The Relationship With Your Stylist

For many people, men & women, the bond with a hair stylist is the most important “service” relationship of their lives. This relationship may stand the tests of time, lasting longer than friendships, jobs and even marriages.

You see them before (and after) big events & important times in your lives: weddings, new careers, births of babies, graduations, etc, etc. They see you through the bumps in the roads including break ups, funerals, losses of pets, and again, etc, etc. 

They become your closest friend without the ties. They see you at your worst and at your best. They make you feel better on the inside and out. You are in 100% infull contact with your hair stylist. 

The two main people you tell all your secrets to is your bar tender and hair dresser. 

As a hair dresser, I appreciate the fact that my clients open up to me, and I to them. It builds rapport and trust. 
With trust, my clients are not only able to be honest about their lives but also honest with what they want to achieve with their looks. 

What you feel on the inside will exude on the outside. I know that if my clients are having a bad day to spend a little extra time with the head massage and offer special styling at the end of the service. I don’t care if they are just going home to clean. They will clean up toys and do dishes looking like a super model. And guarenteed they feel even the smallest bit better on the inside.

With trust, my client’s expect me to give them my best professional opinion or ideas. They are then able to sit in my chair and actually relax. At home and work, they make all the decisions. Within the salon, they can be sure I will make the best decision for them and they will be comfortable with the results. 

It’s all about the experience. And excellence in service should be the way of life of a hairstylist. 


Love your clients as much as they love you. 

And women, find a stylist that you “connect” with. 

Happy being happy in and behind the chair! 

When the Weather (not the hair) is Frightful


Blah… it’s winter. 

While the season is perfect to get comfortable with a cup of hot cocoa, Netflix, & your cat, you can’t ignore the fact that the dry, dreary, plain yucky weather can wreak havoc on your hair. Don’t fret! There are plenty of ways you can protect your hair from the dreaded weather. 

Your hair starts to become more difficult to retain moisture, making it dry, brittle, and prone to breakage and damage, not to mention the frizz and static that often comes (though doesn’t go) with your winter wardrobe. However, these are all problems that can be avoided as long as you have the right hair care routine for winter. Don’t let your hair fall victim to the winter blues too! When Snowflakes Fall… From Your Scalp

Your scalp is drier and itchier than ever during the winter months because of the lack of moisture in the air. This is why your poor skin in dry and it seems you have to bathe with lotion. It leads to issues like dandruff and scalp irritation, which can lead to hair loss in severe cases. What most people don’t realize is that the dandruff problem can be manageable with the right care and a little love. 

Pureology Hydrate Shampoo & Conditioner (The Peppermint, Sage, & Rosemary create a cooling, invigorating feeling on your scalp relieving it of the itch and flakes.)

Redken Scalp Relief (This has powerful ingredients such as Zinc to relieve the agitation of the dryness and itch.)

Young Living Rosemary & Lavender Essential Oils (Mix with Coconut Oil as a mask or make a mist with distilled water & witch hazel for natural relief.) 2 Gifts Not Wanted for Christmas… Frizz & Static

One of the most annoying things about winter is all of the static and frizz. The hoodies, sweater, scarves, gloves, and beanies all seem to gang up on your hair, like your older aunts and grandmas wanting to smooch you at your holiday gatherings. To tackle this, wash your hair only with lukewarm water, NOT hot water, as the latter will strip away the natural oils and blow open the cuticle that protect and nourish your hair. Apply a leave-in conditioner or frizz fighting serum or lotion to keep your hair smooth.

Pureology Colour Fanatic Multi-Tasking Hair Beautifier (This provides 21 benefits including static reducing and frizz fighting.)

Redken Frizz Dismiss Regimen (My ultimate favorite for all hair types since it is customizable. It also includes “dryer” sheets for your hair to tame the frizz on the run.)

Young Living Sandalwood with Almond Oil as a serum is a natural and fantastic way to fight frizz. Shine Bright like a Diamond Pendent Your Husband Should Have Bought You (Instead of the Blender) 

The lack of moisture in winter not only dries out your scalp and makes your hair frizzy, but also leaves your hair looking dull, lifeless, as a blah. Ask your stylists about conditioning shine treatments such as a Redken Shades EQ Gloss. 

