When the Weather (not the hair) is Frightful


Blah… it’s winter. 

While the season is perfect to get comfortable with a cup of hot cocoa, Netflix, & your cat, you can’t ignore the fact that the dry, dreary, plain yucky weather can wreak havoc on your hair. Don’t fret! There are plenty of ways you can protect your hair from the dreaded weather. 

Your hair starts to become more difficult to retain moisture, making it dry, brittle, and prone to breakage and damage, not to mention the frizz and static that often comes (though doesn’t go) with your winter wardrobe. However, these are all problems that can be avoided as long as you have the right hair care routine for winter. Don’t let your hair fall victim to the winter blues too! When Snowflakes Fall… From Your Scalp

Your scalp is drier and itchier than ever during the winter months because of the lack of moisture in the air. This is why your poor skin in dry and it seems you have to bathe with lotion. It leads to issues like dandruff and scalp irritation, which can lead to hair loss in severe cases. What most people don’t realize is that the dandruff problem can be manageable with the right care and a little love. 

Pureology Hydrate Shampoo & Conditioner (The Peppermint, Sage, & Rosemary create a cooling, invigorating feeling on your scalp relieving it of the itch and flakes.)

Redken Scalp Relief (This has powerful ingredients such as Zinc to relieve the agitation of the dryness and itch.)

Young Living Rosemary & Lavender Essential Oils (Mix with Coconut Oil as a mask or make a mist with distilled water & witch hazel for natural relief.) 2 Gifts Not Wanted for Christmas… Frizz & Static

One of the most annoying things about winter is all of the static and frizz. The hoodies, sweater, scarves, gloves, and beanies all seem to gang up on your hair, like your older aunts and grandmas wanting to smooch you at your holiday gatherings. To tackle this, wash your hair only with lukewarm water, NOT hot water, as the latter will strip away the natural oils and blow open the cuticle that protect and nourish your hair. Apply a leave-in conditioner or frizz fighting serum or lotion to keep your hair smooth.

Pureology Colour Fanatic Multi-Tasking Hair Beautifier (This provides 21 benefits including static reducing and frizz fighting.)

Redken Frizz Dismiss Regimen (My ultimate favorite for all hair types since it is customizable. It also includes “dryer” sheets for your hair to tame the frizz on the run.)

Young Living Sandalwood with Almond Oil as a serum is a natural and fantastic way to fight frizz. Shine Bright like a Diamond Pendent Your Husband Should Have Bought You (Instead of the Blender) 

The lack of moisture in winter not only dries out your scalp and makes your hair frizzy, but also leaves your hair looking dull, lifeless, as a blah. Ask your stylists about conditioning shine treatments such as a Redken Shades EQ Gloss. 

Pureology Shine Max (This serum adds light reflecting shine while making your hair soft and luxurious. This also tames stray fly aways without making you look like a grease pit.)

Redken Diamond Oil Pillow Proof Glow Dry (Honest to God, this is hair crack. Now only does it add insane shine without the weight of an oil, it protects against heat and blow dries your hair 50% faster.)

Honey with Young Living Roman Chamomile Essential Oil (Honey is a humectant that seals in the moisture and helps restore shine to dull and damaged hair. Roman Chamomile soothes scalp and adds softness to hair strands. Leave on for 30 minutes and rinse well.)Get Warm (With Cocoa, a Blankie, & Hair Mask)

Ensure your follicles get all the nourishment and love you can give them by warming them up a tad. Throw on your slippers, relax and moisturize your hair under a cap. Purchase a cheap shower cap at the dollar store and allow it to work wonders. Putting one on while deep conditioning will trap the heat, open the cuticle, and allow the conditioner to deeply penetrate the hair shaft.

Pureology Precious Oil Softening Hair Masque (This intensely moisturizes with Sunflower & Coconut Oil.)

Redken Diamond Oil Deep Facets Intensive Treatment Mask (This provides intensive nourishment and provides a protective layer of oils to help prevent damage.)

Warmed Olive Oil & Young Living Geranium (Smell fantastic while naturally giving your hair some much needed love.)Keep Your Hair Cool… Not Hot

Scorching hot water in the shower may feel great on a cold winter’s morning but you are causing more harm than good. Your skin and hair loses all it natural oils and your pores and hair cuticles remains open. Lock in moisture by rinsing with warm to cool, NOT hot. Fun tip: Apply a thin layer of coconut oil to your skin (and hair if your hair is thick and course) before rinsing. Your skin will remain silky and soft. Also, blow dry your hair on low or medium heat. Let’s take just 5 more minutes in the morning. It’s not that bad… and I promise you, you’ll thank me. Plus, it’s more time to hide from your kids and husbands. Towels and Hats and Friction… OH MY!

