Why You Should Change Your Hair Style

Your hair is the crown you never take off, the best accessory you wear everyday, the epicenter of your external beauty people notice.

We change our clothes everyday. We adjust the style we wear with the event we are attending, if it’s a Netflix & Chill kind of day or if it’s a take on the town with the girls kind of night.

We don’t eat boiled chicken everyday. If we want spice, we order tacos (and margaritas.) If we want sweet, heck yes, we order cheesecake smothered in chocolate or berries or both.

When we are in a hair funk and feeling less than glorious with our mop, what should we do? CHANGE!

Hair was never meant to be static. Hair is hair that can be an array of colors, molded into numerous styles, and cut into sculptural masterpieces.

Investigate why and how your hair exudes beauty. How do you feel? Who even are you?

Change is good.

How many times have you changed your hair? Me? God, more times than I can count. I have been literally every color under the sun. I have had long, get stuck in my armpit hair and I have had pixie, shave the back of my head hair. I’ve styled it vintage, boho, rocker, & lazy. I mean I am a hairstylist so I may be bias. But, I love change.

According to a U.K. Study, a woman can change their hairstyle up to 104 times. Shit, even I am slacking (maybe). The study also found that women change their hair color at the very least 3 times and their cut on average twice a year.

But why do we have the burning desire to change our hair? And so often.

The ideal answer would be that we change to discover are uniquely true beautiful self. We finally find that perfect color, stunning length, and adorable style that accentuates all our best assets. I mean that’s the dream right? But when you find it, do you keep it forever and ever and never let it go?

Eh.

You change. Your life changes. Your body, face, & look change. And your hair follows foot. What was perfect then isn’t now. Hence why some of us change it a buttload of times. That edgy haircut your 18 year old rebel self may not be perfect for your now blank age we won’t discuss. The long, luxurious locks may be too difficult to tame with your now busy lifestyle.

Who you were yesterday is not who you are today. Who you are today will not be who you are tomorrow. So embrace change baby.

Word of caution though. Emotional changes need to be carefully thought out. Don’t go wacking off your locks because the d-bag broke up with you. Don’t go turning your platinum to black because you lost your job, your dog died, or your last friend had a baby and your about to be the old lady in the shoe with umpteen cats. Stop. Breathe. Think about it first. Don’t be going jumping out this hairstyle change plane without a parachute. Lucky for you, if you got a fantastic hairstylist, she’s flying tandem with you.

Life isn’t easy. (If you read my blogs, your probably like yea this poor girl got it real good this year.)

We all encounter conflicts, trials, & devastations. Sometimes, life just falls flat.

All those shitty, life-sucking events can drain out confidence. Once that pond is dried up, you kind of want to curl up with one of those umpteen cats with a pint (maybe 2) of Ben & Jerry’s, and go on strike from the adult world.

I get it.

We need a swift kick in the ass from the confidence boot. What better way than to book an appointment at a decadent salon (preferably mine… cough cough… Live Salon) and pamper your damn self. It is almost impossible to not walk out of there doing hair flips and feeling yourself.

Not only will you and your hair feel banging but you will more than likely receive a bazillion compliments from friends, family, and the lady behind you at Walmart.

A new ‘do can completely transform your image. Sometimes we just need to shed our skin and develop new. We change our jobs, we move, we redecorate our homes, we wear heels and we wear sneaks. Who wants to wear the same hairstyle we wore in our 4th grade pictures for the rest of our life? I sure as hell don’t. (Those pictures are hidden forever.)

“A women who changes her hair is about to change her life.” -Coco Chanel

Well said, Coco.

There are times we want to look sophisticated, sexy, professional, edgy, or gym-like. We wouldn’t go to an interview for a Fortune 500 company with a pink Mohawk nor would we go on a date with a hot man with a headband and sweaty bun. We transform when times call.

Needless to say, a new haircut is cheaper than redoing your kitchen or continuing to have that new car smell.

It is cheaper than botox. A new color or cut or even a minor style change can cut years off your looks.

Just because you are 60 does not mean you need to lop off your locks and go au naturel. That’s BS. Seeing an experienced stylist that can offer you advice on what would bring out the spring chicken in you would be a wise decision.

