I’m a Girl Boss, Baby


Holy crap! I opened my own salon. Yup, I am now a girl boss, a female entrepreneur, in charge of her own destiny. 

Scary, yet thrilling shit. 

Most people plan businesses for years. Nope, not me. Left my last job, sulked and panicked for about a month, signed a lease, and a month and half later the doors of the salon opened. 

Crazy. I think so. 

Boy, have I learned a lot. I’ve learned the difference between a sole proprietorship and a LLC, that there is a thing called Business Privledge Tax, that it helps to know people, and shit ain’t cheap. I thank god everyday for Google. There were a ton of sleepless nights and busy fingers searching the wide interweb for literally every bit of information I would need- tax write-offs, salon furniture, Pinterest binging. 

Even wine wouldn’t calm me. 

Honestly though, through the chaos what I learned the most is one, I am one tough cookie, and two, I have the best god damn support system a girl could ask for. 


Without risk, there is no success. Why? Because you didn’t try. I sometimes sit in my salon at the end of the night at like 10 pm (probably with a glass of wine) and I look around and think- I really did this. And I did this in a month and a half. If I could high five myself I would. (But I have really big windows and somebody would think I was crazy.)

But no seriously, I did this. If I did it, so can you. Us women, sure we are crazy- Crazy awesome. Crazy strong, crazy stubborn, determined, independent, but we are some bad ass bitches. 


It took something horrible to happen to me to light a fire under my toosh. But now, I am so thankful. It was a blessing in disguise. I see that now.

I am a girl boss. (For crying out loud, my last name is Bossi.) 

I’m still scared but I am okay with that. If I wasn’t I wouldn’t push myself. I wouldn’t fight for this every single day. 

It is important for me to succeed not just for me or my family but for every other future girl boss out there. For real though, if I can open a salon in a month an a half with very little money and almost zero cash flow, you can learn to fly a plane or knit or open up your own stinkin’ business. 

Celebrate your past, your mistakes, and your shortcomings. Rejoice in your success. The value is in what you learn along the way. And honey, you will learn you too are a bad ass girl boss! 

Happy Bossin’ like a Girl! 


My Wish for My Future

Starting this blog, I wanted to write to educate people on hair and makeup but the more my fingers moved across the screen the more and more I was inspired to write more about life. 

Unfortunately, I haven’t written lately and I do feel at a loss. See, this little thing in life loves to throw some curve balls at us. My life, it seems someone turned that automatic ball pitcher on over drive and pointed it directly at my face. 

I used another metaphor recently about my life. I feel like this hurricane came ripping through flooding and destroying and I am standing on a roof top desperately waiting for FEMA to rescue me. 

Recently, I have had a bit of a job change. Well, I guess you can call it a major job change. I went from being comfortable and successful where I was in an environment that I ate, slept, and shat the values to treading feverishly in uncharted territories. (Soon, I will write a blog further discussed such territories. Soon.) 

When you go through such a change, unexpected nonetheless. It’s fucking scary. You don’t know when to duck or swing the bat or you find yourself standing on the rooftop frantically waving rescue helipcopter tired, hungry, and dehydrated to no avail. It’s exhausting. 

But then I remember what I eventually began set out to do with this simple blog. And the quote at the beginning of this blog stated it all. 

“I aspire to be an empowered woman with vision and grace, soft-hearted but strong, self-aware and sure, respected for my mind, admired for my heart, and above all else, always honest, open, and raw.”

My definition of success is making a difference and have a successor, maybe not in the same business but someone who was inspired by me, who was empowered by me, who took life by the balls and reached their dreams faster than me. 

My wish for my future, no matter where I am or what I am doing, is to make a difference, to create beauty not just on another but in the world, to provide someone with a hand, a ear, or a shoulder to cry on. I want to inspire, empower, and to create something great, not just for me but for those directly surrounding me, my community, or the world. 

See, even when life throws you an accelerated curve ball or tries to drown you in a hurricane, you need to sit on your helmet, head butt those damn things, put on your floaters, and swim to your own safety. You are in control of you own life. I am in control of my own destiny. And your future and my future depends on ourselves. 

So I am asking you to write out your wish for your future and every day do something, even the smallest thing, that is going to take you closer to it. Everyday show gratitude. Thank The Universe, thank your mistakes, thank your successes, and thank every single person around you. 