Rubbing your hair with a towel when you get out of the shower can cause some serious breakage. Your hair is at its weakest state when it is wet. Blot and squeeze the excess water out. Hats are another culprit for breakage. I get it, it’s freaking cold and we need hats-plain and simple. However, taking them on and off can cause friction, breakage, and horrible static. Try putting a silk bandana in the hat or wrapping a silk scarf around your head first before adorning your cute winter hat. Add Some Color to the Gray & Drab 

Spice up your look with a new color. Don’t go drastic since lord knows you will change your mind come spring. However, a little makeover does wonders for our mood. While your at it, treat yourself to a mani/pedi…. and maybe a glass of champagne. Apply some Young Living Stress Away or Peace & Calming and just relax. 


Happy Winter my little snowflakes! Be as unique as they are! 

The Adventures of Marlena’s Hair Has Continued! 

Listen, this girl has given me a challenge of a lifetime. It has taken, what it feels like a gazillion processes to achieve what I like to think of as a complete and utter miracle. 

Marlena has called me her “Hair Angel Sent From Heaven”. I don’t know if I would go that far, but I was a bit of a miracle worker. (Pat on the back for me!) 

If you are new to The Adventures of Marlena’s Hair, click below to read the whole story. It is a must to really feel the whole effect of this miraculous creation. 

Read Me! Read Me!

After achieving what I thought was success, of course she couldn’t stop there. This is the glory and horror of our profession. We have a rainbow of colors and a plethora of shears on hand and dangerously creative minds that shoot out endless ideas like a machine gun. 

Let us take a look at what we had achieved. Pretty darn amazing figuring we came from the blue from hell. I know pretty incredible!!!!!! 

Marlena then decided to cut her hair and I mean cut. All that work and we wack it off. Though, her hair felt amazing even after the bazillion processes, a good haircut wasn’t a bad idea. To top it off, it is pretty cute. 

But let’s add one more task to make my life harder. How about going blonder? 

Whoa is me! 

I knew that green was going to rear it’s ugly head again. Luckily, these are times I love my job. It’s exhilarating to have a challenge. Minor note: I love insane challenges only when the person I am servicing understands the process is unpredictable… as well as the cost. Anything is possible with time, patience, trust, and a full wallet. 

After some major fading and a clarifying treatment, here is what I had to work with:

I started by weaving thin highlights of Lightener throughout her entire head root to end. Between the foils, I toned some of the sage green with a light red orange. I let her sit for about a half hour only to save the integrity of her hair. 

After rinsing and blow drying, we were left with a too warm of root and mint green and yellow blonde ends. I wish I had a picture. 

This is again when the fun part starts. Formulating. This is when I had to come up with one color for the root area and one for the ends and have them both blend and match. 

For the root, I used a Level 7 Mocha. I love the Mochas in Redken Shades EQ Cream. They are a cool warm and just beautiful. For the ends, I used the same light red orange as before. 

The root color turned out gorgeous. However, to my dismay, the ends did nothing but look like crud. 

Time for the thinking cap and reassurance from another stylist. I remembered a formula for a Rose Gold I did on a client recently. What the hell? What could it hurt? With a more pigmented red, maybe the green would finally cancel out. I mixed a Level 5 red violet with a light titanium with clear and processed for 5-8 minutes all at the same time doing a lot of praying. 

After checking to make sure most of the green was neutralized, I rinsed. 

After blow drying even just one section, I was jumping for joy. SUCCESS! 

Holy crap was it perfectly beautiful?Check it out!  Eeeeeeek! I am so excited! I couldn’t have asked for a better turnout! I mean come one, look what we did! A miracle I tell you! 

Let us review: What will we do next! Stay tuned!!

Happy Changing Your Color and Praying at the Same Time! 

The “Non-Mom” Struggles 

(Note: This was extremely hard to write and I will, I’m sure, offend someone. But, I needed to share this not only to further healing myself but to take a stand on a issue that is too quiet. I hope I can help just one person go through this struggle. I hope that I can be their voice. And maybe I can open the eyes of those on the other side.)


There are a few kinds of “Non-Moms”: Those Childless by Choice, Those Who Cannot Bear Children, And Those Struggling to Conceive. 

This blog is not particularly written for the “Childless by Choice”. You have already come to terms with your decision though I am sure some struggles arise for you as well. And maybe this blog will help you. Who knows? However, this is written for those of you who have had their motherhood dreams crushed or who were told the chances are small and for those trying every month to no avail. All non-moms-not-by-choice continue to go through the same trials. We are essentially living through what I call “The Great Mom Divide”. 