Life changing.

No seriously, a new ‘do can be life changing. Don’t laugh. It’s true.

At times we use our hair as our security blanket or body armor. We cling to it even when it doesn’t suit our truest self because it’s all we know. We don’t eat tomatoes because our parents hated tomatoes, but tomatoes are flipping delicious vegetables or fruits or whatever they are calling themselves these days.

Our attitude, personality, and inner beauty are all inextricably connected to our external style and ultimately our hair. Think of how badass, beautiful, and chatty you feel when you leave the salon and your appointment landed on your work’s holiday party compared to slinking into Walmart when you ran out of tampons in your jammies hoping you see like zero people you know.

I’ve seen grander stories happen- the shy girl who hid behind bangs and glasses suddenly walk around like her shit don’t stank because she went all platinum blonde ombré with her bad self or the 60 year old cancer survivor who wore ball caps and pony tails to cover the grey and thinness look in the mirror crying with her new brunette pixie not believing that she could look so beautiful again.

It happened. I saw it. And a simple hairstyle change can move mountains for you too.

How could you not want to wrestle in your own confidence, passion, or badassery? Do you not want to feel sexy, powerful, or perfectly feminine? To receive that unbelievable energy from a new hairstyle you have been dying to try is exhilarating.

Change your hair. Change you. Change the world.

Happy Transforming!

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The “Non-Mom” Struggles 

(Note: This was extremely hard to write and I will, I’m sure, offend someone. But, I needed to share this not only to further healing myself but to take a stand on a issue that is too quiet. I hope I can help just one person go through this struggle. I hope that I can be their voice. And maybe I can open the eyes of those on the other side.)


There are a few kinds of “Non-Moms”: Those Childless by Choice, Those Who Cannot Bear Children, And Those Struggling to Conceive. 

This blog is not particularly written for the “Childless by Choice”. You have already come to terms with your decision though I am sure some struggles arise for you as well. And maybe this blog will help you. Who knows? However, this is written for those of you who have had their motherhood dreams crushed or who were told the chances are small and for those trying every month to no avail. All non-moms-not-by-choice continue to go through the same trials. We are essentially living through what I call “The Great Mom Divide”. 

We are broken up into two completely separate groups: The Moms & The Non-Moms. At times, we might as well be in separate countries with the way the distance feels between us. Moms will be social with other moms. And us non-moms, well, our group grows smaller and smaller. 

The support group surrounding moms is large; non-moms, not so much. Think about it. Watch advertisements. There is even a National Holiday. There are groups and meetings. There is no voice for the non-mom sector of women. 

Well, here it is, I’ll say it. 

It sucks. 

It almost feels like your going through a long term bereavement, a never ending sense of mourning. Society has essentially made it seem like you have not “arrived” unless you have become a mother or that you have failed at the one job you were put on the earth to do which is to procreate. You lose your sense of womanhood. You mourn the loss of your friends. They have migrated to the more like-minded, birth-accomplished circle. They are no longer in your life like they used to be or like you think they should be still. You are mourning the sense of accomplishment. You may be a successful career woman or an an intellectual or a giver to the community. But, you have not given to the world a child for the future. And unfortunately, you may be mourning the loss of your relationship with your partner whether it be all together or the way it used to be. 

All those things that were once there are no longer or they are hanging on by a single thread. You feel alone. Childless women are a minority. They are sidelined by the Mommy Networks. Even the support you do end up getting sometimes isn’t the greatest either. You hear things like: 

“Don’t stress.”

“It will happen when it happens.”

Or you are given a list of suggestions of what to do and not do. 

Those suggestions are easier said than done and often unachievable. The stress is immense. We don’t know if it will happen. What if it doesn’t? 

And then we have social media. Pregnancy announcements and endless baby pics clutter our news feeds. 

I’m sure I can speak for most when I say: 

Listen. We are happy for you. However, tone it down. Remember, there are those looking at your elated baby pics and crying for what they cannot have or what they have lost. It’s a constant reminder. Be conscious. 

Their pictures get more likes than your announcement of a promotion or your picture of your cat. This is again when we start feeling like we’re being picked last for the dodgeball team. This is also when, through the tears, we hide you off our feeds. 