Pureology Shine Max (This serum adds light reflecting shine while making your hair soft and luxurious. This also tames stray fly aways without making you look like a grease pit.)

Redken Diamond Oil Pillow Proof Glow Dry (Honest to God, this is hair crack. Now only does it add insane shine without the weight of an oil, it protects against heat and blow dries your hair 50% faster.)

Honey with Young Living Roman Chamomile Essential Oil (Honey is a humectant that seals in the moisture and helps restore shine to dull and damaged hair. Roman Chamomile soothes scalp and adds softness to hair strands. Leave on for 30 minutes and rinse well.)Get Warm (With Cocoa, a Blankie, & Hair Mask)

Ensure your follicles get all the nourishment and love you can give them by warming them up a tad. Throw on your slippers, relax and moisturize your hair under a cap. Purchase a cheap shower cap at the dollar store and allow it to work wonders. Putting one on while deep conditioning will trap the heat, open the cuticle, and allow the conditioner to deeply penetrate the hair shaft.

Pureology Precious Oil Softening Hair Masque (This intensely moisturizes with Sunflower & Coconut Oil.)

Redken Diamond Oil Deep Facets Intensive Treatment Mask (This provides intensive nourishment and provides a protective layer of oils to help prevent damage.)

Warmed Olive Oil & Young Living Geranium (Smell fantastic while naturally giving your hair some much needed love.)Keep Your Hair Cool… Not Hot

Scorching hot water in the shower may feel great on a cold winter’s morning but you are causing more harm than good. Your skin and hair loses all it natural oils and your pores and hair cuticles remains open. Lock in moisture by rinsing with warm to cool, NOT hot. Fun tip: Apply a thin layer of coconut oil to your skin (and hair if your hair is thick and course) before rinsing. Your skin will remain silky and soft. Also, blow dry your hair on low or medium heat. Let’s take just 5 more minutes in the morning. It’s not that bad… and I promise you, you’ll thank me. Plus, it’s more time to hide from your kids and husbands. Towels and Hats and Friction… OH MY!

Rubbing your hair with a towel when you get out of the shower can cause some serious breakage. Your hair is at its weakest state when it is wet. Blot and squeeze the excess water out. Hats are another culprit for breakage. I get it, it’s freaking cold and we need hats-plain and simple. However, taking them on and off can cause friction, breakage, and horrible static. Try putting a silk bandana in the hat or wrapping a silk scarf around your head first before adorning your cute winter hat. Add Some Color to the Gray & Drab 

Spice up your look with a new color. Don’t go drastic since lord knows you will change your mind come spring. However, a little makeover does wonders for our mood. While your at it, treat yourself to a mani/pedi…. and maybe a glass of champagne. Apply some Young Living Stress Away or Peace & Calming and just relax. 


Happy Winter my little snowflakes! Be as unique as they are! 

The Adventures of Marlena’s Hair Has Continued! 

Listen, this girl has given me a challenge of a lifetime. It has taken, what it feels like a gazillion processes to achieve what I like to think of as a complete and utter miracle. 

Marlena has called me her “Hair Angel Sent From Heaven”. I don’t know if I would go that far, but I was a bit of a miracle worker. (Pat on the back for me!) 

If you are new to The Adventures of Marlena’s Hair, click below to read the whole story. It is a must to really feel the whole effect of this miraculous creation. 

Read Me! Read Me!

After achieving what I thought was success, of course she couldn’t stop there. This is the glory and horror of our profession. We have a rainbow of colors and a plethora of shears on hand and dangerously creative minds that shoot out endless ideas like a machine gun. 

Let us take a look at what we had achieved. Pretty darn amazing figuring we came from the blue from hell. I know pretty incredible!!!!!! 

Marlena then decided to cut her hair and I mean cut. All that work and we wack it off. Though, her hair felt amazing even after the bazillion processes, a good haircut wasn’t a bad idea. To top it off, it is pretty cute. 

