Why You Should Change Your Hair Style

Your hair is the crown you never take off, the best accessory you wear everyday, the epicenter of your external beauty people notice.

We change our clothes everyday. We adjust the style we wear with the event we are attending, if it’s a Netflix & Chill kind of day or if it’s a take on the town with the girls kind of night.

We don’t eat boiled chicken everyday. If we want spice, we order tacos (and margaritas.) If we want sweet, heck yes, we order cheesecake smothered in chocolate or berries or both.

When we are in a hair funk and feeling less than glorious with our mop, what should we do? CHANGE!

Hair was never meant to be static. Hair is hair that can be an array of colors, molded into numerous styles, and cut into sculptural masterpieces.

Investigate why and how your hair exudes beauty. How do you feel? Who even are you?

Change is good.

How many times have you changed your hair? Me? God, more times than I can count. I have been literally every color under the sun. I have had long, get stuck in my armpit hair and I have had pixie, shave the back of my head hair. I’ve styled it vintage, boho, rocker, & lazy. I mean I am a hairstylist so I may be bias. But, I love change.

According to a U.K. Study, a woman can change their hairstyle up to 104 times. Shit, even I am slacking (maybe). The study also found that women change their hair color at the very least 3 times and their cut on average twice a year.

But why do we have the burning desire to change our hair? And so often.

The ideal answer would be that we change to discover are uniquely true beautiful self. We finally find that perfect color, stunning length, and adorable style that accentuates all our best assets. I mean that’s the dream right? But when you find it, do you keep it forever and ever and never let it go?

Eh.

You change. Your life changes. Your body, face, & look change. And your hair follows foot. What was perfect then isn’t now. Hence why some of us change it a buttload of times. That edgy haircut your 18 year old rebel self may not be perfect for your now blank age we won’t discuss. The long, luxurious locks may be too difficult to tame with your now busy lifestyle.

Who you were yesterday is not who you are today. Who you are today will not be who you are tomorrow. So embrace change baby.

Word of caution though. Emotional changes need to be carefully thought out. Don’t go wacking off your locks because the d-bag broke up with you. Don’t go turning your platinum to black because you lost your job, your dog died, or your last friend had a baby and your about to be the old lady in the shoe with umpteen cats. Stop. Breathe. Think about it first. Don’t be going jumping out this hairstyle change plane without a parachute. Lucky for you, if you got a fantastic hairstylist, she’s flying tandem with you.

Life isn’t easy. (If you read my blogs, your probably like yea this poor girl got it real good this year.)

We all encounter conflicts, trials, & devastations. Sometimes, life just falls flat.

All those shitty, life-sucking events can drain out confidence. Once that pond is dried up, you kind of want to curl up with one of those umpteen cats with a pint (maybe 2) of Ben & Jerry’s, and go on strike from the adult world.

I get it.

We need a swift kick in the ass from the confidence boot. What better way than to book an appointment at a decadent salon (preferably mine… cough cough… Live Salon) and pamper your damn self. It is almost impossible to not walk out of there doing hair flips and feeling yourself.

Not only will you and your hair feel banging but you will more than likely receive a bazillion compliments from friends, family, and the lady behind you at Walmart.

A new ‘do can completely transform your image. Sometimes we just need to shed our skin and develop new. We change our jobs, we move, we redecorate our homes, we wear heels and we wear sneaks. Who wants to wear the same hairstyle we wore in our 4th grade pictures for the rest of our life? I sure as hell don’t. (Those pictures are hidden forever.)

“A women who changes her hair is about to change her life.” -Coco Chanel

Well said, Coco.

There are times we want to look sophisticated, sexy, professional, edgy, or gym-like. We wouldn’t go to an interview for a Fortune 500 company with a pink Mohawk nor would we go on a date with a hot man with a headband and sweaty bun. We transform when times call.

Needless to say, a new haircut is cheaper than redoing your kitchen or continuing to have that new car smell.

It is cheaper than botox. A new color or cut or even a minor style change can cut years off your looks.

Just because you are 60 does not mean you need to lop off your locks and go au naturel. That’s BS. Seeing an experienced stylist that can offer you advice on what would bring out the spring chicken in you would be a wise decision.

Life changing.

No seriously, a new ‘do can be life changing. Don’t laugh. It’s true.

At times we use our hair as our security blanket or body armor. We cling to it even when it doesn’t suit our truest self because it’s all we know. We don’t eat tomatoes because our parents hated tomatoes, but tomatoes are flipping delicious vegetables or fruits or whatever they are calling themselves these days.

Our attitude, personality, and inner beauty are all inextricably connected to our external style and ultimately our hair. Think of how badass, beautiful, and chatty you feel when you leave the salon and your appointment landed on your work’s holiday party compared to slinking into Walmart when you ran out of tampons in your jammies hoping you see like zero people you know.