This shit sucks. (Excuse my French.) But let me tell you this, you are not alone. That is one thing I have found out for sure working with the public and being insanely candid about my life. There are people out there that you would never guess that went through similar situations. 

I can’t promise you your friends will ever come back. I can’t promise you it will be the same when they do. I can’t promise that you won’t hold a grudge when they return when you, in fact, conceive. 

I can’t promise you any of this will become easier. But what I can promise you is that you will survive. You will become strong. And I can promise you that good things will happen if you believe it. Maybe a baby isn’t in our future, but we will be blessed with something else truly amazing. 

And for those of you on the other side, here is a few words for you. 

Though we may not be mothers, we are people too. We matter. And if you think we don’t notice that you have come to only associate with other moms, we have. We have noticed your texting us has essentially disappeared. We have noticed you only share, comment on, and like other moms’ social media posts. We are there too, you know? 

Again, we are people too. You can say you had no idea that we felt this way because 1. We are out experiencing the wonders of the worlds and thought we were busy or 2. They have been so busy caring for their babies that they feel like they have no time to even shower let alone send “hi”via text. However, that picture you just posted showed you at the park with another mom friend says otherwise.

We all have emotions, the Moms and Non-Moms. I just hope maybe this makes a difference or just starts to narrow the Great Mom Divide. 

We want to be excited for little Timmy’s first steps, but you have to let us. We want you to be excited for our life too, but you have to be there. We don’t have to feel like lepers. You can be there for us too. It only takes a second to ask us how we are. Maybe we won’t open up right away, but it’s nice to know you are still apart of our cheerleading team. 

And though we may not have given birth, we can be mothers too. We have the power to be just as nurturing as those who are in your mom cliques. We would want to help you if you didn’t exclude us. If your too tired to reach out, call us we’ll come babysit while you nap. And please don’t think we can’t do or don’t trust us doing it. We are not morons because we haven’t pushed out a child.

It only pains us more to not be apart of your lives in the reality sense. We don’t want to only see your life from the light of a phone or computer screen. Let us use your children as our rent-a-kids to find some solace in our struggle. 

Don’t let us fall by the way side. Please. It’s hard enough fighting a war with fertility. We non-moms and moms can coincide on this Earth. We are women. We have plenty of other fights to conquer. Feel free to comment but remember, this is all a matter of opinion and personal experience. Please do not comment negativity. 

Happy Healing! Happy TTC! 

 

Make Today Your……

           

Bring it on, Baby!

Every day is a new day and how we start it is the most important. We all have heard the sayings:

Well, she woke up on the wrong side of the bed this morning!

Or….

Who pi$$ed in her Wheaties this morning?

Let’s not be those people, people! 

Now, grant it, we will have our bad days. We aren’t perfect. We are only mere humans. 

In this blog, I will share my daily routine (though it is not perfect) that encourages it to be as good as it can be through the use of hair & makeup products and essential oils. I am always happy to receive readers comments! So tell me your unique ways to make your day great!  

Yea, needless to say, I am not a pleasant person before my coffee. Please, do not talk to me for atleast 20 minutes and allow me to ready myself for the day’s adventures. Recently, I have found some morning boost with Young Living’s En-R-Gee Blend. The smell alone will put a little pep in your step. It’s strong. I’ll diffuse it in the bathroom while I get my act together or I have added it in my unscented lotion on days that I may need everything short of super powers. 

If you would see me in the morning, I look like a cross between a Q-tip and a cockatoo. It’s a bit ridiculous. So even on days that I pull out the Lazy Card, I still manage to pull my hair up in a messy bun… Or Top Knot when I want to sound fancy. Don’t over think the bun ladies! I know you do. Let me bring you in on a little tip: 

Lay on your bed and let you head hang off. Slowing glide your head onto the bed. This automatically smooths the underneath and brings your hair to the top of your head. Wrap it in your ponytail. Spread out the hair with your fingers to give the bun the fullness and look you want. 

Look at that…. Easy! 