But let’s add one more task to make my life harder. How about going blonder? 

Whoa is me! 

I knew that green was going to rear it’s ugly head again. Luckily, these are times I love my job. It’s exhilarating to have a challenge. Minor note: I love insane challenges only when the person I am servicing understands the process is unpredictable… as well as the cost. Anything is possible with time, patience, trust, and a full wallet. 

After some major fading and a clarifying treatment, here is what I had to work with:

I started by weaving thin highlights of Lightener throughout her entire head root to end. Between the foils, I toned some of the sage green with a light red orange. I let her sit for about a half hour only to save the integrity of her hair. 

After rinsing and blow drying, we were left with a too warm of root and mint green and yellow blonde ends. I wish I had a picture. 

This is again when the fun part starts. Formulating. This is when I had to come up with one color for the root area and one for the ends and have them both blend and match. 

For the root, I used a Level 7 Mocha. I love the Mochas in Redken Shades EQ Cream. They are a cool warm and just beautiful. For the ends, I used the same light red orange as before. 

The root color turned out gorgeous. However, to my dismay, the ends did nothing but look like crud. 

Time for the thinking cap and reassurance from another stylist. I remembered a formula for a Rose Gold I did on a client recently. What the hell? What could it hurt? With a more pigmented red, maybe the green would finally cancel out. I mixed a Level 5 red violet with a light titanium with clear and processed for 5-8 minutes all at the same time doing a lot of praying. 

After checking to make sure most of the green was neutralized, I rinsed. 

After blow drying even just one section, I was jumping for joy. SUCCESS! 

Holy crap was it perfectly beautiful?Check it out!  Eeeeeeek! I am so excited! I couldn’t have asked for a better turnout! I mean come one, look what we did! A miracle I tell you! 

Let us review: What will we do next! Stay tuned!!

Happy Changing Your Color and Praying at the Same Time! 

The Adventures of Marlena’s Hair


Oooooooo, Color Corrections, I have a love/hate relationship with them. 

This is Marlena before: Her brief hair history includes: 

Her midshaft to ends were pre lightened to a platinum blonde. Over that she decided to do the following:

  • Joico Cobalt Blue- Once
  • Joico Mermaid Blue- Once
  • Paul Mitchell Pop XG Blue- Once

Miss Marlena, of course, wanted the blue/teal out and to achieve a look like this……Yay

Now, Marlena is a new addition to our team at Salon Boutique, so she knows the ins and outs of the process. Thank God! And that patience is a virtue. But, I am always determined to deliver. 

My first step was Malibu Direct Dye Lifter with 20 volume devoloper and left on for 45 minutes. This was my hero during The Adventures of Megan’s Hair. I applied this mid shaft to ends. Here’s the results: 

After shampooing and blowing drying…. Ugh. Blue! Why do you have to be the devil? Ladies, listen. Pinks and Purples are way easier to lift out. Blue, Teal, Green, and even red are the absolute worst. THE WORST!

It lifted slightly. Notice the green rearing it’s ugly head? I know it ate through at least the first layer of the blue/teal, but it wasn’t enough. 

Next, I applied Redken Flash Lift Lightener and 30 volume developer. After 30 minutes, I shampooed. Trying to save the integrity of her hair, I did not want to leave this on past a half hour. And the lovely results: 

Yuck. We made jokes about it looking like a swamp. It had to go.

After searching the Internet of other ways to lift fashion colors, I found a suggestion to use Redken Color Fusion Clear and 30 volume peroxide. 

Oh, what the hell? Might as well use the new girl at the salon as a guinea pig, right? She’s a trooper.

I applied it and put her under dryer with a cap. I checked her after 15 minutes. It wasn’t looking like it was budging so we shampooed yet again. Here are those results: 

However, now that I am writing this blog and manipulating these lovely photo collages, there is a noticeable difference after the Clear process. I wish more would have come out!!!!! However, this was the hand I was dealt. The other stylists kept asking me… “What’s you’re next step?” Literally, I had no idea. But if anyone could give her the look she wanted, I knew I could do it.