We are broken up into two completely separate groups: The Moms & The Non-Moms. At times, we might as well be in separate countries with the way the distance feels between us. Moms will be social with other moms. And us non-moms, well, our group grows smaller and smaller. 

The support group surrounding moms is large; non-moms, not so much. Think about it. Watch advertisements. There is even a National Holiday. There are groups and meetings. There is no voice for the non-mom sector of women. 

Well, here it is, I’ll say it. 

It sucks. 

It almost feels like your going through a long term bereavement, a never ending sense of mourning. Society has essentially made it seem like you have not “arrived” unless you have become a mother or that you have failed at the one job you were put on the earth to do which is to procreate. You lose your sense of womanhood. You mourn the loss of your friends. They have migrated to the more like-minded, birth-accomplished circle. They are no longer in your life like they used to be or like you think they should be still. You are mourning the sense of accomplishment. You may be a successful career woman or an an intellectual or a giver to the community. But, you have not given to the world a child for the future. And unfortunately, you may be mourning the loss of your relationship with your partner whether it be all together or the way it used to be. 

All those things that were once there are no longer or they are hanging on by a single thread. You feel alone. Childless women are a minority. They are sidelined by the Mommy Networks. Even the support you do end up getting sometimes isn’t the greatest either. You hear things like: 

“Don’t stress.”

“It will happen when it happens.”

Or you are given a list of suggestions of what to do and not do. 

Those suggestions are easier said than done and often unachievable. The stress is immense. We don’t know if it will happen. What if it doesn’t? 

And then we have social media. Pregnancy announcements and endless baby pics clutter our news feeds. 

I’m sure I can speak for most when I say: 

Listen. We are happy for you. However, tone it down. Remember, there are those looking at your elated baby pics and crying for what they cannot have or what they have lost. It’s a constant reminder. Be conscious. 

Their pictures get more likes than your announcement of a promotion or your picture of your cat. This is again when we start feeling like we’re being picked last for the dodgeball team. This is also when, through the tears, we hide you off our feeds. 

This shit sucks. (Excuse my French.) But let me tell you this, you are not alone. That is one thing I have found out for sure working with the public and being insanely candid about my life. There are people out there that you would never guess that went through similar situations. 

I can’t promise you your friends will ever come back. I can’t promise you it will be the same when they do. I can’t promise that you won’t hold a grudge when they return when you, in fact, conceive. 

I can’t promise you any of this will become easier. But what I can promise you is that you will survive. You will become strong. And I can promise you that good things will happen if you believe it. Maybe a baby isn’t in our future, but we will be blessed with something else truly amazing. 

And for those of you on the other side, here is a few words for you. 

Though we may not be mothers, we are people too. We matter. And if you think we don’t notice that you have come to only associate with other moms, we have. We have noticed your texting us has essentially disappeared. We have noticed you only share, comment on, and like other moms’ social media posts. We are there too, you know? 

Again, we are people too. You can say you had no idea that we felt this way because 1. We are out experiencing the wonders of the worlds and thought we were busy or 2. They have been so busy caring for their babies that they feel like they have no time to even shower let alone send “hi”via text. However, that picture you just posted showed you at the park with another mom friend says otherwise.

We all have emotions, the Moms and Non-Moms. I just hope maybe this makes a difference or just starts to narrow the Great Mom Divide. 

We want to be excited for little Timmy’s first steps, but you have to let us. We want you to be excited for our life too, but you have to be there. We don’t have to feel like lepers. You can be there for us too. It only takes a second to ask us how we are. Maybe we won’t open up right away, but it’s nice to know you are still apart of our cheerleading team. 

And though we may not have given birth, we can be mothers too. We have the power to be just as nurturing as those who are in your mom cliques. We would want to help you if you didn’t exclude us. If your too tired to reach out, call us we’ll come babysit while you nap. And please don’t think we can’t do or don’t trust us doing it. We are not morons because we haven’t pushed out a child.

It only pains us more to not be apart of your lives in the reality sense. We don’t want to only see your life from the light of a phone or computer screen. Let us use your children as our rent-a-kids to find some solace in our struggle. 

Don’t let us fall by the way side. Please. It’s hard enough fighting a war with fertility. We non-moms and moms can coincide on this Earth. We are women. We have plenty of other fights to conquer. Feel free to comment but remember, this is all a matter of opinion and personal experience. Please do not comment negativity. 

Happy Healing! Happy TTC! 

 

The Adventures of Marlena’s Hair


Oooooooo, Color Corrections, I have a love/hate relationship with them. 

