Why You Should Change Your Hair Style

Your hair is the crown you never take off, the best accessory you wear everyday, the epicenter of your external beauty people notice.

We change our clothes everyday. We adjust the style we wear with the event we are attending, if it’s a Netflix & Chill kind of day or if it’s a take on the town with the girls kind of night.

We don’t eat boiled chicken everyday. If we want spice, we order tacos (and margaritas.) If we want sweet, heck yes, we order cheesecake smothered in chocolate or berries or both.

When we are in a hair funk and feeling less than glorious with our mop, what should we do? CHANGE!

Hair was never meant to be static. Hair is hair that can be an array of colors, molded into numerous styles, and cut into sculptural masterpieces.

Investigate why and how your hair exudes beauty. How do you feel? Who even are you?

Change is good.

How many times have you changed your hair? Me? God, more times than I can count. I have been literally every color under the sun. I have had long, get stuck in my armpit hair and I have had pixie, shave the back of my head hair. I’ve styled it vintage, boho, rocker, & lazy. I mean I am a hairstylist so I may be bias. But, I love change.

According to a U.K. Study, a woman can change their hairstyle up to 104 times. Shit, even I am slacking (maybe). The study also found that women change their hair color at the very least 3 times and their cut on average twice a year.

But why do we have the burning desire to change our hair? And so often.

The ideal answer would be that we change to discover are uniquely true beautiful self. We finally find that perfect color, stunning length, and adorable style that accentuates all our best assets. I mean that’s the dream right? But when you find it, do you keep it forever and ever and never let it go?

Eh.

You change. Your life changes. Your body, face, & look change. And your hair follows foot. What was perfect then isn’t now. Hence why some of us change it a buttload of times. That edgy haircut your 18 year old rebel self may not be perfect for your now blank age we won’t discuss. The long, luxurious locks may be too difficult to tame with your now busy lifestyle.

Who you were yesterday is not who you are today. Who you are today will not be who you are tomorrow. So embrace change baby.

Word of caution though. Emotional changes need to be carefully thought out. Don’t go wacking off your locks because the d-bag broke up with you. Don’t go turning your platinum to black because you lost your job, your dog died, or your last friend had a baby and your about to be the old lady in the shoe with umpteen cats. Stop. Breathe. Think about it first. Don’t be going jumping out this hairstyle change plane without a parachute. Lucky for you, if you got a fantastic hairstylist, she’s flying tandem with you.

Life isn’t easy. (If you read my blogs, your probably like yea this poor girl got it real good this year.)

We all encounter conflicts, trials, & devastations. Sometimes, life just falls flat.

All those shitty, life-sucking events can drain out confidence. Once that pond is dried up, you kind of want to curl up with one of those umpteen cats with a pint (maybe 2) of Ben & Jerry’s, and go on strike from the adult world.

I get it.

We need a swift kick in the ass from the confidence boot. What better way than to book an appointment at a decadent salon (preferably mine… cough cough… Live Salon) and pamper your damn self. It is almost impossible to not walk out of there doing hair flips and feeling yourself.

Not only will you and your hair feel banging but you will more than likely receive a bazillion compliments from friends, family, and the lady behind you at Walmart.

A new ‘do can completely transform your image. Sometimes we just need to shed our skin and develop new. We change our jobs, we move, we redecorate our homes, we wear heels and we wear sneaks. Who wants to wear the same hairstyle we wore in our 4th grade pictures for the rest of our life? I sure as hell don’t. (Those pictures are hidden forever.)

“A women who changes her hair is about to change her life.” -Coco Chanel

Well said, Coco.

There are times we want to look sophisticated, sexy, professional, edgy, or gym-like. We wouldn’t go to an interview for a Fortune 500 company with a pink Mohawk nor would we go on a date with a hot man with a headband and sweaty bun. We transform when times call.

Needless to say, a new haircut is cheaper than redoing your kitchen or continuing to have that new car smell.

It is cheaper than botox. A new color or cut or even a minor style change can cut years off your looks.

Just because you are 60 does not mean you need to lop off your locks and go au naturel. That’s BS. Seeing an experienced stylist that can offer you advice on what would bring out the spring chicken in you would be a wise decision.