Don’t worry. At times, Color Corrections can sometimes make me feel completely stupid. Remember though, when in doubt go back to your roots and remember Basic Color Theory.

What cancels out Green? What is on the opposite end of the color wheel from Green? 

RED. 

I applied a Level 7 Copper Red and prayed. Sometimes, Color Corrections are a whole lot of praying to Jesus and hoping for the best. 

It immediately started to grab. Thank the Lord! I watched it closely and when all green seemed to be cancelled out I shampooed. 

This is when I decided that Miss Marlena’s hair needed a breather. It was a livable color (for now), and not to mention, my brain needed a break. 

I styled her pretty and both her and I were satisfied with the results. 

What a difference! Grant it, not exactly the look we were going for but I already knew the next game plan. But remember, patience is a virtue. (Repeat that mantra during Color Corrections. Trust me. You need it.) 

After a few days we would take the next step. But, here is the journey so far: 

5 days later……..

We came back for Round 2. After obvious shampoos, it looked, well, quite nasty. Thank god for high buns! Yucky!

My next steps were to blend the root to remove the harsh line using a Level 4 Mocha and pull through a Level 6 Warm Mocha mixed with a Level 6 Intense Copper. I also decided to lift some pieces a little more. 

I also prayed for the best. Positive thinking, right? 

Well, the Mocha was gorgeous. The lightened pieces however were literally mint green. 

At the sink, I had a crazy idea. What if I put straight Pravana Vivids Orange in it? What’s the worse thing that can happen? 

Shame on me for not having a few pictures to mark this progress, but the Vivid Orange was a little too vivid. On a good note, the green was pretty much gone besides a few strands. 

To tone down the brightness, I used a Level 7 Neutral Warm mixed with a Level 7 Neutral Brown. 

Much better. 

See…We are so close! With time and patience we will achieve the look she wants. Though, I am going to give myself a little pat on the back. This was a pretty job well done. A total of 8 hours and 7 processes later, we have achieved not only normality, but a gorgeous look. And OMG, so stinking close! 

Let us review. Stay tuned for what is to come next! I already know my next game plan! But for now, let’s give not only Marlena’s hair a break, but also you a bit of a breather from reading this blog. 

Happy Color-Correcting! …. or not 

Things Your Stylist Wants You to Know & Understand … Elaborated

This was one of my first blogs I wrote for this website. I am sharing the Original Posting to elaborate and further stress some aspects so that you, as a client, can better understand.1. We love when you bring in photos, BUT only when they are realistic. When looking at hair inspiration, keep in mind what is feasible. Does the model have the same hair type, meaning is it fine or thick? If you have finer hair, we cannot make you look like Kim Kardashian without having to actually add hair to your head. Color is a whole other animal. If you have continually dyed your hair dark, those light blonde ombres are not an easy task. Lightener has to eat through all those layers of color and may require several appointments. Keep realistic expectations when bringing in photos to your stylist. We are beauticians not magicians.

  • Elaboration: A good stylist will have a proper consultation and will be honest of what it will take to achieve your desired look or if it is even possible due to certain factors such as hair type, lifestyle, previous chemical services, and/or integrity of your hair. If we fully discuss the possible outcomes and you still decide to go through service, that decision was yours and yours only. Please do not punish the stylist if they didn’t create miracles. 

2. There is no such thing as a “wash and wear” hairstyle. We can definitely achieve a low maintenance look, however, no maintenance is impossible. All hairstyles require some sort of product and finagling whether it be just combing or a little fluffing.

  • Elaboration: Again, one should know this already after a proper consultation and reminded during the finishing time. 

3. Count how many products we use. So many people say, “I can’t do anything with my hair” and when we ask what kind of products you use and you say, “none”, that is why. You will never be able to recreate the same look nor feel if you aren’t using products. And take this for an example, how many black heels do you own? Not all black shoes go with the same outfit. This means you may need a few “wardrobes” of hair products for different looks.