I’ve seen grander stories happen- the shy girl who hid behind bangs and glasses suddenly walk around like her shit don’t stank because she went all platinum blonde ombré with her bad self or the 60 year old cancer survivor who wore ball caps and pony tails to cover the grey and thinness look in the mirror crying with her new brunette pixie not believing that she could look so beautiful again.

It happened. I saw it. And a simple hairstyle change can move mountains for you too.

How could you not want to wrestle in your own confidence, passion, or badassery? Do you not want to feel sexy, powerful, or perfectly feminine? To receive that unbelievable energy from a new hairstyle you have been dying to try is exhilarating.

Change your hair. Change you. Change the world.

Happy Transforming!

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I’m a Girl Boss, Baby


Holy crap! I opened my own salon. Yup, I am now a girl boss, a female entrepreneur, in charge of her own destiny. 

Scary, yet thrilling shit. 

Most people plan businesses for years. Nope, not me. Left my last job, sulked and panicked for about a month, signed a lease, and a month and half later the doors of the salon opened. 

Crazy. I think so. 

Boy, have I learned a lot. I’ve learned the difference between a sole proprietorship and a LLC, that there is a thing called Business Privledge Tax, that it helps to know people, and shit ain’t cheap. I thank god everyday for Google. There were a ton of sleepless nights and busy fingers searching the wide interweb for literally every bit of information I would need- tax write-offs, salon furniture, Pinterest binging. 

Even wine wouldn’t calm me. 

Honestly though, through the chaos what I learned the most is one, I am one tough cookie, and two, I have the best god damn support system a girl could ask for. 


Without risk, there is no success. Why? Because you didn’t try. I sometimes sit in my salon at the end of the night at like 10 pm (probably with a glass of wine) and I look around and think- I really did this. And I did this in a month and a half. If I could high five myself I would. (But I have really big windows and somebody would think I was crazy.)

But no seriously, I did this. If I did it, so can you. Us women, sure we are crazy- Crazy awesome. Crazy strong, crazy stubborn, determined, independent, but we are some bad ass bitches. 


It took something horrible to happen to me to light a fire under my toosh. But now, I am so thankful. It was a blessing in disguise. I see that now.

I am a girl boss. (For crying out loud, my last name is Bossi.) 

I’m still scared but I am okay with that. If I wasn’t I wouldn’t push myself. I wouldn’t fight for this every single day. 

It is important for me to succeed not just for me or my family but for every other future girl boss out there. For real though, if I can open a salon in a month an a half with very little money and almost zero cash flow, you can learn to fly a plane or knit or open up your own stinkin’ business. 

Celebrate your past, your mistakes, and your shortcomings. Rejoice in your success. The value is in what you learn along the way. And honey, you will learn you too are a bad ass girl boss! 

Happy Bossin’ like a Girl! 


The Relationship With Your Stylist

For many people, men & women, the bond with a hair stylist is the most important “service” relationship of their lives. This relationship may stand the tests of time, lasting longer than friendships, jobs and even marriages.

You see them before (and after) big events & important times in your lives: weddings, new careers, births of babies, graduations, etc, etc. They see you through the bumps in the roads including break ups, funerals, losses of pets, and again, etc, etc. 

They become your closest friend without the ties. They see you at your worst and at your best. They make you feel better on the inside and out. You are in 100% infull contact with your hair stylist. 

The two main people you tell all your secrets to is your bar tender and hair dresser. 

As a hair dresser, I appreciate the fact that my clients open up to me, and I to them. It builds rapport and trust. 
With trust, my clients are not only able to be honest about their lives but also honest with what they want to achieve with their looks. 

What you feel on the inside will exude on the outside. I know that if my clients are having a bad day to spend a little extra time with the head massage and offer special styling at the end of the service. I don’t care if they are just going home to clean. They will clean up toys and do dishes looking like a super model. And guarenteed they feel even the smallest bit better on the inside.

With trust, my client’s expect me to give them my best professional opinion or ideas. They are then able to sit in my chair and actually relax. At home and work, they make all the decisions. Within the salon, they can be sure I will make the best decision for them and they will be comfortable with the results. 

It’s all about the experience. And excellence in service should be the way of life of a hairstylist. 


Love your clients as much as they love you. 

And women, find a stylist that you “connect” with. 

Happy being happy in and behind the chair! 

Reflections (A MUST READ, BREAK OUT THE TISSUES BLOG FROM A FELLOW BLOGGER) 


I had to share this with all of my readers, no the world. I am insanely proud to share this. 
A beautiful friend, coworker, and fellow blogger has written the most heartfelt blog. 