You life is going to be amazing. You are going to make a difference. I AM GOING TO MAKE A DIFFERENCE. Believe in yourself. And when times are tough, toss your hair back, throw up your middle fingers, and exclaim- “I got this shit.”

My wish for my life is that you read this and you felt something. I always promised to be honest, open, and raw. Because of that, everything else will fall into place. 

Happy Wishing, Dreaming, Swimming, and Smacking Those Curveballs Out of the Park! 

Change & Show Gratitude 


Change is a scary fn thing. 

Needless to say, I have had a crap ton of change lately. Enough for a couple people’s worth.

 Mainly, my change in work. 

Don’t worry! I am still doing hair. 

When you work somewhere for over 5 years, you eat, sleep, & breathe that place. It becomes you. 

However, life likes to throw some curve balls at me. Too many of them and this one hit me plain in the face. 

Everyday it’s a struggle for me to say- Change is good. Everyday it’s painstaking to think- Everything happens for a reason. 

But let me tell you- I am blessed. 

I am blessed for my true supporters, my friends, my family. I am blessed I was given a gift to touch more than just hair. I am blessed to not only be given a creative mind but a good heart and damn good head on my shoulders. 

Even through this shitty part of life, I can still show gratitude. Gratitude towards those who have let me go. Gratitude to my clients, who are more friends and family than anything, who have stood by me. And gratitude to The Universe for giving me the strength to persevere.

For what you give, you will receive. 

Without this change, I wouldn’t believe in myself like I do now. I perhaps would have taken for granted the love my clients, friends, family, and The Universe have for me. I would have gotten comfortable and comfort stunts growth. 

So even though it’s a struggle and it’s painstaking- Change will the new adventure. Change will lead the way to bigger and better things. Change will bring out joy in the masses. 

I will be change and change will be good. 


So to my clients, my friends, and my family who are supporting me, thank you. Thank you for believing in me, loving me, and standing by me and my craft. Thank you for being patient and kind. Thank you for giving me the courage to go forth in my dreams. I am strong because you are strong with me. Thank you for taking this ride with me. I couldn’t do it alone. 

Change is just the beginning. 


Happy Living, Changing, & Forever Growing 

The Relationship With Your Stylist

For many people, men & women, the bond with a hair stylist is the most important “service” relationship of their lives. This relationship may stand the tests of time, lasting longer than friendships, jobs and even marriages.

You see them before (and after) big events & important times in your lives: weddings, new careers, births of babies, graduations, etc, etc. They see you through the bumps in the roads including break ups, funerals, losses of pets, and again, etc, etc. 

They become your closest friend without the ties. They see you at your worst and at your best. They make you feel better on the inside and out. You are in 100% infull contact with your hair stylist. 

The two main people you tell all your secrets to is your bar tender and hair dresser. 

As a hair dresser, I appreciate the fact that my clients open up to me, and I to them. It builds rapport and trust. 
With trust, my clients are not only able to be honest about their lives but also honest with what they want to achieve with their looks. 

What you feel on the inside will exude on the outside. I know that if my clients are having a bad day to spend a little extra time with the head massage and offer special styling at the end of the service. I don’t care if they are just going home to clean. They will clean up toys and do dishes looking like a super model. And guarenteed they feel even the smallest bit better on the inside.

With trust, my client’s expect me to give them my best professional opinion or ideas. They are then able to sit in my chair and actually relax. At home and work, they make all the decisions. Within the salon, they can be sure I will make the best decision for them and they will be comfortable with the results. 

It’s all about the experience. And excellence in service should be the way of life of a hairstylist. 


Love your clients as much as they love you. 

And women, find a stylist that you “connect” with. 

Happy being happy in and behind the chair! 

Reflections (A MUST READ, BREAK OUT THE TISSUES BLOG FROM A FELLOW BLOGGER) 


I had to share this with all of my readers, no the world. I am insanely proud to share this. 
A beautiful friend, coworker, and fellow blogger has written the most heartfelt blog. 

Reflections (From the SB Blog)
Now that you have wiped the tears and snot pouring from your nose, let’s make 2017 beautiful! Spread some love! Take care of you! Make the world a better place! Look at your reflection and say… DAMN! I got this! I rock! I kickass! And my life is beautiful! 

