You. 

I have learned, especially recently, that it is MOST Important to believe in yourself, count in yourself, and above all else, love yourself. When it comes down to it all, you are your own constant. Friends can come and go. Family can change. Relationships can end. Though, I hope they don’t. YOU are a permanent fixture in YOUR life. If you are anything like me, you will bend over backwards for anyone and everyone. You love so much that it hurts. You are everyone else’s constant, their go-to. And that’s okay. At some point, however, you will break. Your batteries will die. The thing is… We forgot to take care of ourselves. We all have our daily struggles…some more than others. We somehow have to become gymnastic Olympians and perform ridiculous routines on the balance beam. We are bound to fall off. I mean, shit! We can’t be perfect. Though, we try like hell. Balance is key. Find something that makes YOU happy, whatever that may be. When we juggle so many things, we tend to loose ourselves. Who are you? What do you like? What will make you happy? Can you answer these? Obviously, keep your dreams and wishes realistic. Reach for the stars, not another universe. You want to be able to actually achieve a goal. I, too, want to be a millionaire who never ages and has her own solo album with a shoe closet the size of a small country and a man who looks like David Beckham. But…. I can’t. What I can do is spend an hour during the week taking a class of some sort. I can write this blog in my spare time because I enjoy it. I can paint a room in my house while drinking wine and jamming to tunes. When are you the happiest? Is it when you have 5 minutes alone in the bathroom? Make it 15. Is it creating something? Take a class. Start crafting. Is it pushing yourself farther to succeed? Hustle, baby. Whatever makes you happy… DO IT!Be diligent. Don’t give up on yourself. Better yet, don’t forget about yourself. We always end up learning that the hard way.WORK TO LIVE, NOT LIVE TO WORK. That’s means for other people, too. Don’t always be a fall back. And don’t spend your whole life busting your buns at work so much that you forget to experience moments of simple life. OVERCOME YOUR STRESS! Finding some you time may not cure your stress, but you will be a better you and with that, stress will affect you less. And guess what? DON’T FEEL GUILTY ABOUT IT! Without taking the time to care for yourself, your work, relationships, and health will suffer.PRIORITIZE YOUR NEEDS! And it is okay to ask for help. Hey! You are there for everyone else! And say no. We cannot be superheroes. Try as we might, we can’t do it all.

Recent studies have shown women are less happy than they have been in over 40 years.

Think of it this way. We are first responders. Would you want your EMT running on fumes? Nope. We need to be rested and fulfilled to properly do our jobs as a worker, mother, wife, friend. Put yourself in the calendar. And do not cancel. Make it as important as a doctor’s appointment. And do not multitask. Don’t take work emails while you are at the nail salon. Stay present in YOUR moment. My favorite quote is:

The greatest thing you will ever learn is just to love and be loved in return.

The funny thing is, I never thought of returning love to myself. 

Everyday, I am trying to practice what I preach here. And though I am no where near where I want to be nor have what I want to have. I am vowing to make a conscious effort to focus on me, step out of the drama, and to ask for help. But I’ll take it slow. My future self will thank me. And eventually my friends, family, and coworkers will thank me.Happy Finding You! 

Make Today Your……

           

Bring it on, Baby!

Every day is a new day and how we start it is the most important. We all have heard the sayings:

Well, she woke up on the wrong side of the bed this morning!

Or….

Who pi$$ed in her Wheaties this morning?

Let’s not be those people, people! 

Now, grant it, we will have our bad days. We aren’t perfect. We are only mere humans. 

In this blog, I will share my daily routine (though it is not perfect) that encourages it to be as good as it can be through the use of hair & makeup products and essential oils. I am always happy to receive readers comments! So tell me your unique ways to make your day great!  

Yea, needless to say, I am not a pleasant person before my coffee. Please, do not talk to me for atleast 20 minutes and allow me to ready myself for the day’s adventures. Recently, I have found some morning boost with Young Living’s En-R-Gee Blend. The smell alone will put a little pep in your step. It’s strong. I’ll diffuse it in the bathroom while I get my act together or I have added it in my unscented lotion on days that I may need everything short of super powers. 

If you would see me in the morning, I look like a cross between a Q-tip and a cockatoo. It’s a bit ridiculous. So even on days that I pull out the Lazy Card, I still manage to pull my hair up in a messy bun… Or Top Knot when I want to sound fancy. Don’t over think the bun ladies! I know you do. Let me bring you in on a little tip: 

Lay on your bed and let you head hang off. Slowing glide your head onto the bed. This automatically smooths the underneath and brings your hair to the top of your head. Wrap it in your ponytail. Spread out the hair with your fingers to give the bun the fullness and look you want. 

Look at that…. Easy! 