Reflections (From the SB Blog)
Now that you have wiped the tears and snot pouring from your nose, let’s make 2017 beautiful! Spread some love! Take care of you! Make the world a better place! Look at your reflection and say… DAMN! I got this! I rock! I kickass! And my life is beautiful! 

Happy 2017 My Lovelies! 


When the Weather (not the hair) is Frightful


Blah… it’s winter. 

While the season is perfect to get comfortable with a cup of hot cocoa, Netflix, & your cat, you can’t ignore the fact that the dry, dreary, plain yucky weather can wreak havoc on your hair. Don’t fret! There are plenty of ways you can protect your hair from the dreaded weather. 

Your hair starts to become more difficult to retain moisture, making it dry, brittle, and prone to breakage and damage, not to mention the frizz and static that often comes (though doesn’t go) with your winter wardrobe. However, these are all problems that can be avoided as long as you have the right hair care routine for winter. Don’t let your hair fall victim to the winter blues too! When Snowflakes Fall… From Your Scalp

Your scalp is drier and itchier than ever during the winter months because of the lack of moisture in the air. This is why your poor skin in dry and it seems you have to bathe with lotion. It leads to issues like dandruff and scalp irritation, which can lead to hair loss in severe cases. What most people don’t realize is that the dandruff problem can be manageable with the right care and a little love. 

Pureology Hydrate Shampoo & Conditioner (The Peppermint, Sage, & Rosemary create a cooling, invigorating feeling on your scalp relieving it of the itch and flakes.)

Redken Scalp Relief (This has powerful ingredients such as Zinc to relieve the agitation of the dryness and itch.)

Young Living Rosemary & Lavender Essential Oils (Mix with Coconut Oil as a mask or make a mist with distilled water & witch hazel for natural relief.) 2 Gifts Not Wanted for Christmas… Frizz & Static

One of the most annoying things about winter is all of the static and frizz. The hoodies, sweater, scarves, gloves, and beanies all seem to gang up on your hair, like your older aunts and grandmas wanting to smooch you at your holiday gatherings. To tackle this, wash your hair only with lukewarm water, NOT hot water, as the latter will strip away the natural oils and blow open the cuticle that protect and nourish your hair. Apply a leave-in conditioner or frizz fighting serum or lotion to keep your hair smooth.

Pureology Colour Fanatic Multi-Tasking Hair Beautifier (This provides 21 benefits including static reducing and frizz fighting.)

Redken Frizz Dismiss Regimen (My ultimate favorite for all hair types since it is customizable. It also includes “dryer” sheets for your hair to tame the frizz on the run.)

Young Living Sandalwood with Almond Oil as a serum is a natural and fantastic way to fight frizz. Shine Bright like a Diamond Pendent Your Husband Should Have Bought You (Instead of the Blender) 

The lack of moisture in winter not only dries out your scalp and makes your hair frizzy, but also leaves your hair looking dull, lifeless, as a blah. Ask your stylists about conditioning shine treatments such as a Redken Shades EQ Gloss. 

Pureology Shine Max (This serum adds light reflecting shine while making your hair soft and luxurious. This also tames stray fly aways without making you look like a grease pit.)

Redken Diamond Oil Pillow Proof Glow Dry (Honest to God, this is hair crack. Now only does it add insane shine without the weight of an oil, it protects against heat and blow dries your hair 50% faster.)

Honey with Young Living Roman Chamomile Essential Oil (Honey is a humectant that seals in the moisture and helps restore shine to dull and damaged hair. Roman Chamomile soothes scalp and adds softness to hair strands. Leave on for 30 minutes and rinse well.)Get Warm (With Cocoa, a Blankie, & Hair Mask)

Ensure your follicles get all the nourishment and love you can give them by warming them up a tad. Throw on your slippers, relax and moisturize your hair under a cap. Purchase a cheap shower cap at the dollar store and allow it to work wonders. Putting one on while deep conditioning will trap the heat, open the cuticle, and allow the conditioner to deeply penetrate the hair shaft.

Pureology Precious Oil Softening Hair Masque (This intensely moisturizes with Sunflower & Coconut Oil.)

Redken Diamond Oil Deep Facets Intensive Treatment Mask (This provides intensive nourishment and provides a protective layer of oils to help prevent damage.)

Warmed Olive Oil & Young Living Geranium (Smell fantastic while naturally giving your hair some much needed love.)Keep Your Hair Cool… Not Hot

Scorching hot water in the shower may feel great on a cold winter’s morning but you are causing more harm than good. Your skin and hair loses all it natural oils and your pores and hair cuticles remains open. Lock in moisture by rinsing with warm to cool, NOT hot. Fun tip: Apply a thin layer of coconut oil to your skin (and hair if your hair is thick and course) before rinsing. Your skin will remain silky and soft. Also, blow dry your hair on low or medium heat. Let’s take just 5 more minutes in the morning. It’s not that bad… and I promise you, you’ll thank me. Plus, it’s more time to hide from your kids and husbands. Towels and Hats and Friction… OH MY!