Happy 2017 My Lovelies! 


Thank You 2016 

This year, like so many before, has taught me a plethora of life lessons. I have always been so quick to dismiss the previous year with all its struggles and look towards the next with half-ass hope. 

This was one of the most difficult years in my life. Somewhere along the way I became lost. I started mourning the loss of the “good ol’ times” and began thinking, “What the hell! This isn’t how I imagined my life would be right now.” All of a sudden it was like I woke up and- poof! My marriage was hanging on by a single thread. My career, though lucrative, was now a constant grey area of new and unfamiliar responsibilities and struggles. My tribe of friends disappeared into the clouds of their own lives. And family issues, of course, had reared their ugly heads. 

In 2015, I got married. That whole year I lived in a drunken haze of happiness and support and attention of so many. I had my feet firmly planted in work and at home. Then in 2016, when the buzz wore off from the rainbows and butterflies, it was as if my life suddenly became a dark and gloomy cloud of blah. 

Somewhere in the middle of the year, I finally threw my arms up and screamed at The Universe, “I am getting help!” I said it with as much authority as a kid threatening to tell mom because, of course, mom would fix it. I believed “getting help” would be the mom coming to the rescue.  Little did I know then, that was the light peaking through the dark thunder clouds of my life. 

I started seeing a therapist. I’m sure that sounds cliché, typical in fact. But it was more than that. It was a declaration to finally take care of me. 

Seeing a therapist was just the bud that would eventually bloom into a flower of self discovery. I started reading “self-help” books. I started feverishly searching for more and more “help”. That small peaking stream of light started to become a gleaming ray of sunshine starting to warm me. 

See, I learned that taking care of me isn’t selfish. I didn’t have to be a martyr, sacrificing myself for the “greater good”. If you run a car low on gas long enough, you will sputter then die- on a country road 10 miles away from the nearest gas station. You will be no good to anyone. 

I had hit my breaking point. I felt alone in all of my doings. But, changing my way of thinking brought a sense of peace. Just knowing I was making the first steps in self-care was liberating. 

When you come out of the storm you won’t be the same person that walked in. That’s what the storm is all about. 

Every single thing you go through in this life molds and shapes you into the person you are today. Changing your way of thinking will affect the outcome. The storm won’t go away, but you will be prepared with your rain boots and umbrella and then splash in the puddles. 

I could have chosen to curl in a ball and cry and let all my struggles take over my life like an evil dictator. But, I chose to make a stand, reach out for help and inner peace, and to show gratitude.

Grat•i•tude

ˈɡradəˌt(y)o͞od/ noun 

the quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and to return kindness.

I know it’s hard to show gratitude to The Universe for what it feels like being grounded to an eternal hell. But here it goes… 

Dear 2016, 

It’s been a tough one, but I thank you. Thank you for teaching me that I am stronger than I thought and for giving me the strength to persevere through my struggles. Thank you for not allowing me to give up or lose hope or my sense of self. Thank you for introducing me to a more spiritual life and for kickstarting my journey to self discovery. Thank you for showing me that I am important and that it is selfless to take joy and find peace in self care. Thank you for make me more aware, mindful, and present. I am thankful for even the little time I had with my tribe and I am thankful for new or rekindled friendships. Thank you for pushing me and giving me the courage at work and at home. And finally I am thankful for what 2017 has to offer me. With my new learnings, I know I will be better equipt to deal with the bumps in the road. I can feel, in fact I know, 2017 will bless me with great promise of amazing opportunities and new chapters in my journey. To 2017, you will be my best year for I am a better person because of 2016. I look forward to what is to come and I am ready to conquer my life, love, and enjoy more laughter. 

Love, Me

More importantly, thank you to my readers and supporters. Though we may have never met, you give me reason. And I would like you to be the first to know that because of you and 2016, I have decided to take writing this blog to the next level. I have decided to start writing my first book. I am so grateful to you. Without all of you, I would never have thought I could. 

This has turned into more than just beauty blog, this is more than just life. We are all on a journey. A journey that throws curves balls one day and sets off fireworks the next. But because of you, I know I am not alone in any of my trials or tribulations. And I hope because of me, you have learned something that has helped you along the way, too. 

