I’m a Girl Boss, Baby


Holy crap! I opened my own salon. Yup, I am now a girl boss, a female entrepreneur, in charge of her own destiny. 

Scary, yet thrilling shit. 

Most people plan businesses for years. Nope, not me. Left my last job, sulked and panicked for about a month, signed a lease, and a month and half later the doors of the salon opened. 

Crazy. I think so. 

Boy, have I learned a lot. I’ve learned the difference between a sole proprietorship and a LLC, that there is a thing called Business Privledge Tax, that it helps to know people, and shit ain’t cheap. I thank god everyday for Google. There were a ton of sleepless nights and busy fingers searching the wide interweb for literally every bit of information I would need- tax write-offs, salon furniture, Pinterest binging. 

Even wine wouldn’t calm me. 

Honestly though, through the chaos what I learned the most is one, I am one tough cookie, and two, I have the best god damn support system a girl could ask for. 


Without risk, there is no success. Why? Because you didn’t try. I sometimes sit in my salon at the end of the night at like 10 pm (probably with a glass of wine) and I look around and think- I really did this. And I did this in a month and a half. If I could high five myself I would. (But I have really big windows and somebody would think I was crazy.)

But no seriously, I did this. If I did it, so can you. Us women, sure we are crazy- Crazy awesome. Crazy strong, crazy stubborn, determined, independent, but we are some bad ass bitches. 


It took something horrible to happen to me to light a fire under my toosh. But now, I am so thankful. It was a blessing in disguise. I see that now.

I am a girl boss. (For crying out loud, my last name is Bossi.) 

I’m still scared but I am okay with that. If I wasn’t I wouldn’t push myself. I wouldn’t fight for this every single day. 

It is important for me to succeed not just for me or my family but for every other future girl boss out there. For real though, if I can open a salon in a month an a half with very little money and almost zero cash flow, you can learn to fly a plane or knit or open up your own stinkin’ business. 

Celebrate your past, your mistakes, and your shortcomings. Rejoice in your success. The value is in what you learn along the way. And honey, you will learn you too are a bad ass girl boss! 

Happy Bossin’ like a Girl! 


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My Wish for My Future

Starting this blog, I wanted to write to educate people on hair and makeup but the more my fingers moved across the screen the more and more I was inspired to write more about life. 

Unfortunately, I haven’t written lately and I do feel at a loss. See, this little thing in life loves to throw some curve balls at us. My life, it seems someone turned that automatic ball pitcher on over drive and pointed it directly at my face. 

I used another metaphor recently about my life. I feel like this hurricane came ripping through flooding and destroying and I am standing on a roof top desperately waiting for FEMA to rescue me. 

Recently, I have had a bit of a job change. Well, I guess you can call it a major job change. I went from being comfortable and successful where I was in an environment that I ate, slept, and shat the values to treading feverishly in uncharted territories. (Soon, I will write a blog further discussed such territories. Soon.) 

When you go through such a change, unexpected nonetheless. It’s fucking scary. You don’t know when to duck or swing the bat or you find yourself standing on the rooftop frantically waving rescue helipcopter tired, hungry, and dehydrated to no avail. It’s exhausting. 

But then I remember what I eventually began set out to do with this simple blog. And the quote at the beginning of this blog stated it all. 

“I aspire to be an empowered woman with vision and grace, soft-hearted but strong, self-aware and sure, respected for my mind, admired for my heart, and above all else, always honest, open, and raw.”

My definition of success is making a difference and have a successor, maybe not in the same business but someone who was inspired by me, who was empowered by me, who took life by the balls and reached their dreams faster than me. 

My wish for my future, no matter where I am or what I am doing, is to make a difference, to create beauty not just on another but in the world, to provide someone with a hand, a ear, or a shoulder to cry on. I want to inspire, empower, and to create something great, not just for me but for those directly surrounding me, my community, or the world. 

See, even when life throws you an accelerated curve ball or tries to drown you in a hurricane, you need to sit on your helmet, head butt those damn things, put on your floaters, and swim to your own safety. You are in control of you own life. I am in control of my own destiny. And your future and my future depends on ourselves. 