On my extra special lazy days, I reach for a hat. Luckily for us, hats are hugely in style. Grab yourself an adorable fedora and no one will ever know your hair hasn’t been washed in 3 days. If it wasn’t for bronzer, brow pencil, mascara and most importantly, lipstick, my day could not start proper. Now, if you are anything like me, you are a lipstick hoarder… I mean, collector. My job requires me to wear black and black with splashes of black. Lipstick is my color! I switch which color I use daily to spice things up and brighten my mood. When I am feeling powerful, I break out that red lipstick! Nothing says GET IT like cherry red lips. When I am down in the dumps, I apply hot pink. When I’m feeling sassy, dark lips is the way to go. Play with lipstick, ladies! I mean, c’mon, there’s a bazillion colors out there waiting to be “collected”.After fixing my face and hair, I venture to my essential oil cabinet. Depending on how I want to conquer the day determines which oils I choose to use. However, I do add 1-2 drops of Cedarwood to my unscented lotion everyday. I have even added it to my hair cream, too. It is amazing for your skin and hair. It also opens your mind and relieves anxiety. Win win! 

If I am feeling extra motivated to conquer my work day in both the creative and business aspects, Live Your Passion blend is my must have. I will wear it as a perfume.

If I know I am going to have to muscle up some extra brain power, Clarity Blend is my go to. I have even added Peppermint to up the ante. Clarity is also great when it’s paired with En-R-Gee. These bad boys go right into my diffuser necklace. These scents are pretty strong and I am always awakened when they get wafted up towards my nose.It’s important to take care of yourself through the day as well. Take your vitamins, eat somewhat well, and drink your water. If it wasn’t for Young Living’s Citrus Fresh Blend, I would never drink a drop. Citrus Fresh also supports one’s immune system and helps cleanse and open your lymphatic system.

I also keep following oils close at bay:

  • Lavender- All hail to Lavender. Yup! It does everything. It is connected at the hip with me. 
  • Stress Away Blend- When a bump occurs in my good days’s road, this blend is my savior.
  • M-Grain Blend- I use this on my brows, temples, and base of head when I feel a stress or tension headache coming on. Migraines will ruin my day, so if I feel one coming one, I immediately grab this. When caught early enough, my migraine never rears it’s ugly head.

Please read through a lot of my past blogs to get more information on my favorite beauty products and tips, tricks, and advice on your hair & makeup and essential oil uses. 
End your day on a good note! Slip on those mismatching pjs, wipe away the day’s grime, and pour yourself some wine… Or tea or whatever it may be to soothe and relax you.

Figure out what allows you to decompress after the day’s adventures. Whether it be yoga, reading, crappy TV drama, or cuddling with your cats, do it! It’s important to decompress or believe me, you will be up all night thinking endlessly of what happened, what could have happened, what will happen…. STOP! After my pjs are on and before my butt hits the couch, I do my nightly routine. I’m setting myself up for my next great day! 

I remove my makeup and apply a night oil of Fractionated Coconut Oil and Frankincense. It keeps my face smooth and has amazing anti-aging capabilities. I then apply my lotion mixed with a drop of Cedarwood. Cedarwood also has been known to help with insomnia. Valerian Oil also aids in sleep. I massage this on my brain stem and behind ears. Young Living’s Release Blend over the liver allows you to rid yourself of negativity energy. Negativity energy is stored in your liver, resulting in not-so-good health and emotional stability. I like using this at night, because at the end of the day, it is just nice to let go.


In my diffuser, my new favorite concoction is a perfect blend of Cedarwood, Valerian, & Bergamot. All my cares drift away and sleep is warmly welcomed. 

On days that may have been extra hard, I will take a hot shower to relax my muscles, follow my oil routine, and in my diffuser I put SARA blend and spray Lavender on my bedding. The smell is intoxicating and my stress melts away. 

What’s your favorite diffuser recipe? 


Sleep is so essential to your next day being amazing. You need sleep to wake up, kick ass, & conquer the next day! 

Again, somedays we may fall. Somedays we may not look or feel our best. But if we can find a little bit of motivation whether it be in the form of a beauty routine or product, by a drop of an oil, or even a chant of inspiration.

Happy Making Your Day Whatever You Want It To Be!

Oil Love (Chapter 1) 

I know in this blog I normally talk only of hair and makeup. But, my new-found love of essential oils is worth sharing.