Rubbing your hair with a towel when you get out of the shower can cause some serious breakage. Your hair is at its weakest state when it is wet. Blot and squeeze the excess water out. Hats are another culprit for breakage. I get it, it’s freaking cold and we need hats-plain and simple. However, taking them on and off can cause friction, breakage, and horrible static. Try putting a silk bandana in the hat or wrapping a silk scarf around your head first before adorning your cute winter hat. Add Some Color to the Gray & Drab 

Spice up your look with a new color. Don’t go drastic since lord knows you will change your mind come spring. However, a little makeover does wonders for our mood. While your at it, treat yourself to a mani/pedi…. and maybe a glass of champagne. Apply some Young Living Stress Away or Peace & Calming and just relax. 


Happy Winter my little snowflakes! Be as unique as they are! 

A Spotlight on Yours Truly (Written By a Fellow Blogger, Coworker, & Friend) 

I am so grateful to be working with some amazing people. It is amazing to build and work with a team who are more than coworkers but family. 

My fellow coworker and friend, Jaimy, has taken on the task in writing the blog for Salon Boutique, and this month, she has chosen to write a beautiful spotlight on me. Filled with fun facts and humor, I couldn’t ask for a better excerpt of this blog written about me. Thank you from the bottom of my heart and I hope my readers here love it as much as I do. Pretty sure she got me dead on! 

SB Squad Stylist Spotlight: The Bossi Edition
Happy Reading!

The Adventures of Marlena’s Hair Has Continued! 

Listen, this girl has given me a challenge of a lifetime. It has taken, what it feels like a gazillion processes to achieve what I like to think of as a complete and utter miracle. 

Marlena has called me her “Hair Angel Sent From Heaven”. I don’t know if I would go that far, but I was a bit of a miracle worker. (Pat on the back for me!) 

If you are new to The Adventures of Marlena’s Hair, click below to read the whole story. It is a must to really feel the whole effect of this miraculous creation. 

Read Me! Read Me!

After achieving what I thought was success, of course she couldn’t stop there. This is the glory and horror of our profession. We have a rainbow of colors and a plethora of shears on hand and dangerously creative minds that shoot out endless ideas like a machine gun. 

Let us take a look at what we had achieved. Pretty darn amazing figuring we came from the blue from hell. I know pretty incredible!!!!!! 

Marlena then decided to cut her hair and I mean cut. All that work and we wack it off. Though, her hair felt amazing even after the bazillion processes, a good haircut wasn’t a bad idea. To top it off, it is pretty cute. 

But let’s add one more task to make my life harder. How about going blonder? 

Whoa is me! 

I knew that green was going to rear it’s ugly head again. Luckily, these are times I love my job. It’s exhilarating to have a challenge. Minor note: I love insane challenges only when the person I am servicing understands the process is unpredictable… as well as the cost. Anything is possible with time, patience, trust, and a full wallet. 

After some major fading and a clarifying treatment, here is what I had to work with:

I started by weaving thin highlights of Lightener throughout her entire head root to end. Between the foils, I toned some of the sage green with a light red orange. I let her sit for about a half hour only to save the integrity of her hair. 

After rinsing and blow drying, we were left with a too warm of root and mint green and yellow blonde ends. I wish I had a picture. 

This is again when the fun part starts. Formulating. This is when I had to come up with one color for the root area and one for the ends and have them both blend and match. 

For the root, I used a Level 7 Mocha. I love the Mochas in Redken Shades EQ Cream. They are a cool warm and just beautiful. For the ends, I used the same light red orange as before. 

The root color turned out gorgeous. However, to my dismay, the ends did nothing but look like crud. 

Time for the thinking cap and reassurance from another stylist. I remembered a formula for a Rose Gold I did on a client recently. What the hell? What could it hurt? With a more pigmented red, maybe the green would finally cancel out. I mixed a Level 5 red violet with a light titanium with clear and processed for 5-8 minutes all at the same time doing a lot of praying. 

After checking to make sure most of the green was neutralized, I rinsed. 

After blow drying even just one section, I was jumping for joy. SUCCESS! 

Holy crap was it perfectly beautiful?Check it out!  Eeeeeeek! I am so excited! I couldn’t have asked for a better turnout! I mean come one, look what we did! A miracle I tell you! 

Let us review: What will we do next! Stay tuned!!

Happy Changing Your Color and Praying at the Same Time!