We are all on this Earth together and we all only get one life. Enjoy it. Show gratitude. Be present. And for heavens sake, love YOU! You rock. You kick ass. And I know 2017 will be your best year yet too.

Happy New Year! 


Oil Love (Chapter 5: Energy, Meditation, Healing, & General Relaxation) 

If you have read some of my previous blogs on Life, you are familiar with my new found journey on taking care of ME and on ways to take care of YOU. And you know, I have an obsession with Young Living Essential Oils. So why not marry the two into one informative blog?Here, I want to elaborate on the benefits of essential oils and energy, meditation, healing, and general relaxation. Adding essential oils to your self care is not only beneficial but fun, great smelling, & extremely therapeutic. 

Essential oils are the life blood of plants just as the blood we have in our own bodies. Their healing properties for ailments have been used or thousands of years. Our bodies create energy as do essential oils and depending on what energy are bodies are creating determines what essential oil we need to balance and stabilize ourselves. 

I would dive deep into the world of energies, chakras, and frequencies but we would be here for awhile. Instead, I want to mainly focus on what happens to these when emotions come into play (as they often do). We are electrical beings living in an electrical world. Every person, element, food, emotion, and action has an energy frequency measured in MHz. In order to stay healthy mentally, emotionally, & physically, we must raise our frequencies, align and restore natural energies, remove blockages, and enhance perceptions. 

A healthy body measures at 62-68 MHz. Negative thoughts can lower our frequency by 12 MHz in just 3 seconds. A positive thought raises it by the same in about 12 seconds. When the body drops below the healthy level of frequency, sickness can occur. Your overall well being goes out the window. This is why stress and pent up emotions can cause more harm that you know. We need those “good vibrations”.  

Clinical research shows that essential oils have the highest frequency of any natural substance known to man, creating an environment in which disease, bacteria, virus, fungus, etc., cannot live. I believe that the chemistry and frequencies of essential oils have the ability to help man maintain the optimal frequency to the extent that disease cannot exist.

-Gary Young of Young Living Essential Oils

However, one must be careful when healing your energy or balancing your emotions with essential oils. Start with the oil with the lowest frequency and layer by ascending frequencies. If we were to mix the frequencies in a disorderly way, we could cause a chaotic reaction. When our bodies are in an emotional state already, it would not be wise. Why add chaos to the chaos? My favorite oils to balance my energy and raise frequency are Clarity (101 MHz), Abundance (78 MHz), Lavender (118 MHz), & Frankincense (147 MHz). 

We can diffuse or wear the essential oils topically. We can place them on the appropriate chakra. A chakra is an energy point in the body or the intersection of energy channels that are our life source and vital energies. When we are deeply connected to our energy, chakras can become spheres of radiant energy healing our emotions and/or ailments. Chakras are the gateways of consciousness. We can become intune with ourselves and become at peace. Each chakra has its own purpose, association, and connection and it is important for them to be balanced and in harmony with each other. This of this as road. When there is a road block, traffic occurs. And even if we take a detour, traffic will soon back up there. We must remove the road block to allow traffic to move freely. Root Chakra is our foundation or our “root”. When in balance we feel secure, connected, supported, strong, trusting and safe. When out of balance we feel insecure, angry, annoyed, irritated and worried about our basic needs. We become ungrounded. (Try balancing with Grounding, Patchouli, or Clove.)

Sacral Chakra is the centre for sexual energy, creativity and pure emotions. Balances your ability to give and receive feelings and emotions. When in balance we feel brave, passionate, energetic, confident, creative, spontaneous, excited, open, and kind. When out of balance we feel unsure of ourselves in relationships, vulnerabe, and fear in expressing ourselves. We tend to feel betrayed, frustrated, regret, anxieties, stressors, and guilt. (Try balancing with Release, Clary Sage, Ylang Ylang, or Sage.)

Solar Plexus Chakra is where the personality is formed and is also called our “gut instinct” chakra. When in balance we feel positive, whole, self-respected, compassionate, powerful, and hopeful. When out of balance we feel powerless, worthless, self-critical, rejected, and shameful. There is a great need to dominate and control (which is my biggest problem). (Try balancing with Cedarwood, Cinnamon Bark, or Vetiver.)