We have all heard about essential oils, especially with companies like Young Living (my personal favorite) becoming more and more of a household name.


Now, if you usually are a skeptic like me, you have probably already stopped reading and now went on to YouTubing cat videos. But if I still have you, I am telling you this IS a must-read.

Why did I turn to Essential Oils? 

I needed to find something to stop my husband from snoring or I would have to resort to smothering him with a pillow. And he was about to receive a CPAP machine, and soon I would be sleeping next to Bane. See the problem?

I was desperate. Thankfully a cousin of mine has been using Essential Oils for some time now and held a hands-on party. I sat there and listened to an overwhelming amount of information and smelled enough Essential Oils that I think I left there feeling relaxed yet energized. There are over 100 Essential Oils (at least) and numerous Blends. I think, honestly, that is what sold me. There was so much more to know, to try, and to have. It was beyond fascinating.  I listened to success stories from her and other family members and friends. Yup, I was sold! 

How did I start?

My suggestion to you would be… Start Small. Start off choosing one ailment to reconcile first and go from there.

Mine was my husband’s snoring. It was an ailment for the both of us.

We first used 1 drop of Vetiver massaged onto his big toe. Sound ridiculous, right? Well, I will tell you that his breathing was much better. There were still a few deeper breathing sounds, not necessarily snoring but more like he was still struggling. The second night, we added RC Blend mixed with Fractionated Coconut Oil and massaged that onto his chest and switch the Vetiver from the big toe to the pad right underneath of his toes. Guess what? It was a miracle! No snoring, no heavy breathing, and he didn’t wake up in the middle of the night. After a few nights of doing this, he even told me that he too was a believer. He’s the biggest skeptic in the world, so that definitely says something.

But what else could I fix? 

I have a 3 cats, one who has been struggling with skin issues for the past 2+ years. I had tried everything including countless drugs, supplements, and changing to hypoallergenic everything (including solely cleaning my house with stinky vinegar). I had opinions for 5 vets and had treated her for allergies of almost all kinds. She received countless steroid shots, antibiotics, and even an immuno-suppressant. Not only was I 2 grand deep in vet bills, but she was forced to live in an e-collar for the majority of this time.


At the time that my fur baby was on the harsh immuno-suppressant, I was also told to treat her for Mange. After treating her once a week for 3 weeks and noticing even more hair loss and scabbing, I did more research. When a cat has a weakened immune system, Mites and Mange will wreck havoc. So let me get this straight… I am suppressing her immune system AND expecting her to be cured of Mange? Something wasn’t right there.

She was miserable. I was miserable. My husband was miserable because I was miserable. It was not a happy home.

I stopped the immuno-suppressant immediately and the harsh chemical bug killer, and resorted to Essential Oils.

Now, cats are extremely sensitive to Essential Oils and a lot of them are toxic to them. I did extensive research and finally found a DIY Blend that I thought would be safe and hopefully effective.

I mixed 1 drop Lavendar and 1 drop Roman Chamomile with about 25-30 drops of Fractionated Coconut Oil to heavily dilute the blend for safety purposes. I rubbed this on all affected areas once a day. After about a week, her itching subsided, her skin started to return to a healthy pinkish-white, and the scabs started to heal. She became less lethargic and came out to see us more. Needless to say, my hope is restored in her recovery.

Though she is not fully healed nor cured yet, I am for sure continuing this treatment. And it doesn’t hurt that she smells fantastic.

I have also switched cleaning with vinegar to cleaning with Young Living Thieves Cleaner. This too is an all natural cleaning alternative and… OMG! It smells amazing! The smell of Clove, Cinnamon, Lemon, Eucalyptus, and Rosemary is way better than sour, bitter, and down right stinky vinegar cleaner.

Are you a believer yet?

You can find out more information on Young Living Essential Oils by visiting their website:


If you want to become a Young Living Member and purchase a starter kit featuring their Top Basic Oils, you may do so by purchasing through the website by using my Distributor Number (3904250) in the Enroller and Sponsor ID Section.

You may still purchase oils without becoming a member by choosing the Retail Customer option. But believe you me, becoming a member is worth it.