This is Marlena before: Her brief hair history includes: 

Her midshaft to ends were pre lightened to a platinum blonde. Over that she decided to do the following:

  • Joico Cobalt Blue- Once
  • Joico Mermaid Blue- Once
  • Paul Mitchell Pop XG Blue- Once

Miss Marlena, of course, wanted the blue/teal out and to achieve a look like this……Yay

Now, Marlena is a new addition to our team at Salon Boutique, so she knows the ins and outs of the process. Thank God! And that patience is a virtue. But, I am always determined to deliver. 

My first step was Malibu Direct Dye Lifter with 20 volume devoloper and left on for 45 minutes. This was my hero during The Adventures of Megan’s Hair. I applied this mid shaft to ends. Here’s the results: 

After shampooing and blowing drying…. Ugh. Blue! Why do you have to be the devil? Ladies, listen. Pinks and Purples are way easier to lift out. Blue, Teal, Green, and even red are the absolute worst. THE WORST!

It lifted slightly. Notice the green rearing it’s ugly head? I know it ate through at least the first layer of the blue/teal, but it wasn’t enough. 

Next, I applied Redken Flash Lift Lightener and 30 volume developer. After 30 minutes, I shampooed. Trying to save the integrity of her hair, I did not want to leave this on past a half hour. And the lovely results: 

Yuck. We made jokes about it looking like a swamp. It had to go.

After searching the Internet of other ways to lift fashion colors, I found a suggestion to use Redken Color Fusion Clear and 30 volume peroxide. 

Oh, what the hell? Might as well use the new girl at the salon as a guinea pig, right? She’s a trooper.

I applied it and put her under dryer with a cap. I checked her after 15 minutes. It wasn’t looking like it was budging so we shampooed yet again. Here are those results: 

However, now that I am writing this blog and manipulating these lovely photo collages, there is a noticeable difference after the Clear process. I wish more would have come out!!!!! However, this was the hand I was dealt. The other stylists kept asking me… “What’s you’re next step?” Literally, I had no idea. But if anyone could give her the look she wanted, I knew I could do it.

Don’t worry. At times, Color Corrections can sometimes make me feel completely stupid. Remember though, when in doubt go back to your roots and remember Basic Color Theory.

What cancels out Green? What is on the opposite end of the color wheel from Green? 

RED. 

I applied a Level 7 Copper Red and prayed. Sometimes, Color Corrections are a whole lot of praying to Jesus and hoping for the best. 

It immediately started to grab. Thank the Lord! I watched it closely and when all green seemed to be cancelled out I shampooed. 

This is when I decided that Miss Marlena’s hair needed a breather. It was a livable color (for now), and not to mention, my brain needed a break. 

I styled her pretty and both her and I were satisfied with the results. 

What a difference! Grant it, not exactly the look we were going for but I already knew the next game plan. But remember, patience is a virtue. (Repeat that mantra during Color Corrections. Trust me. You need it.) 

After a few days we would take the next step. But, here is the journey so far: 

5 days later……..

We came back for Round 2. After obvious shampoos, it looked, well, quite nasty. Thank god for high buns! Yucky!

My next steps were to blend the root to remove the harsh line using a Level 4 Mocha and pull through a Level 6 Warm Mocha mixed with a Level 6 Intense Copper. I also decided to lift some pieces a little more. 

I also prayed for the best. Positive thinking, right? 

Well, the Mocha was gorgeous. The lightened pieces however were literally mint green. 

At the sink, I had a crazy idea. What if I put straight Pravana Vivids Orange in it? What’s the worse thing that can happen? 

Shame on me for not having a few pictures to mark this progress, but the Vivid Orange was a little too vivid. On a good note, the green was pretty much gone besides a few strands. 

To tone down the brightness, I used a Level 7 Neutral Warm mixed with a Level 7 Neutral Brown. 

Much better. 

See…We are so close! With time and patience we will achieve the look she wants. Though, I am going to give myself a little pat on the back. This was a pretty job well done. A total of 8 hours and 7 processes later, we have achieved not only normality, but a gorgeous look. And OMG, so stinking close! 

Let us review. Stay tuned for what is to come next! I already know my next game plan! But for now, let’s give not only Marlena’s hair a break, but also you a bit of a breather from reading this blog. 

Happy Color-Correcting! …. or not 

Taking Care of the Most Important Person… You

Believe me, this is easier said than done. But, it’s all about progress. There is no ifs, ands, or buts about it, YOU have to take care of YOURSELF. Even just carving out a single moment out of the day is the start of progress to a better YOU.

Why is it so important to take care of yourself? Let’s see… If your car runs out of gas, can it continue to drive? If you use your blowdryer everyday, will it not smoke and spark and eventually blow up? Well, same goes for you. 