So I am asking you to write out your wish for your future and every day do something, even the smallest thing, that is going to take you closer to it. Everyday show gratitude. Thank The Universe, thank your mistakes, thank your successes, and thank every single person around you. 

You life is going to be amazing. You are going to make a difference. I AM GOING TO MAKE A DIFFERENCE. Believe in yourself. And when times are tough, toss your hair back, throw up your middle fingers, and exclaim- “I got this shit.”

My wish for my life is that you read this and you felt something. I always promised to be honest, open, and raw. Because of that, everything else will fall into place. 

Happy Wishing, Dreaming, Swimming, and Smacking Those Curveballs Out of the Park! 

Change & Show Gratitude 


Change is a scary fn thing. 

Needless to say, I have had a crap ton of change lately. Enough for a couple people’s worth.

 Mainly, my change in work. 

Don’t worry! I am still doing hair. 

When you work somewhere for over 5 years, you eat, sleep, & breathe that place. It becomes you. 

However, life likes to throw some curve balls at me. Too many of them and this one hit me plain in the face. 

Everyday it’s a struggle for me to say- Change is good. Everyday it’s painstaking to think- Everything happens for a reason. 

But let me tell you- I am blessed. 

I am blessed for my true supporters, my friends, my family. I am blessed I was given a gift to touch more than just hair. I am blessed to not only be given a creative mind but a good heart and damn good head on my shoulders. 

Even through this shitty part of life, I can still show gratitude. Gratitude towards those who have let me go. Gratitude to my clients, who are more friends and family than anything, who have stood by me. And gratitude to The Universe for giving me the strength to persevere.

For what you give, you will receive. 

Without this change, I wouldn’t believe in myself like I do now. I perhaps would have taken for granted the love my clients, friends, family, and The Universe have for me. I would have gotten comfortable and comfort stunts growth. 

So even though it’s a struggle and it’s painstaking- Change will the new adventure. Change will lead the way to bigger and better things. Change will bring out joy in the masses. 

I will be change and change will be good. 


So to my clients, my friends, and my family who are supporting me, thank you. Thank you for believing in me, loving me, and standing by me and my craft. Thank you for being patient and kind. Thank you for giving me the courage to go forth in my dreams. I am strong because you are strong with me. Thank you for taking this ride with me. I couldn’t do it alone. 

Change is just the beginning. 


Happy Living, Changing, & Forever Growing 

Taking Care of the Most Important Person… You

Believe me, this is easier said than done. But, it’s all about progress. There is no ifs, ands, or buts about it, YOU have to take care of YOURSELF. Even just carving out a single moment out of the day is the start of progress to a better YOU.

Why is it so important to take care of yourself? Let’s see… If your car runs out of gas, can it continue to drive? If you use your blowdryer everyday, will it not smoke and spark and eventually blow up? Well, same goes for you. 

We are pulled in some many directions. Family needs us. Friends need us. Coworkers, customers, and kids need us. The world needs us. If we break down or blow up, will we be any good?

Nope. 

We will be good to no one if we aren’t good to ourselves. 

It won’t be easy. I have failed. I have forgotten. And I have been weak. But, all you need to do is to at least make a conscious effort and start to make that progress towards a healthier, less stressed you. 

But what can YOU do to jumpstart “You Care”? 

Here are a few ideas I have used in my own conscious effort to take care of ME:

Find Your Hobby– Mine is crafting, painting my house, and anything that requires creativity. Maybe yours is yoga, fishing, or even stamp collecting. Whatever it may be, make time for it. Even if it’s only an hour a week, it is YOU time. YOU are in YOUR world. And guess what? YOU will enjoy it. When you are doing what YOU love, you are able to to reboot your brain to say, “Hey! I am happy!” Find your hobby or your “happy niche” and flippin’ do it! 

Take a Trip– Maybe it’s a weekend get away or maybe it’s just a Sunday morning excursion to a flea market, either way get YOUR booty out of the house and not just to the grocery store, my dear. When you do something outside of the norm, it’s like pressing the reset button. We need change. We need adventure. We need to be free from our everyday demands for even just a bit. I try to at least travel 1-2 times a year. It gives me something to look forward to and something to work towards. Make it a celebration! Celebrate YOU and making it through this thing called Life!