Now I’m done sounding like a used car salesman. You will believe it when you see it, smell it, and feel it.

I will continue to share my Oil Love stories which if I haven’t grabbed you now… I will later.

Stay tuned for Chapter 2.

Happy Oiling!


Hair Care When Piggy is Strapped 


Contrary to popular belief, you can have fabulous locks even when your poor piggy bank is strapped. However, there are always stipulations and of course, reality.

Let’s talk haircuts. 

First and foremost, if you keep your hair healthy, the less haircuts you will need. Keep heat to a minimum. Let me tell you this, no one needs to put 450 degrees on their poor hair strands. Whether you have 5 hairs on your head or a mane as thick as a lion, stop it right now. Turn that flat iron down to 350-375 degrees and take smaller sections to heat thoroughly and safely. Sure, it may take you a whopping 10 minutes longer, but your hair won’t be so mad at you. Also, quit the addiction to your hot tools. Listen, it’s okay to let you natural locks free, especially in the summer. But if you must, always use protection. In addition to turning down the heat, use a heat protectant prior to coming at it with a raging hot iron. Redken’s Iron Shape is an incredible option and does not leave a product feel in the hair. A little will go a long way making your hair and wallet very happy.

If you are one to always have your hair in a pony or headband, make sure they are not super tight. They will cut your hair only causing even more damage, splitting the hair where the bands are. Which then, in turn, will only make you think you need to flat iron those fly-always even more, upping the horrific devastation. The war will never be won that way.

Healthy Hair = Less Haircuts = Happy Piggy 

Now, choosing a hair cut style that is congruent with your budget is also important. That trendy undercut or asymmetrical bob will need shaping more often. If you are working with a strapped piggy bank, a smart decision may be to choose a lower maintenance style.


This goes for hair color as well. 

If you have black hair naturally and want to color your hair platinum or you have tons of grey and color your hair dark, obviously your stylist will need to see you much more often, a maximum of every 4 weeks. If you are working on a budget, it would be smart to talk to your stylist on a more wallet-friendly hair color.
Luckily, trends such as ombré and balayage allow you to push appointments farther since these trends already give the illusion of regrowth or “roots”. Or if you are one to receive all-over-color or root-touch-ups as well as highlights in the same visit, think of alternating these services at your appointments. For instance, Visit 1, you receive both services, and at Visit 2, you solely touch-up the regrowth with color. This way you are saving pennies at every other appointment.

Intelligent Choice of Color = Fuller Piggy

It is also paramount to do everything you can to conserve your color between each appointment. If you are not caring for your hair, you can kiss your color and your money goodbye. One will spend tons of money on a professional hair color and then use a cheap drugstore shampoo only stripping it out of their hair. Is this really saving money? Using professional-grade, salon-quality products and keeping heat use to a minimum, you will further safeguard your color.

It starts in the shower. 

Let me reiterate, buying cheap drug store products, especially box color, will NOT save you money. $6 box hair color turn screw up will cost you hundreds of dollars in corrective color at the salon, and those Pantenes and Suaves will cost you more in the amount of color appointments needed.

I will refer you now to a few past blogs I have written regarding these No-Nos before I go into a tangent.

But to sum up quickly, why drugstore products are bad, bad, bad…

They are filled with sulfates (salts), parabens (preservatives), silicones, and to top it off, primarily water. If this sounds bad, it’s because it is. Please read those past blogs.

Drugstore Products = BAD NEWS = Sad Hair and an even Sadder Piggy

Sure, professional-grade, salon-quality products may cost you more initially, but they will last you longer, save the integrity of your hair, and lengthen the lifespan of your color. Pureology, for example, prides themselves on being 100% vegan, containing zero-sulfates, anti-fade complexes, and very little water, lasting 60 shampoos. Now that sounds incredible, right?

Professional Products = Happy Hair = Pleased Piggy

I can hear you saying… But I still can’t afford it!

Okay, let’s think on this. Your hair is the accessory you never take off, your forever crown, and not to mention what people see when they, in fact, look at your face. I understand we all have our vices, some it may be shoes or handbags that we throw on the disgusting bathroom floor. There is no judgement here, but think about it. Maybe it’s okay to spend a little bit more to one, have your hair done correctly, and two, that suits you and your bank account best.