We are pulled in some many directions. Family needs us. Friends need us. Coworkers, customers, and kids need us. The world needs us. If we break down or blow up, will we be any good?

Nope. 

We will be good to no one if we aren’t good to ourselves. 

It won’t be easy. I have failed. I have forgotten. And I have been weak. But, all you need to do is to at least make a conscious effort and start to make that progress towards a healthier, less stressed you. 

But what can YOU do to jumpstart “You Care”? 

Here are a few ideas I have used in my own conscious effort to take care of ME:

Find Your Hobby– Mine is crafting, painting my house, and anything that requires creativity. Maybe yours is yoga, fishing, or even stamp collecting. Whatever it may be, make time for it. Even if it’s only an hour a week, it is YOU time. YOU are in YOUR world. And guess what? YOU will enjoy it. When you are doing what YOU love, you are able to to reboot your brain to say, “Hey! I am happy!” Find your hobby or your “happy niche” and flippin’ do it! 

Take a Trip– Maybe it’s a weekend get away or maybe it’s just a Sunday morning excursion to a flea market, either way get YOUR booty out of the house and not just to the grocery store, my dear. When you do something outside of the norm, it’s like pressing the reset button. We need change. We need adventure. We need to be free from our everyday demands for even just a bit. I try to at least travel 1-2 times a year. It gives me something to look forward to and something to work towards. Make it a celebration! Celebrate YOU and making it through this thing called Life!

Talk– I have found being candid about my life is beyond liberating. It sets YOU free from the chains your troubles have on you. It’s okay to have problems. It’s okay to not be perfect. People will respect you more when you are honest. I have found that you never know who may reply with something that will actually resonate with you. The person you talk to should not only make you feel not alone, but YOU may make them feel not alone. There is strength in numbers. Having a good support system, big or small, known or unknown, is a huge help. Open up. You may find hope in the most unexpected place.

MeditateDon’t laugh. When I say meditate, I don’t just mean sit on the floor with your legs crossed chanting “oooommmm”. (Though, that is an option.) There are different ways to meditate. For instance, your doing the dishes. Kids are yelling in the background. Focus on the bubbles on your hands and the warmth of the water. Unnoticeably, the sound of the kids yelling dissipates. YOU become in control of YOUR thoughts. Now, really don’t laugh at me, but I do conscious meditation while petting my cats. I bet you do it to. You just don’t notice. But when I am sad or angry or stressed, I cuddle with my cats. I focus on the softness of their fur, the warmth of them, and the sound of their purring. And poof, for those few minutes, I am not sad or angry and I can regain control of my emotions. Another choice of meditation is chanting. Out loud or silently to yourself, repeat something inspirational. I believe in the power of thought. If YOU think it and believe it, it is bound to happen. Amazing things can happen when YOU clear or mind. When you fill your mind with positive things, there is no more room for the bullshit. YOU can be your own cheerleader.

TherapyTherapy is so much more common and talked about now. It has become way less of a taboo. YOU are not “crazy” if you go. In fact, the ones who don’t go are the “crazy” ones. Don’t get me wrong, I never thought I would ever be going to therapy. But now that I am going, I am thinking, “Why the hell haven’t I done this years ago?!?!” However, I do wish I could be friends with my therapist and take her for drinks instead of paying the office visit. But, I do look at therapy as a huge leap to taking care of myself. It’s a solid hour designated for me and me only. It’s like for those 2 weeks between visits, I am a dump truck and things load up on me making me heavy with stress, and when I am at the visit, I get to unload. I can essentially let my therapist carry my burdens. Don’t knock therapy until you try it. Go in with an open mind, courage, and willingness to change. YOU might just surprise yourself.

PurgeStart fresh. Clean out your closet. Have a garage sale. Get rid of clutter. Having a clean slate does wonders for your new stress reduced lifestyle. It’s like starting a new chapter in YOUR book. It doesn’t need to be spring to clean. Purge, baby, purge. There is enough mental chaos in your life, you don’t need environmental chaos either. And if you do decide to have an awesome garage sale and live in the Pittsburgh area, I will come buy your junk. 

BreatheCounting to 10 and breathing really does work! Use this practice in conjunction with a little inspirational chanting. Add in some aromatherapy and…hello relaxation! This isn’t just a plug for my love of Young Living essential oils. Aromatherapy is proven to be beneficial to reduce stress, mental strain, anxiety, depression, you name it. Lavender, Roman Chamomile, Clary Sage, Bergamot, and Lemon are only a few single oils that help. Young Living Blends such as Stress Away, Peace & Calming, Grounding, Joy, Valor, and Sara, are some of my favorite stress butt kickers. Diffuse, wear as a perfume, or apply with your favorite carrier oil behind ears, on neck, chest, and wrists. I wear a diffuser necklace. Sure, I may look silly sniffing a necklace, but it has been a godsend. Breathe in the lovely smells of freedom and leave your troubles behind.