Heart Chakra is obviously our center of love, spirituality, humanity and healing. It is the major intersection of all feelings and emotions. When in balance we feel joy, gratitude, love, unity, compassion, acceptance, pride,inspiration, forgiveness and empathy. When out of balance we feel jealous, abandoned, anger, and bitterness. (Try balancing with Abundance or Bergamot.)

Throat Chakra allows us to communicate  our needs and take responsibility for decision making. When in balance we feel relaxation. We have the ability to communicate freely and express ourselves. When out of balance we feel powerless to speak out, fear of being judged and rejected. This can lead to feeling out of control, hurt, sad, and resentful (more of my personal issues). (Try balancing with Peace & Calming I/II, Stress Away, or Lavender.)

Third Eye Chakra is our perspective, spiritual wisdom, understanding, and intuition. When in balance we feel clear and focused. We are open to receiving wisdom, insight, and intelligence. There is an awareness of connectiveness. When out of balance, we reject ideas of spiritual aspects of life and become unable to self-reflect. (Try balancing with Clarity, Peppermint, or Palo Santo.)

Crown Chakra connect us to an awareness of with life, spirituality, and ourselves. We are able to live in the now. When in balance we feel empowered, calm, valued, present to the moment, trusting of the flow of life. When out of balance we feel confusion and depression. We may have very fixed, black and white thinking and unable to go with the flow. (Try balancing with Frankincense or Highest Potenial.)We lay focus on our chakras during meditaion. There are several ways to meditate. A few minutes throughout the day is all it takes to recenter yourself. Mindful Meditation: Be aware of your thoughts and emotions. Take a breath and clear your mind. Focus on accepting your thoughts, feeling, and environments in a nonjudgmental way. Allow your mind to drift into peace. We can do this anywhere- at home, in office, in traffic, etc.

Mantra Meditation: Choose a mantra or slogan that best fits your needs and solely focus on that by closing your eyes and repeating it out loud or silently to yourself. This allows us to stay current with what we want or need our of our lives. “I am worth it!” “Good things will happen!” “I will overcome!” 

Sensation Meditation: This can be done doing the dishes, petting the cats, walking, or showering. Focus on the sensations these tasks give us. Feel the warmth of the water or tickles of the bubbles, the softeness of the cat fur, or the movement of your legs or texture of the ground. Whatever task you choose to do, focus on the physical sensations and feelings. It is an on-the-go form of mindful meditation. 

Guided Meditation: Thankfully we are given the wonderful world of the Internet and YouTube. We are able to easy find readily available guided meditations. Guided meditations are essentially a script given to us to put us in a state of mindfulness and peace. Place yourself in the surroundings they describe. Allow yourself to think the thoughts it gives you. And above all else, feel! Feel the emotions it gives you.

“Meditate-because some answers cannot be answered by Google.”

Life is about free will. We have have to power to choose how we  think, feel, react, and what we decide and do. If there is chaos or negativity surrounding us, we choose how we react to it. We can either let it go or live with a sense of anxiety. We decide to take control and also live with anxiety or we can let go and say “what it the worst thing that can happen?”. Meditation, focusing on the Chakras, and balancing our energies and frequencie allows us to take steps to living a more peaceful life with a higher purpose. Essentials oils can help us on this road to self-recovery. There is power in aromatherapy and the microcells essential oils have. 

Therapy is a great start to allowing yourself to let go and feel emotions. One must be honest with not only the therapist but with oneself. You will realize that it is okay to feel what you feel and that you, essentially, aren’t crazy. You will be given ways to better deal with your situations. You will have a voice, and most importantly, an ear. 

Not into therapy? Try Reiki or an Angel Reading! These allow you to be one with your spirituality and having a sense of oneself with a greater purpose. You are not alone in this world no matter what you believe. The most important this is to stay open. Have an open mind, heart, and soul. We can’t give or receive if we are closed. Taking care of you is the bravest thing you can do. You won’t be perfect at it and- guess what?- that is okay! Stay strong! Stay diligent! Stay consistent! You will be a better person and caregiver. You will have a greater sense of YOU! Allowing yourself to let go will help you balance your emotions, have a higher frequency, all while creating a healthier you. Your well being will thank you. 

Happy Discovering You and Letting Go of the BS! Finally!!!