Talk– I have found being candid about my life is beyond liberating. It sets YOU free from the chains your troubles have on you. It’s okay to have problems. It’s okay to not be perfect. People will respect you more when you are honest. I have found that you never know who may reply with something that will actually resonate with you. The person you talk to should not only make you feel not alone, but YOU may make them feel not alone. There is strength in numbers. Having a good support system, big or small, known or unknown, is a huge help. Open up. You may find hope in the most unexpected place.

MeditateDon’t laugh. When I say meditate, I don’t just mean sit on the floor with your legs crossed chanting “oooommmm”. (Though, that is an option.) There are different ways to meditate. For instance, your doing the dishes. Kids are yelling in the background. Focus on the bubbles on your hands and the warmth of the water. Unnoticeably, the sound of the kids yelling dissipates. YOU become in control of YOUR thoughts. Now, really don’t laugh at me, but I do conscious meditation while petting my cats. I bet you do it to. You just don’t notice. But when I am sad or angry or stressed, I cuddle with my cats. I focus on the softness of their fur, the warmth of them, and the sound of their purring. And poof, for those few minutes, I am not sad or angry and I can regain control of my emotions. Another choice of meditation is chanting. Out loud or silently to yourself, repeat something inspirational. I believe in the power of thought. If YOU think it and believe it, it is bound to happen. Amazing things can happen when YOU clear or mind. When you fill your mind with positive things, there is no more room for the bullshit. YOU can be your own cheerleader.

TherapyTherapy is so much more common and talked about now. It has become way less of a taboo. YOU are not “crazy” if you go. In fact, the ones who don’t go are the “crazy” ones. Don’t get me wrong, I never thought I would ever be going to therapy. But now that I am going, I am thinking, “Why the hell haven’t I done this years ago?!?!” However, I do wish I could be friends with my therapist and take her for drinks instead of paying the office visit. But, I do look at therapy as a huge leap to taking care of myself. It’s a solid hour designated for me and me only. It’s like for those 2 weeks between visits, I am a dump truck and things load up on me making me heavy with stress, and when I am at the visit, I get to unload. I can essentially let my therapist carry my burdens. Don’t knock therapy until you try it. Go in with an open mind, courage, and willingness to change. YOU might just surprise yourself.

PurgeStart fresh. Clean out your closet. Have a garage sale. Get rid of clutter. Having a clean slate does wonders for your new stress reduced lifestyle. It’s like starting a new chapter in YOUR book. It doesn’t need to be spring to clean. Purge, baby, purge. There is enough mental chaos in your life, you don’t need environmental chaos either. And if you do decide to have an awesome garage sale and live in the Pittsburgh area, I will come buy your junk. 

BreatheCounting to 10 and breathing really does work! Use this practice in conjunction with a little inspirational chanting. Add in some aromatherapy and…hello relaxation! This isn’t just a plug for my love of Young Living essential oils. Aromatherapy is proven to be beneficial to reduce stress, mental strain, anxiety, depression, you name it. Lavender, Roman Chamomile, Clary Sage, Bergamot, and Lemon are only a few single oils that help. Young Living Blends such as Stress Away, Peace & Calming, Grounding, Joy, Valor, and Sara, are some of my favorite stress butt kickers. Diffuse, wear as a perfume, or apply with your favorite carrier oil behind ears, on neck, chest, and wrists. I wear a diffuser necklace. Sure, I may look silly sniffing a necklace, but it has been a godsend. Breathe in the lovely smells of freedom and leave your troubles behind.

Not only does taking care of ourselves make us better people so we can better serve those who need us most, but it keeps us healthy. Stress and tension can cause a number of unwanted health problems such as heart disease. We must find balance in an increasingly, over-stimulating world. 

Do not feel guilty for taking a much needed break from life’s demands. Ignoring your needs will have dangerous consequences. When you finally start to take care of yourself, improvements in all other aspects in your life will follow. 

There is no set prescription on how you do it. Whatever YOU, as an individual need, is what YOU need to do. And remember, if at first you don’t succeed, try and try again. Practice makes perfect, my friend. Just make that progress. YOU will thank YOURSELF. Those around you will thank YOU. The world will thank YOU in some shape and form. “You Care” will become your hero. 

Happy Self-Caring!