Not only does taking care of ourselves make us better people so we can better serve those who need us most, but it keeps us healthy. Stress and tension can cause a number of unwanted health problems such as heart disease. We must find balance in an increasingly, over-stimulating world. 

Do not feel guilty for taking a much needed break from life’s demands. Ignoring your needs will have dangerous consequences. When you finally start to take care of yourself, improvements in all other aspects in your life will follow. 

There is no set prescription on how you do it. Whatever YOU, as an individual need, is what YOU need to do. And remember, if at first you don’t succeed, try and try again. Practice makes perfect, my friend. Just make that progress. YOU will thank YOURSELF. Those around you will thank YOU. The world will thank YOU in some shape and form. “You Care” will become your hero. 

Happy Self-Caring!

Things Your Stylist Wants You to Know & Understand … Elaborated

This was one of my first blogs I wrote for this website. I am sharing the Original Posting to elaborate and further stress some aspects so that you, as a client, can better understand.1. We love when you bring in photos, BUT only when they are realistic. When looking at hair inspiration, keep in mind what is feasible. Does the model have the same hair type, meaning is it fine or thick? If you have finer hair, we cannot make you look like Kim Kardashian without having to actually add hair to your head. Color is a whole other animal. If you have continually dyed your hair dark, those light blonde ombres are not an easy task. Lightener has to eat through all those layers of color and may require several appointments. Keep realistic expectations when bringing in photos to your stylist. We are beauticians not magicians.

  • Elaboration: A good stylist will have a proper consultation and will be honest of what it will take to achieve your desired look or if it is even possible due to certain factors such as hair type, lifestyle, previous chemical services, and/or integrity of your hair. If we fully discuss the possible outcomes and you still decide to go through service, that decision was yours and yours only. Please do not punish the stylist if they didn’t create miracles. 

2. There is no such thing as a “wash and wear” hairstyle. We can definitely achieve a low maintenance look, however, no maintenance is impossible. All hairstyles require some sort of product and finagling whether it be just combing or a little fluffing.

  • Elaboration: Again, one should know this already after a proper consultation and reminded during the finishing time. 

3. Count how many products we use. So many people say, “I can’t do anything with my hair” and when we ask what kind of products you use and you say, “none”, that is why. You will never be able to recreate the same look nor feel if you aren’t using products. And take this for an example, how many black heels do you own? Not all black shoes go with the same outfit. This means you may need a few “wardrobes” of hair products for different looks.

  • Elaboration: Home care is of the upmost importance. You visit the doctor when you are sick. Do you only go to the appointment and not pick up the prescription? So not only are hair products important to style your hair correctly for the desired look, but it is the “medicine” for your hair. If you color your hair, use any heat, or if your head sees any sort of light of day, YOUR HAIR NEEDS MEDICINE IN THE FORM OF HAIR PRODUCTS. If you choose not to, we cannot be held accountable for the failing integrity of your hair, fading of color, or any other unwanted hair problems.

4. Do not change your color drastically too frequent. You hair is not a cat. It does not have 9 lives.

  • Elaboration: If you choose to do this, note that there are several factors that should be considered. With a proper consultation, you will be made well aware of the process this will take, the possible outcomes, and the take-home hair care that will be required. (Please refer to my previous blog Bleach… The Good… The Bad… And Oh-So Pretty. Do not past go nor collect $100 dollars without reading that. Listen, we are professionals and we use our best judgement on what is not only feasible but what is SAFE for your hair. 

5. For color appointments please come with clean, dry hair. Color is more easily absorbed when it doesn’t have gunk and buildup to get through. And if we have to blow dry you before your color, we will charge you more for the added time and effort on our part.

6. If we tell you “no” or that will fry your hair, listen to us. You are our walking advertisements, we obviously do not want you advertising frazzled hair. Trust us, we are only looking out for the integrity of your hair. However, if you must proceed, please budget for a deep conditioner. You will need it.

  • Elaboration: Please do not act surprised or be upset if a process takes a little longer than expected. We cannot predict the future. Do not blame us for unwanted outcomes if you were not fully honest with us. A stylist/ client relationship is just like any other relationship. It is built on trust and communication. Think of how upset you get at your significant other for “not listening”. Now what if they blamed you for them not listening? That would be pretty crappy. You put trust into your stylist just as I trust in my clients to listen to my opinions and suggestions. We trust one another based on communication. Now some of the stuff your stylist may tell you might not exactly be what you want to hear just like our significant others don’t want to hear half the things we say, however, we are professionals and what we say really does matter.