  • Elaboration: Home care is of the upmost importance. You visit the doctor when you are sick. Do you only go to the appointment and not pick up the prescription? So not only are hair products important to style your hair correctly for the desired look, but it is the “medicine” for your hair. If you color your hair, use any heat, or if your head sees any sort of light of day, YOUR HAIR NEEDS MEDICINE IN THE FORM OF HAIR PRODUCTS. If you choose not to, we cannot be held accountable for the failing integrity of your hair, fading of color, or any other unwanted hair problems.

4. Do not change your color drastically too frequent. You hair is not a cat. It does not have 9 lives.

  • Elaboration: If you choose to do this, note that there are several factors that should be considered. With a proper consultation, you will be made well aware of the process this will take, the possible outcomes, and the take-home hair care that will be required. (Please refer to my previous blog Bleach… The Good… The Bad… And Oh-So Pretty. Do not past go nor collect $100 dollars without reading that. Listen, we are professionals and we use our best judgement on what is not only feasible but what is SAFE for your hair. 

5. For color appointments please come with clean, dry hair. Color is more easily absorbed when it doesn’t have gunk and buildup to get through. And if we have to blow dry you before your color, we will charge you more for the added time and effort on our part.

6. If we tell you “no” or that will fry your hair, listen to us. You are our walking advertisements, we obviously do not want you advertising frazzled hair. Trust us, we are only looking out for the integrity of your hair. However, if you must proceed, please budget for a deep conditioner. You will need it.

  • Elaboration: Please do not act surprised or be upset if a process takes a little longer than expected. We cannot predict the future. Do not blame us for unwanted outcomes if you were not fully honest with us. A stylist/ client relationship is just like any other relationship. It is built on trust and communication. Think of how upset you get at your significant other for “not listening”. Now what if they blamed you for them not listening? That would be pretty crappy. You put trust into your stylist just as I trust in my clients to listen to my opinions and suggestions. We trust one another based on communication. Now some of the stuff your stylist may tell you might not exactly be what you want to hear just like our significant others don’t want to hear half the things we say, however, we are professionals and what we say really does matter.

7. Do not blame us for giving you what you wanted. If you asked to go platinum blonde then realized you look much better as a brunette, we have to charge you. If you hate your new bangs, please don’t hate us. We only want to make you happy and beautiful. We live to please.

  • Elaboration: The bang thing is a killer. If you want them and get them and hate them, not our fault. Period. Enough said.

8. Split ends cannot be mended. Hair products cannot fuse hair together. There are products that will calm and smooth the fuzz, but the only thing that will get rid of split ends is a trim. 

  • Elaboration: Get a trim more than once a year people. If you wonder why your hair does not grow, it’s because it’s breaking off. Your hair grows from the root in the scalp and unless you have alopecia (balding), your hair grows. If it’s crispy at ends, it’ll snap like a toothpick. Even if it is a dusting of the ends, do it. I hate hair cuts too but also hate the Gyno. I still have to go.

9. Salon products are better than Walmart’s and even though they may seem more costly, buy them. Why? Chemists. High end brands pay high-end bucks to chemists to create our luxurious products. Pantene, Pert, and Prauve are just cheap knockoffs with cheap ingredients. 

  • Elaboration: Please refer to my previous blogs: #1 Hair Rule to fully understand why drugstore products are bad, bad, BAD! & What is Diversion? to find out why buying even professional name brand products from drugstores is the worst of the worst of hair sins.

10. Bleach is not as scary as you think. Many clients are terrified of bleach due to its so-called damaging effects. Bleach is only damaging when overlapped. Be honest with your hairstylist if you have had highlights or lightener in the past, even if you are brunette now. If your is long and you had highlights even two years ago, the lightener still lives on your ends.