Life changing.

No seriously, a new ‘do can be life changing. Don’t laugh. It’s true.

At times we use our hair as our security blanket or body armor. We cling to it even when it doesn’t suit our truest self because it’s all we know. We don’t eat tomatoes because our parents hated tomatoes, but tomatoes are flipping delicious vegetables or fruits or whatever they are calling themselves these days.

Our attitude, personality, and inner beauty are all inextricably connected to our external style and ultimately our hair. Think of how badass, beautiful, and chatty you feel when you leave the salon and your appointment landed on your work’s holiday party compared to slinking into Walmart when you ran out of tampons in your jammies hoping you see like zero people you know.

I’ve seen grander stories happen- the shy girl who hid behind bangs and glasses suddenly walk around like her shit don’t stank because she went all platinum blonde ombré with her bad self or the 60 year old cancer survivor who wore ball caps and pony tails to cover the grey and thinness look in the mirror crying with her new brunette pixie not believing that she could look so beautiful again.

It happened. I saw it. And a simple hairstyle change can move mountains for you too.

How could you not want to wrestle in your own confidence, passion, or badassery? Do you not want to feel sexy, powerful, or perfectly feminine? To receive that unbelievable energy from a new hairstyle you have been dying to try is exhilarating.

Change your hair. Change you. Change the world.

Happy Transforming!

Advertisements

Change & Show Gratitude 


Change is a scary fn thing. 

Needless to say, I have had a crap ton of change lately. Enough for a couple people’s worth.

 Mainly, my change in work. 

Don’t worry! I am still doing hair. 

When you work somewhere for over 5 years, you eat, sleep, & breathe that place. It becomes you. 

However, life likes to throw some curve balls at me. Too many of them and this one hit me plain in the face. 

Everyday it’s a struggle for me to say- Change is good. Everyday it’s painstaking to think- Everything happens for a reason. 

But let me tell you- I am blessed. 

I am blessed for my true supporters, my friends, my family. I am blessed I was given a gift to touch more than just hair. I am blessed to not only be given a creative mind but a good heart and damn good head on my shoulders. 

Even through this shitty part of life, I can still show gratitude. Gratitude towards those who have let me go. Gratitude to my clients, who are more friends and family than anything, who have stood by me. And gratitude to The Universe for giving me the strength to persevere.

For what you give, you will receive. 

Without this change, I wouldn’t believe in myself like I do now. I perhaps would have taken for granted the love my clients, friends, family, and The Universe have for me. I would have gotten comfortable and comfort stunts growth. 

So even though it’s a struggle and it’s painstaking- Change will the new adventure. Change will lead the way to bigger and better things. Change will bring out joy in the masses. 

I will be change and change will be good. 


So to my clients, my friends, and my family who are supporting me, thank you. Thank you for believing in me, loving me, and standing by me and my craft. Thank you for being patient and kind. Thank you for giving me the courage to go forth in my dreams. I am strong because you are strong with me. Thank you for taking this ride with me. I couldn’t do it alone. 

Change is just the beginning. 


Happy Living, Changing, & Forever Growing 

The Relationship With Your Stylist

For many people, men & women, the bond with a hair stylist is the most important “service” relationship of their lives. This relationship may stand the tests of time, lasting longer than friendships, jobs and even marriages.

You see them before (and after) big events & important times in your lives: weddings, new careers, births of babies, graduations, etc, etc. They see you through the bumps in the roads including break ups, funerals, losses of pets, and again, etc, etc. 

They become your closest friend without the ties. They see you at your worst and at your best. They make you feel better on the inside and out. You are in 100% infull contact with your hair stylist. 

The two main people you tell all your secrets to is your bar tender and hair dresser. 

As a hair dresser, I appreciate the fact that my clients open up to me, and I to them. It builds rapport and trust. 
With trust, my clients are not only able to be honest about their lives but also honest with what they want to achieve with their looks. 

What you feel on the inside will exude on the outside. I know that if my clients are having a bad day to spend a little extra time with the head massage and offer special styling at the end of the service. I don’t care if they are just going home to clean. They will clean up toys and do dishes looking like a super model. And guarenteed they feel even the smallest bit better on the inside.