7. Do not blame us for giving you what you wanted. If you asked to go platinum blonde then realized you look much better as a brunette, we have to charge you. If you hate your new bangs, please don’t hate us. We only want to make you happy and beautiful. We live to please.

  • Elaboration: The bang thing is a killer. If you want them and get them and hate them, not our fault. Period. Enough said.

8. Split ends cannot be mended. Hair products cannot fuse hair together. There are products that will calm and smooth the fuzz, but the only thing that will get rid of split ends is a trim. 

  • Elaboration: Get a trim more than once a year people. If you wonder why your hair does not grow, it’s because it’s breaking off. Your hair grows from the root in the scalp and unless you have alopecia (balding), your hair grows. If it’s crispy at ends, it’ll snap like a toothpick. Even if it is a dusting of the ends, do it. I hate hair cuts too but also hate the Gyno. I still have to go.

9. Salon products are better than Walmart’s and even though they may seem more costly, buy them. Why? Chemists. High end brands pay high-end bucks to chemists to create our luxurious products. Pantene, Pert, and Prauve are just cheap knockoffs with cheap ingredients. 

  • Elaboration: Please refer to my previous blogs: #1 Hair Rule to fully understand why drugstore products are bad, bad, BAD! & What is Diversion? to find out why buying even professional name brand products from drugstores is the worst of the worst of hair sins.

10. Bleach is not as scary as you think. Many clients are terrified of bleach due to its so-called damaging effects. Bleach is only damaging when overlapped. Be honest with your hairstylist if you have had highlights or lightener in the past, even if you are brunette now. If your is long and you had highlights even two years ago, the lightener still lives on your ends.

  • Elaboration: I should have stated that there are several factors that compromise the integrity of your hair when using bleach and may result in some not-so-awesome results. Heat damage, box color, medication, previous chemical services even years ago may affect the outcome. Again, please be honest. Believe me, we will know and soon you will be reminded of the dishonestly. I want to give you an example: A client tells her stylist that she has no color in her hair. The stylist performs a highlight service. Once pulling out the client’s foils, she notices 2 inches of blonde then to her surprise 4 inches of red. Hmmmmmmm, obviously the last 4 inches had to of been previously colored and colored dark or red. And if that hair is gummy, then guarenteed boxed “devil” color was used. Now who are you going to be mad at? This circumstance also happens when purposely lifting dark previously colored hair. This is when toning comes into play. Blonde will not be achievable. But a pretty color will be atleast until the next visit. Be patient (and kind) my friend. We can only do so much without a magic wand.

11. We hate no-shows. If you need to reschedule an appointment or just cannot come in, please call us. We are not going to yell at you and this gives us the opportunity to fill your spot. Many of us work on commission. Without a booty in our chair we have no paycheck.

  • Elaboration: Please don’t stand us up. You are our hot date for the time of the visit. We love you, we want to spend time with you, we want to serve you, we get sad if we don’t get to. And if you are going to be late, give us a heads up and be courteous of our other guests with scheduled appointments. 

12. We would rather fix our mistake than you go elsewhere. You are not going to offend us if you are unhappy with something. Again, we live to please. We want you to be happy. It is devastating to us emotionally and financially when you go around talking about how unhappy you are with us and our work. Please let us know. We can only grow from our mistakes and if we don’t know, we can’t fix it.

  • Elaboration: We will refund your money when we see fit or if we just don’t want to argue. Sometimes it is easier to let go of a situation then it is to stew over it. Our time is money. Time spent arguing over miscommunication or mis-listening is time we can be spending either fixing you or serving other guests. No disrespect. But if we can’t make you happy after all our attempts maybe the relationship is just not meant to be.

13. Do realize we paid a lot of money for our education and we ARE educated professionals. I promise you, we kind of know what we are talking about. We will have a proper consultation with you and we understand that you are some smart cookies but we are the ones who have been trained.

  • Elaboration: I know you are fervently searching hair on Google, Pinterest, Instagram, etc. I know you have been getting your hair professionally done for umpteen years. And I know you have probably experimented on your own. And I know your mother’s friend’s sister’s cousin in-law has done hair for 40 years. And I do not doubt that you have probably picked up a few snippets of information. But please, please, PLEASE don’t think you know more than than your stylist, at least not in our own profession. We take pride in our acquired education, and further, our continuing education. Please trust the fact that we know what is best for you. We know it. We studied it. We live it, learn it, love it, eat, drink, and breathe it.