  • Elaboration: I should have stated that there are several factors that compromise the integrity of your hair when using bleach and may result in some not-so-awesome results. Heat damage, box color, medication, previous chemical services even years ago may affect the outcome. Again, please be honest. Believe me, we will know and soon you will be reminded of the dishonestly. I want to give you an example: A client tells her stylist that she has no color in her hair. The stylist performs a highlight service. Once pulling out the client’s foils, she notices 2 inches of blonde then to her surprise 4 inches of red. Hmmmmmmm, obviously the last 4 inches had to of been previously colored and colored dark or red. And if that hair is gummy, then guarenteed boxed “devil” color was used. Now who are you going to be mad at? This circumstance also happens when purposely lifting dark previously colored hair. This is when toning comes into play. Blonde will not be achievable. But a pretty color will be atleast until the next visit. Be patient (and kind) my friend. We can only do so much without a magic wand.

11. We hate no-shows. If you need to reschedule an appointment or just cannot come in, please call us. We are not going to yell at you and this gives us the opportunity to fill your spot. Many of us work on commission. Without a booty in our chair we have no paycheck.

  • Elaboration: Please don’t stand us up. You are our hot date for the time of the visit. We love you, we want to spend time with you, we want to serve you, we get sad if we don’t get to. And if you are going to be late, give us a heads up and be courteous of our other guests with scheduled appointments. 

12. We would rather fix our mistake than you go elsewhere. You are not going to offend us if you are unhappy with something. Again, we live to please. We want you to be happy. It is devastating to us emotionally and financially when you go around talking about how unhappy you are with us and our work. Please let us know. We can only grow from our mistakes and if we don’t know, we can’t fix it.

  • Elaboration: We will refund your money when we see fit or if we just don’t want to argue. Sometimes it is easier to let go of a situation then it is to stew over it. Our time is money. Time spent arguing over miscommunication or mis-listening is time we can be spending either fixing you or serving other guests. No disrespect. But if we can’t make you happy after all our attempts maybe the relationship is just not meant to be.

13. Do realize we paid a lot of money for our education and we ARE educated professionals. I promise you, we kind of know what we are talking about. We will have a proper consultation with you and we understand that you are some smart cookies but we are the ones who have been trained.

  • Elaboration: I know you are fervently searching hair on Google, Pinterest, Instagram, etc. I know you have been getting your hair professionally done for umpteen years. And I know you have probably experimented on your own. And I know your mother’s friend’s sister’s cousin in-law has done hair for 40 years. And I do not doubt that you have probably picked up a few snippets of information. But please, please, PLEASE don’t think you know more than than your stylist, at least not in our own profession. We take pride in our acquired education, and further, our continuing education. Please trust the fact that we know what is best for you. We know it. We studied it. We live it, learn it, love it, eat, drink, and breathe it.

14. If we are running behind, please be patient with us. You wouldn’t want us rushing on you to get to our next client. We try our best to give all our guests the same love and attention. If you just stay calm and be patient, we are guaranteed to give you the best customer service.

15. Added because 14 is an odd number to end on and because it’s an important subject to touch on: 

  • Stylist’s prices differentiate from each other based on different factors such as demand of time, education, talent, time in profession, serviced demographic. Most of those are in direct correlation of each other. A high-priced stylist is normally most sought after, continues her education regularly, has put time in her art, and excels not only in technical skills but in people and business skills. A purse may be a purse and a car may be a car. But when you carry or drive high end, do you not notice the difference? 
  • Now I am not saying you aren’t getting proper care from a lower priced stylist. You bet your butt you will, because they want to be high end. They want to be a star. All I am doing is explaining why some stylists may seem so-called “expensive”.


I want to take this time to thank you, my readers, in taking the time to one, read this blog, and two, educating yourselves in all things hair, makeup, essential oils, and life. I am honored to be apart of your adventure and only hope to make a small impact on your lives. And thank you to my clients, you trust me and believe in me. Without you, I would not be able to make giant leaps in my life nor make little footprints in other people’s sand. I only wish to continue my journey in educating and serving those I touch by writing this blog or what I do in the salon. I will continue to live, learn, and earn more because of the love I have for the beauty industry and because of you.

With Love,  Amanda Bossi

Make Today Your……

           

Bring it on, Baby!