It is always important to keep in check with reality. Make sure you have realistic expectations with your hair that match your financials. And for heaven’s sake, care for your hair like you would a newborn child.

Questions and Comments are always welcome. Please stay tuned for next blog on holistic avenues in hair products. (This does not mean substitutes, but more as in new additions to your now fantastic routine.)
Happy Savings! 

Bring In Fall With A Kiss… And Dark Lips

I love, love, LOVE lipstick. I never leave home without it. Fall is one of my favorite seasons for lipstick since I can break out those dark, sultry tones. Nothing says “HELLO!” like sexy, can’t-wait-to-be-kissed lips. So hello fall. My lips (and his) thank you.

You CAN wear dark lipstick. No matter what skin tone or hair color you have, anyone can pull it off. Of course there are a few key points to keep in mind.

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1. Remember, if you are going to do a bold lip, keep eyes soft and minimal. My favorite look is a simple gold shimmer shadow with only mascara and a deep burgundy lip. You will look like you walked straight off the runway.

2. Know your skin tone and underlying pigment. (Please refer to my blog Undertones… De-Mystified)

3. When it comes to those burgundy shades, there are 4 tonal differences to keep in mind: pink, brown, blue, and red.

If you are light-eyed, a pink-based burgundy will make your eyes pop. (Deep Mauve or Rose may be your color.)

If you have dark eyes, use a brown-based shade. The honey in your eyes will be greatly accentuated. (Cherrywood can have hints of brown in the shade)

Blue-based burgundy looks fantastic with all eye colors. Keep the tone rich if you have a neutral, olive, or warm skin tone and muted for lighter or cool skin tones. (Plum is a delicious example of a blue-based burgundy)

Burgundy with a red base will balance out brunettes and they will be able to support the shade. (Think of this as a vampy red)

4. Take them for a test drive. Whether you are at the salon or department store, swipe the color on a white tissue. If you like the shade, try it on. Take a cotton swab and run it across the lipstick. Use the cotton swab to apply it to your lips. Does the color brighten you up or does it make you look sleepy? If the shades lightens you up, that is the one. Now rock it.

5. Lipstick first, then liner. Darker shades can be even messier than red. Apply the lipstick first keeping away from the outer edges. Blot. Now use a matching or only slightly darker liner to outline your lips. Nude liner will work too. Reapply your lipstick remembering to color within the lines.

6. Skip the lip gloss. Dark lips do not need any help in the attention department. Lip gloss can tend to make darker colors bleed. But if you must gloss, only apply a dot of it to the very center of your bottom lip.

7. Rock them. Exude confidence when wearing dark lips. Walk around like you own the place. Having confidence is even sexier than just the lipstick.

Happy Fall!

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Say No To The Box

I have clients who still use box hair color. I understand that sometimes financials get in the way of awesome hair, but when your head is obviously your most worn accessory, it is not to be skimped on. I know color forwards and backwards and I am here to educate you on the significant reasons of why you should not use box hair color. I will also give you less expensive ways to get custom professional color at the salon. You don’t have to always break the bank to look fabulous, but you do not have to go cheap either.

1. One Size Does Not Fit All

One size fits all jeans do not exist in real life and neither does hair color. Jeans that fit a size 4 will not fit a size 14. A box hair color blonde may work on your sister who is already blonde but may turn orange and brassy on your locks.

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As a hairstylist, we take so many factors in when customizing a color just for you. Not only do we take your physical features into mind but we also utilize the correct chemistry to determine the developer that should be used.

Most box hair colors use a 12% developer, meaning it is creating only little lift and then deposit making it 100% impossible for brown hair to become blonde. It also results in “hot roots”. Brown box hair color will appear to have a red or warm tint at roots because it was not meant to be lifted to reveal that underlying pigment. And of course, the number one hair rule, color does not lift color. If you have dyed your hair dark brown and now want to be even a light honey brown, forget it. Sure your regrowth may turn out perfect, but your ends won’t budge.