With trust, my client’s expect me to give them my best professional opinion or ideas. They are then able to sit in my chair and actually relax. At home and work, they make all the decisions. Within the salon, they can be sure I will make the best decision for them and they will be comfortable with the results. 

It’s all about the experience. And excellence in service should be the way of life of a hairstylist. 


Love your clients as much as they love you. 

And women, find a stylist that you “connect” with. 

Happy being happy in and behind the chair! 

Reflections (A MUST READ, BREAK OUT THE TISSUES BLOG FROM A FELLOW BLOGGER) 


I had to share this with all of my readers, no the world. I am insanely proud to share this. 
A beautiful friend, coworker, and fellow blogger has written the most heartfelt blog. 

Reflections (From the SB Blog)
Now that you have wiped the tears and snot pouring from your nose, let’s make 2017 beautiful! Spread some love! Take care of you! Make the world a better place! Look at your reflection and say… DAMN! I got this! I rock! I kickass! And my life is beautiful! 

Happy 2017 My Lovelies! 


You. 

I have learned, especially recently, that it is MOST Important to believe in yourself, count in yourself, and above all else, love yourself. When it comes down to it all, you are your own constant. Friends can come and go. Family can change. Relationships can end. Though, I hope they don’t. YOU are a permanent fixture in YOUR life. If you are anything like me, you will bend over backwards for anyone and everyone. You love so much that it hurts. You are everyone else’s constant, their go-to. And that’s okay. At some point, however, you will break. Your batteries will die. The thing is… We forgot to take care of ourselves. We all have our daily struggles…some more than others. We somehow have to become gymnastic Olympians and perform ridiculous routines on the balance beam. We are bound to fall off. I mean, shit! We can’t be perfect. Though, we try like hell. Balance is key. Find something that makes YOU happy, whatever that may be. When we juggle so many things, we tend to loose ourselves. Who are you? What do you like? What will make you happy? Can you answer these? Obviously, keep your dreams and wishes realistic. Reach for the stars, not another universe. You want to be able to actually achieve a goal. I, too, want to be a millionaire who never ages and has her own solo album with a shoe closet the size of a small country and a man who looks like David Beckham. But…. I can’t. What I can do is spend an hour during the week taking a class of some sort. I can write this blog in my spare time because I enjoy it. I can paint a room in my house while drinking wine and jamming to tunes. When are you the happiest? Is it when you have 5 minutes alone in the bathroom? Make it 15. Is it creating something? Take a class. Start crafting. Is it pushing yourself farther to succeed? Hustle, baby. Whatever makes you happy… DO IT!Be diligent. Don’t give up on yourself. Better yet, don’t forget about yourself. We always end up learning that the hard way.WORK TO LIVE, NOT LIVE TO WORK. That’s means for other people, too. Don’t always be a fall back. And don’t spend your whole life busting your buns at work so much that you forget to experience moments of simple life. OVERCOME YOUR STRESS! Finding some you time may not cure your stress, but you will be a better you and with that, stress will affect you less. And guess what? DON’T FEEL GUILTY ABOUT IT! Without taking the time to care for yourself, your work, relationships, and health will suffer.PRIORITIZE YOUR NEEDS! And it is okay to ask for help. Hey! You are there for everyone else! And say no. We cannot be superheroes. Try as we might, we can’t do it all.

Recent studies have shown women are less happy than they have been in over 40 years.

Think of it this way. We are first responders. Would you want your EMT running on fumes? Nope. We need to be rested and fulfilled to properly do our jobs as a worker, mother, wife, friend. Put yourself in the calendar. And do not cancel. Make it as important as a doctor’s appointment. And do not multitask. Don’t take work emails while you are at the nail salon. Stay present in YOUR moment. My favorite quote is:

The greatest thing you will ever learn is just to love and be loved in return.

The funny thing is, I never thought of returning love to myself. 

Everyday, I am trying to practice what I preach here. And though I am no where near where I want to be nor have what I want to have. I am vowing to make a conscious effort to focus on me, step out of the drama, and to ask for help. But I’ll take it slow. My future self will thank me. And eventually my friends, family, and coworkers will thank me.Happy Finding You!