Every day is a new day and how we start it is the most important. We all have heard the sayings:

Well, she woke up on the wrong side of the bed this morning!

Or….

Who pi$$ed in her Wheaties this morning?

Let’s not be those people, people! 

Now, grant it, we will have our bad days. We aren’t perfect. We are only mere humans. 

In this blog, I will share my daily routine (though it is not perfect) that encourages it to be as good as it can be through the use of hair & makeup products and essential oils. I am always happy to receive readers comments! So tell me your unique ways to make your day great!  

Yea, needless to say, I am not a pleasant person before my coffee. Please, do not talk to me for atleast 20 minutes and allow me to ready myself for the day’s adventures. Recently, I have found some morning boost with Young Living’s En-R-Gee Blend. The smell alone will put a little pep in your step. It’s strong. I’ll diffuse it in the bathroom while I get my act together or I have added it in my unscented lotion on days that I may need everything short of super powers. 

If you would see me in the morning, I look like a cross between a Q-tip and a cockatoo. It’s a bit ridiculous. So even on days that I pull out the Lazy Card, I still manage to pull my hair up in a messy bun… Or Top Knot when I want to sound fancy. Don’t over think the bun ladies! I know you do. Let me bring you in on a little tip: 

Lay on your bed and let you head hang off. Slowing glide your head onto the bed. This automatically smooths the underneath and brings your hair to the top of your head. Wrap it in your ponytail. Spread out the hair with your fingers to give the bun the fullness and look you want. 

Look at that…. Easy! 

On my extra special lazy days, I reach for a hat. Luckily for us, hats are hugely in style. Grab yourself an adorable fedora and no one will ever know your hair hasn’t been washed in 3 days. If it wasn’t for bronzer, brow pencil, mascara and most importantly, lipstick, my day could not start proper. Now, if you are anything like me, you are a lipstick hoarder… I mean, collector. My job requires me to wear black and black with splashes of black. Lipstick is my color! I switch which color I use daily to spice things up and brighten my mood. When I am feeling powerful, I break out that red lipstick! Nothing says GET IT like cherry red lips. When I am down in the dumps, I apply hot pink. When I’m feeling sassy, dark lips is the way to go. Play with lipstick, ladies! I mean, c’mon, there’s a bazillion colors out there waiting to be “collected”.After fixing my face and hair, I venture to my essential oil cabinet. Depending on how I want to conquer the day determines which oils I choose to use. However, I do add 1-2 drops of Cedarwood to my unscented lotion everyday. I have even added it to my hair cream, too. It is amazing for your skin and hair. It also opens your mind and relieves anxiety. Win win! 

If I am feeling extra motivated to conquer my work day in both the creative and business aspects, Live Your Passion blend is my must have. I will wear it as a perfume.

If I know I am going to have to muscle up some extra brain power, Clarity Blend is my go to. I have even added Peppermint to up the ante. Clarity is also great when it’s paired with En-R-Gee. These bad boys go right into my diffuser necklace. These scents are pretty strong and I am always awakened when they get wafted up towards my nose.It’s important to take care of yourself through the day as well. Take your vitamins, eat somewhat well, and drink your water. If it wasn’t for Young Living’s Citrus Fresh Blend, I would never drink a drop. Citrus Fresh also supports one’s immune system and helps cleanse and open your lymphatic system.

I also keep following oils close at bay:

  • Lavender- All hail to Lavender. Yup! It does everything. It is connected at the hip with me. 
  • Stress Away Blend- When a bump occurs in my good days’s road, this blend is my savior.
  • M-Grain Blend- I use this on my brows, temples, and base of head when I feel a stress or tension headache coming on. Migraines will ruin my day, so if I feel one coming one, I immediately grab this. When caught early enough, my migraine never rears it’s ugly head.

Please read through a lot of my past blogs to get more information on my favorite beauty products and tips, tricks, and advice on your hair & makeup and essential oil uses. 
End your day on a good note! Slip on those mismatching pjs, wipe away the day’s grime, and pour yourself some wine… Or tea or whatever it may be to soothe and relax you.