On my extra special lazy days, I reach for a hat. Luckily for us, hats are hugely in style. Grab yourself an adorable fedora and no one will ever know your hair hasn’t been washed in 3 days. If it wasn’t for bronzer, brow pencil, mascara and most importantly, lipstick, my day could not start proper. Now, if you are anything like me, you are a lipstick hoarder… I mean, collector. My job requires me to wear black and black with splashes of black. Lipstick is my color! I switch which color I use daily to spice things up and brighten my mood. When I am feeling powerful, I break out that red lipstick! Nothing says GET IT like cherry red lips. When I am down in the dumps, I apply hot pink. When I’m feeling sassy, dark lips is the way to go. Play with lipstick, ladies! I mean, c’mon, there’s a bazillion colors out there waiting to be “collected”.After fixing my face and hair, I venture to my essential oil cabinet. Depending on how I want to conquer the day determines which oils I choose to use. However, I do add 1-2 drops of Cedarwood to my unscented lotion everyday. I have even added it to my hair cream, too. It is amazing for your skin and hair. It also opens your mind and relieves anxiety. Win win! 

If I am feeling extra motivated to conquer my work day in both the creative and business aspects, Live Your Passion blend is my must have. I will wear it as a perfume.

If I know I am going to have to muscle up some extra brain power, Clarity Blend is my go to. I have even added Peppermint to up the ante. Clarity is also great when it’s paired with En-R-Gee. These bad boys go right into my diffuser necklace. These scents are pretty strong and I am always awakened when they get wafted up towards my nose.It’s important to take care of yourself through the day as well. Take your vitamins, eat somewhat well, and drink your water. If it wasn’t for Young Living’s Citrus Fresh Blend, I would never drink a drop. Citrus Fresh also supports one’s immune system and helps cleanse and open your lymphatic system.

I also keep following oils close at bay:

  • Lavender- All hail to Lavender. Yup! It does everything. It is connected at the hip with me. 
  • Stress Away Blend- When a bump occurs in my good days’s road, this blend is my savior.
  • M-Grain Blend- I use this on my brows, temples, and base of head when I feel a stress or tension headache coming on. Migraines will ruin my day, so if I feel one coming one, I immediately grab this. When caught early enough, my migraine never rears it’s ugly head.

Please read through a lot of my past blogs to get more information on my favorite beauty products and tips, tricks, and advice on your hair & makeup and essential oil uses. 
End your day on a good note! Slip on those mismatching pjs, wipe away the day’s grime, and pour yourself some wine… Or tea or whatever it may be to soothe and relax you.

Figure out what allows you to decompress after the day’s adventures. Whether it be yoga, reading, crappy TV drama, or cuddling with your cats, do it! It’s important to decompress or believe me, you will be up all night thinking endlessly of what happened, what could have happened, what will happen…. STOP! After my pjs are on and before my butt hits the couch, I do my nightly routine. I’m setting myself up for my next great day! 

I remove my makeup and apply a night oil of Fractionated Coconut Oil and Frankincense. It keeps my face smooth and has amazing anti-aging capabilities. I then apply my lotion mixed with a drop of Cedarwood. Cedarwood also has been known to help with insomnia. Valerian Oil also aids in sleep. I massage this on my brain stem and behind ears. Young Living’s Release Blend over the liver allows you to rid yourself of negativity energy. Negativity energy is stored in your liver, resulting in not-so-good health and emotional stability. I like using this at night, because at the end of the day, it is just nice to let go.


In my diffuser, my new favorite concoction is a perfect blend of Cedarwood, Valerian, & Bergamot. All my cares drift away and sleep is warmly welcomed. 

On days that may have been extra hard, I will take a hot shower to relax my muscles, follow my oil routine, and in my diffuser I put SARA blend and spray Lavender on my bedding. The smell is intoxicating and my stress melts away. 

What’s your favorite diffuser recipe? 


Sleep is so essential to your next day being amazing. You need sleep to wake up, kick ass, & conquer the next day! 

Again, somedays we may fall. Somedays we may not look or feel our best. But if we can find a little bit of motivation whether it be in the form of a beauty routine or product, by a drop of an oil, or even a chant of inspiration.

Happy Making Your Day Whatever You Want It To Be!

Oil Love (Chapter 4)

Since my last chapter, my collection has grown extensively. When my order comes in, I’m as giddy as a child on Christmas morning. 

Hi. My name is Amanda Bossi and I am an Oil Addict. 

I am not ashamed.

Since I wrote last, there have been quite a few instances when Essential Oils have been a savior to me. I love sharing my adventures in the Oily World.

Here’s a few: 

Bug Bite BusterSomehow, someway my poor feet were devoured like they were on the buffet for mosquitoes or God-only-knows what kind of mutant bug. 

At night, they would itch so bad that they felt like they were on fire. I tried everything from Lavender Oil, Hydrocortisone Cream, Apple Cider Vinegar, to Ice Packs. NOTHING was working. Finally, after 2 nights of no sleep and baking muffins at 2 am, I found a solution:

  • 1/2 of a shot glass of Rubbing Alcohol
  • 1 drop Lavender Oil
  • 2 drops Peppermint

I dipped a cotton ball in the solution and rubbed it on each bite in circles.

Within minutes I felt a cooling sensation and the annoying itch was gone. Hallejula! I finally found solace and could, at last, sleep.

Release the NegativitySo I ordered Young Living’s Release Blend mainly for my husband who has issues with his liver. After reading more into it, I was excited to find that even I could use it to release any negative energies stored in my own liver. I read that many times people have cry fests after application. I could use a good cry… Or so I thought. 

