity, Peppermint, or Palo Santo.)

Crown Chakra connect us to an awareness of with life, spirituality, and ourselves. We are able to live in the now. When in balance we feel empowered, calm, valued, present to the moment, trusting of the flow of life. When out of balance we feel confusion and depression. We may have very fixed, black and white thinking and unable to go with the flow. (Try balancing with Frankincense or Highest Potenial.)We lay focus on our chakras during meditaion. There are several ways to meditate. A few minutes throughout the day is all it takes to recenter yourself. Mindful Meditation: Be aware of your thoughts and emotions. Take a breath and clear your mind. Focus on accepting your thoughts, feeling, and environments in a nonjudgmental way. Allow your mind to drift into peace. We can do this anywhere- at home, in office, in traffic, etc.

Mantra Meditation: Choose a mantra or slogan that best fits your needs and solely focus on that by closing your eyes and repeating it out loud or silently to yourself. This allows us to stay current with what we want or need our of our lives. “I am worth it!” “Good things will happen!” “I will overcome!” 

Sensation Meditation: This can be done doing the dishes, petting the cats, walking, or showering. Focus on the sensations these tasks give us. Feel the warmth of the water or tickles of the bubbles, the softeness of the cat fur, or the movement of your legs or texture of the ground. Whatever task you choose to do, focus on the physical sensations and feelings. It is an on-the-go form of mindful meditation. 

Guided Meditation: Thankfully we are given the wonderful world of the Internet and YouTube. We are able to easy find readily available guided meditations. Guided meditations are essentially a script given to us to put us in a state of mindfulness and peace. Place yourself in the surroundings they describe. Allow yourself to think the thoughts it gives you. And above all else, feel! Feel the emotions it gives you.

“Meditate-because some answers cannot be answered by Google.”

Life is about free will. We have have to power to choose how we  think, feel, react, and what we decide and do. If there is chaos or negativity surrounding us, we choose how we react to it. We can either let it go or live with a sense of anxiety. We decide to take control and also live with anxiety or we can let go and say “what it the worst thing that can happen?”. Meditation, focusing on the Chakras, and balancing our energies and frequencie allows us to take steps to living a more peaceful life with a higher purpose. Essentials oils can help us on this road to self-recovery. There is power in aromatherapy and the microcells essential oils have. 

Therapy is a great start to allowing yourself to let go and feel emotions. One must be honest with not only the therapist but with oneself. You will realize that it is okay to feel what you feel and that you, essentially, aren’t crazy. You will be given ways to better deal with your situations. You will have a voice, and most importantly, an ear. 

Not into therapy? Try Reiki or an Angel Reading! These allow you to be one with your spirituality and having a sense of oneself with a greater purpose. You are not alone in this world no matter what you believe. The most important this is to stay open. Have an open mind, heart, and soul. We can’t give or receive if we are closed. Taking care of you is the bravest thing you can do. You won’t be perfect at it and- guess what?- that is okay! Stay strong! Stay diligent! Stay consistent! You will be a better person and caregiver. You will have a greater sense of YOU! Allowing yourself to let go will help you balance your emotions, have a higher frequency, all while creating a healthier you. Your well being will thank you. 

Happy Discovering You and Letting Go of the BS! Finally!!! 

You. 

I have learned, especially recently, that it is MOST Important to believe in yourself, count in yourself, and above all else, love yourself. When it comes down to it all, you are your own constant. Friends can come and go. Family can change. Relationships can end. Though, I hope they don’t. YOU are a permanent fixture in YOUR life. If you are anything like me, you will bend over backwards for anyone and everyone. You love so much that it hurts. You are everyone else’s constant, their go-to. And that’s okay. At some point, however, you will break. Your batteries will die. The thing is… We forgot to take care of ourselves. We all have our daily struggles…some more than others. We somehow have to become gymnastic Olympians and perform ridiculous routines on the balance beam. We are bound to fall off. I mean, shit! We can’t be perfect. Though, we try like hell. Balance is key. Find something that makes YOU happy, whatever that may be. When we juggle so many things, we tend to loose ourselves. Who are you? What do you like? What will make you happy? Can you answer these? Obviously, keep your dreams and wishes realistic. Reach for the stars, not another universe. You want to be able to actually achieve a goal. I, too, want to be a millionaire who never ages and has her own solo album with a shoe closet the size of a small country and a man who looks like David Beckham. But…. I can’t. What I can do is spend an hour during the week taking a class of some sort. I can write this blog in my spare time because I enjoy it. I can paint a room in my house while drinking wine and jamming to tunes. When are you the happiest? Is it when you have 5 minutes alone in the bathroom? Make it 15. Is it creating something? Take a class. Start crafting. Is it pushing yourself farther to succeed? Hustle, baby. Whatever makes you happy… DO IT!Be diligent. Don’t give up on yourself. Better yet, don’t forget about yourself. We always end up learning that the hard way.WORK TO LIVE, NOT LIVE TO WORK. That’s means for other people, too. Don’t always be a fall back. And don’t spend your whole life busting your buns at work so much that you forget to experience moments of simple life. OVERCOME YOUR STRESS! Finding some you time may not cure your stress, but you will be a better you and with that, stress will affect you less. And guess what? DON’T FEEL GUILTY ABOUT IT! Without taking the time to care for yourself, your work, relationships, and health will suffer.PRIORITIZE YOUR NEEDS! And it is okay to ask for help. Hey! You are there for everyone else! And say no. We cannot be superheroes. Try as we might, we can’t do it all.

Recent studies have shown women are less happy than they have been in over 40 years.

Think of it this way. We are first responders. Would you want your EMT running on fumes? Nope. We need to be rested and fulfilled to properly do our jobs as a worker, mother, wife, friend. Put yourself in the calendar. And do not cancel. Make it as important as a doctor’s appointment. And do not multitask. Don’t take work emails while you are at the nail salon. Stay present in YOUR moment. My favorite quote is:

The greatest thing you will ever learn is just to love and be loved in return.

The funny thing is, I never thought of returning love to myself. 

Everyday, I am trying to practice what I preach here. And though I am no where near where I want to be nor have what I want to have. I am vowing to make a conscious effort to focus on me, step out of the drama, and to ask for help. But I’ll take it slow. My future self will thank me. And eventually my friends, family, and coworkers will thank me.Happy Finding You!