14. If we are running behind, please be patient with us. You wouldn’t want us rushing on you to get to our next client. We try our best to give all our guests the same love and attention. If you just stay calm and be patient, we are guaranteed to give you the best customer service.

15. Added because 14 is an odd number to end on and because it’s an important subject to touch on: 

  • Stylist’s prices differentiate from each other based on different factors such as demand of time, education, talent, time in profession, serviced demographic. Most of those are in direct correlation of each other. A high-priced stylist is normally most sought after, continues her education regularly, has put time in her art, and excels not only in technical skills but in people and business skills. A purse may be a purse and a car may be a car. But when you carry or drive high end, do you not notice the difference? 
  • Now I am not saying you aren’t getting proper care from a lower priced stylist. You bet your butt you will, because they want to be high end. They want to be a star. All I am doing is explaining why some stylists may seem so-called “expensive”.


I want to take this time to thank you, my readers, in taking the time to one, read this blog, and two, educating yourselves in all things hair, makeup, essential oils, and life. I am honored to be apart of your adventure and only hope to make a small impact on your lives. And thank you to my clients, you trust me and believe in me. Without you, I would not be able to make giant leaps in my life nor make little footprints in other people’s sand. I only wish to continue my journey in educating and serving those I touch by writing this blog or what I do in the salon. I will continue to live, learn, and earn more because of the love I have for the beauty industry and because of you.

With Love,  Amanda Bossi

You. 

I have learned, especially recently, that it is MOST Important to believe in yourself, count in yourself, and above all else, love yourself. When it comes down to it all, you are your own constant. Friends can come and go. Family can change. Relationships can end. Though, I hope they don’t. YOU are a permanent fixture in YOUR life. If you are anything like me, you will bend over backwards for anyone and everyone. You love so much that it hurts. You are everyone else’s constant, their go-to. And that’s okay. At some point, however, you will break. Your batteries will die. The thing is… We forgot to take care of ourselves. We all have our daily struggles…some more than others. We somehow have to become gymnastic Olympians and perform ridiculous routines on the balance beam. We are bound to fall off. I mean, shit! We can’t be perfect. Though, we try like hell. Balance is key. Find something that makes YOU happy, whatever that may be. When we juggle so many things, we tend to loose ourselves. Who are you? What do you like? What will make you happy? Can you answer these? Obviously, keep your dreams and wishes realistic. Reach for the stars, not another universe. You want to be able to actually achieve a goal. I, too, want to be a millionaire who never ages and has her own solo album with a shoe closet the size of a small country and a man who looks like David Beckham. But…. I can’t. What I can do is spend an hour during the week taking a class of some sort. I can write this blog in my spare time because I enjoy it. I can paint a room in my house while drinking wine and jamming to tunes. When are you the happiest? Is it when you have 5 minutes alone in the bathroom? Make it 15. Is it creating something? Take a class. Start crafting. Is it pushing yourself farther to succeed? Hustle, baby. Whatever makes you happy… DO IT!Be diligent. Don’t give up on yourself. Better yet, don’t forget about yourself. We always end up learning that the hard way.WORK TO LIVE, NOT LIVE TO WORK. That’s means for other people, too. Don’t always be a fall back. And don’t spend your whole life busting your buns at work so much that you forget to experience moments of simple life. OVERCOME YOUR STRESS! Finding some you time may not cure your stress, but you will be a better you and with that, stress will affect you less. And guess what? DON’T FEEL GUILTY ABOUT IT! Without taking the time to care for yourself, your work, relationships, and health will suffer.PRIORITIZE YOUR NEEDS! And it is okay to ask for help. Hey! You are there for everyone else! And say no. We cannot be superheroes. Try as we might, we can’t do it all.

Recent studies have shown women are less happy than they have been in over 40 years.

Think of it this way. We are first responders. Would you want your EMT running on fumes? Nope. We need to be rested and fulfilled to properly do our jobs as a worker, mother, wife, friend. Put yourself in the calendar. And do not cancel. Make it as important as a doctor’s appointment. And do not multitask. Don’t take work emails while you are at the nail salon. Stay present in YOUR moment. My favorite quote is:

The greatest thing you will ever learn is just to love and be loved in return.

The funny thing is, I never thought of returning love to myself. 

Everyday, I am trying to practice what I preach here. And though I am no where near where I want to be nor have what I want to have. I am vowing to make a conscious effort to focus on me, step out of the drama, and to ask for help. But I’ll take it slow. My future self will thank me. And eventually my friends, family, and coworkers will thank me.Happy Finding You!