Well, the night I got it, I opened it, and applied it. Needless to say, it was not pretty. Whatever you have built up, be prepared to have it all come out like vomit. I have been going through some personal issues and have been trying really hard to stay strong. Well, obviously I have not been because every emotion came spewing out. I was hysterically crying. I yelled. And shit, I even threw stuff. 

But after the short-lived Hurricane Amanda happened, all I wanted was to be held. I wanted to feel comfort and peace. 

This oil worked for sure. And I am glad it did. Now I feel I am ready to mend and heal. 

When Counting Sheep Stops WorkingBesides the 2 nights I layed awake contemplating cutting off my feet, my new found favorite sleep oil routine had been working. 

Like any artist, all my creativity somehow comes out after the sun sets. Not only that, I am a woman and women’s minds are like spaghetti. Our minds do things and thinks things in groups of 1000 and work at warp speed. It’s like entangled noodles we are trying to pick up with a spork.

I get these spells when, forget it, my mind’s off switch is broken and the repair man took a vacation. I found a routine that seems to duct tape the off switch together which is good enough for me when I am desperate.

I use a spray of Lavender Oil on my bedding, diffuse Bergamot mixed with either Stress Away or Lavender, and use Valerian on neck and behind ears. This has allowed me to relax enough that I can fall asleep within an hour. 

This brings me to my next Oily Cure:

Mental Stability & FocusSo as I said before about our brains being spaghetti, even during the day our brains can loose focus on tasks at hand or even just of what is important. Young Living’s Clarity Blend applied on wrists and brows, diffused, or worn in my necklace has helped tremendously. 

Now to something yummy….

Homemade Pasta Sauce Here is my not-so-secret recipe:

  • 8-10 Tomatoes of Your Choice ( I have used Roma, San Marzano, Pineapple, or Heilooms in batches)
  • 1/2 of a Large Onion
  • 1 Bell Pepper 

I cut all of these up and lay them on a cookie sheet. I then drizzle a mixture of:

  • Olive Oil
  • Minced Garlic
  • 1 drop Oregeno Vitality Oil
  • 1 drop Basil Vitality Oil
  • Dash of Salt and Pepper

Occasionally I will add Red Pepper Flakes or Sugar depending if I want a more sweeter or spicier sauce.

Bake on 425 degrees for 30-45 minutes. Pour into blender and blend until smooth. Place into mason jar and allow to cool on counter until cool. Place in fridge or freezer. 

Voila! 

Stay tuned for my next Oily Adventures!

In the meantime, feel free to catch up on my previous Oil Love Chapters:

Or check out Young Living’s website. If you are interested in becoming a member of ordering your starter kit…

 click here—> ENROLL! Enroll! ENROLL!

Happy Oiling!

Hair & Social Media: The Trickery 


It’s everywhere! Hair is everywhere! Hair photos have taken over the Internet… almost as much as cat videos. 

I know you do it. You sit there and endlessly scroll through the dreamy photos and pin, pin, pin. And I’m sure you whimper, only wishing you could have every one of the colors in the rainbow and think of changing it once a week. 

Guess what? You can’t. Hard to believe. I know. And I hate to be the bubble buster. But someone has to be honest and bring you back down from la-la land. 

Not only that but over half of these photos are photoshopped. It’s the same head! Let me show you…. 


Mind Blown. 

This is why us hairstylists have such issues with these photos. They set unrealistic expectations and somehow we are supposed to have this magic wand to make this stuff happen. Listen, we would love to, however technology hasn’t evolved to the point to allow one to walk around photoshopped in real life. Trust me, I would be walking around cinched and pinched everywhere if that was the case.

Expecting to look exactly like these photos makes for some not good times. Your hairstylist is sweating because your beaming and itching for this mermaid hair. Us hairstylists can only do so much. We can get you close, but it will never be the same. And BAM! All of a sudden, though to no surprise, you are unhappy and now your hairstylist is unhappy and it’s just a recipe for disaster. 

Don’t worry! I was fooled as well for awhile. And then after like the 5th client who wanted rainbow sprinkle hair, I was like, “What the hell is going on?!” I decided to pretend I was the client and started searching the wide world of Pinterest for these hair color photos. And wouldn’t you know…. There were the same damn heads! 

I don’t mind using these photos or my clients bringing them in, but realize they should be inspiration not expectation. Talk with your stylist first to see what is actually achievable.

And please find real time photos of a specific stylist’s work. Most have albums on their personal or salon social media pages or look on the salon’s website. What have they been able to achieve? 

Below is some of my personal work that can easily be found on social media. These are unphotoshopped and I normally post almost immediately after they leave the salon. 


Disclaimer: Nothing is guaranteed in one visit. Please discuss with a stylist a game plan to achieve your desired look. And be prepared financially. Multiple services and visits will cost more. Also, if you have been dying your hair with black box color, either forget it or don’t expect it completed for like a year. 

What are your thoughts? Have you been fooled? Go ahead! Get on the Internet and look up tutorials on how to photoshop your hair color. Again… Mind Blown.

Happy Hair Coloring….. Realistically!