Figure out what allows you to decompress after the day’s adventures. Whether it be yoga, reading, crappy TV drama, or cuddling with your cats, do it! It’s important to decompress or believe me, you will be up all night thinking endlessly of what happened, what could have happened, what will happen…. STOP! After my pjs are on and before my butt hits the couch, I do my nightly routine. I’m setting myself up for my next great day! 

I remove my makeup and apply a night oil of Fractionated Coconut Oil and Frankincense. It keeps my face smooth and has amazing anti-aging capabilities. I then apply my lotion mixed with a drop of Cedarwood. Cedarwood also has been known to help with insomnia. Valerian Oil also aids in sleep. I massage this on my brain stem and behind ears. Young Living’s Release Blend over the liver allows you to rid yourself of negativity energy. Negativity energy is stored in your liver, resulting in not-so-good health and emotional stability. I like using this at night, because at the end of the day, it is just nice to let go.


In my diffuser, my new favorite concoction is a perfect blend of Cedarwood, Valerian, & Bergamot. All my cares drift away and sleep is warmly welcomed. 

On days that may have been extra hard, I will take a hot shower to relax my muscles, follow my oil routine, and in my diffuser I put SARA blend and spray Lavender on my bedding. The smell is intoxicating and my stress melts away. 

What’s your favorite diffuser recipe? 


Sleep is so essential to your next day being amazing. You need sleep to wake up, kick ass, & conquer the next day! 

Again, somedays we may fall. Somedays we may not look or feel our best. But if we can find a little bit of motivation whether it be in the form of a beauty routine or product, by a drop of an oil, or even a chant of inspiration.

Happy Making Your Day Whatever You Want It To Be!

Hair & Social Media: The Trickery 


It’s everywhere! Hair is everywhere! Hair photos have taken over the Internet… almost as much as cat videos. 

I know you do it. You sit there and endlessly scroll through the dreamy photos and pin, pin, pin. And I’m sure you whimper, only wishing you could have every one of the colors in the rainbow and think of changing it once a week. 

Guess what? You can’t. Hard to believe. I know. And I hate to be the bubble buster. But someone has to be honest and bring you back down from la-la land. 

Not only that but over half of these photos are photoshopped. It’s the same head! Let me show you…. 


Mind Blown. 

This is why us hairstylists have such issues with these photos. They set unrealistic expectations and somehow we are supposed to have this magic wand to make this stuff happen. Listen, we would love to, however technology hasn’t evolved to the point to allow one to walk around photoshopped in real life. Trust me, I would be walking around cinched and pinched everywhere if that was the case.

Expecting to look exactly like these photos makes for some not good times. Your hairstylist is sweating because your beaming and itching for this mermaid hair. Us hairstylists can only do so much. We can get you close, but it will never be the same. And BAM! All of a sudden, though to no surprise, you are unhappy and now your hairstylist is unhappy and it’s just a recipe for disaster. 

Don’t worry! I was fooled as well for awhile. And then after like the 5th client who wanted rainbow sprinkle hair, I was like, “What the hell is going on?!” I decided to pretend I was the client and started searching the wide world of Pinterest for these hair color photos. And wouldn’t you know…. There were the same damn heads! 

I don’t mind using these photos or my clients bringing them in, but realize they should be inspiration not expectation. Talk with your stylist first to see what is actually achievable.

And please find real time photos of a specific stylist’s work. Most have albums on their personal or salon social media pages or look on the salon’s website. What have they been able to achieve? 

Below is some of my personal work that can easily be found on social media. These are unphotoshopped and I normally post almost immediately after they leave the salon. 


Disclaimer: Nothing is guaranteed in one visit. Please discuss with a stylist a game plan to achieve your desired look. And be prepared financially. Multiple services and visits will cost more. Also, if you have been dying your hair with black box color, either forget it or don’t expect it completed for like a year. 

What are your thoughts? Have you been fooled? Go ahead! Get on the Internet and look up tutorials on how to photoshop your hair color. Again… Mind Blown.

Happy Hair Coloring….. Realistically!