2. Color Must Be Customize

Like I said, stylists take many factors into consideration when customizing your hair color.
-Natural & Underlying Pigment
-Level of Gray (if any)
-Previous Chemical Services
-Porosity or Damage of Hair
-Skin Tone
-Level of Lift or Deposit

You hair stylist will then determine the type of hair color to use and the correct amount of lift needed. You are not given these options when you use box color at home.

3. Semi, Demi, & Permanent Face Off

Some box colors claim they “last 30 washes” but do they really? In a salon, there are significant difference between these types if hair colors. A box cannot tell you which one is correct for you to use.

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4. Step Away From The Bottle

If you want dimension, a bottle will not give you that. I don’t care that the box says it is “multi-faceted”, there is absolutely no way one bottle can create depth and highlights at the same time.

The only way dimension can be achieved is professionally. We can see where your hair falls, strategically place foils, balayage, etc. You do not see box hair color magically growing a pair of eyes or hands to do that, do you?

5. Straw-Like Hair

This agitates me to no end. Clients now are convinced that ALL hair color leads to straw-like hair texture. This huge misconception has now led to an uneducated public.

Box hair colors are still using Metallic Salts from the 1800’s. Really? Way to evolve. These will continually build up on the hair which will darken your hair way past the desired result. And god forbid you ever want to go lighter. Even an experienced stylist will have difficulty lifting that.

The ammonia level is devastating in box color. It will irreversibly change the pH level of your hair and its corrosive tendency will blast open the cuticle of the hair shaft. An unclosed cuticle only means major damage, split ends, and the inability to lock in color.

All this leads me to my next point…

6. Hair Cuts

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All the damage the $10 box causes will eventually lead to an unwanted hair cut. There is no way to rid your hair of split ends except for a hair cut. And the damage will probably become so severe that there is no amount of deep conditioner that can repair it. So you can say good-bye to your long locks.

Also, you will spend close to $40 on a fabulous hair cut to only ruin it when you go home and use box hair color. You wouldn’t put $40 bucks in a garbage disposal would you?

7. Caps, Highlighting Combs, and Ombre Kits = Disaster Waiting To Happen

Don’t be foolish! If you are not ready to spend $300 to correct these, do NOT spend $10 on any one of these at-home kits. You will either end up looking like a cheetah or a zebra or like someone threw up on your head (sorry). These are just bad, bad, BAD news. So just don’t.

8. Advertising Celebrities

Do you really think Eva Longoria really uses box hair color? NO!

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Enough said.

9. Box Formulas May Change

Box hair color are massed produced by manufacturers and the formulas may change. So that honey brown you have been using may not be so honey the next time you use it.

Professional formulas do not change. If a stylist creates that honey brown for you, she keeps that formula in your file so that next time you come in she can touch up only your regrowth with that formula to avoid over depositing and can use a different formula to refresh your ends. How’s that for consistency and customizing?

10. You Are Worth More

You are better than average or far-below-average hair. We all have those designer shoes, bags, or gems, why not have designer hair?

If you are dead set on using box hair color then so be it and we will let you be. But, we are here to advise you on only what is best for you and the integrity of your hair.

You have a beautiful personality. Your exterior should match so that you can just ooze beauty and confidence.


 

Now, if you have chosen to finally take the professional route, how can you keep your piggy bank from crying?

Take it slow. If you are going for a major change, take baby steps. Your wallet won’t take a major hit all at once. And do realize it may take more than one visit to achieve the wanted results anyhow. When you have been using box color, the stylist has a hard time predicting what the lightener may lift to. Plus, we should protect the integrity of the hair.

For those of you who have those stubborn grays. Try highlights! The regrowth will be much less noticeable allowing you to get away with color services less often.

If you get the works done including color, highlights, and a hair cut, think about alternating services. For instance, on the one visit, do all 3. Maybe the next time just do the base color at the regrowth and a clear shine on ends to give them life. Then repeat the first visit on the third appointment.

Pick a low-maintenance color. Reds are hot, I know, but they require more often appointments since they tend to lose their vibrancy.

And no matter what, use professional color-safe products. You finally made your hair designer quality, treat it right. You wouldn’t throw your Coach purse on the bathroom floor, would you? You just invested in your hair, don’t strip it and ruin it by using cheap products.

Happy Coloring!