My Wish for My Future

Starting this blog, I wanted to write to educate people on hair and makeup but the more my fingers moved across the screen the more and more I was inspired to write more about life. 

Unfortunately, I haven’t written lately and I do feel at a loss. See, this little thing in life loves to throw some curve balls at us. My life, it seems someone turned that automatic ball pitcher on over drive and pointed it directly at my face. 

I used another metaphor recently about my life. I feel like this hurricane came ripping through flooding and destroying and I am standing on a roof top desperately waiting for FEMA to rescue me. 

Recently, I have had a bit of a job change. Well, I guess you can call it a major job change. I went from being comfortable and successful where I was in an environment that I ate, slept, and shat the values to treading feverishly in uncharted territories. (Soon, I will write a blog further discussed such territories. Soon.) 

When you go through such a change, unexpected nonetheless. It’s fucking scary. You don’t know when to duck or swing the bat or you find yourself standing on the rooftop frantically waving rescue helipcopter tired, hungry, and dehydrated to no avail. It’s exhausting. 

But then I remember what I eventually began set out to do with this simple blog. And the quote at the beginning of this blog stated it all. 

“I aspire to be an empowered woman with vision and grace, soft-hearted but strong, self-aware and sure, respected for my mind, admired for my heart, and above all else, always honest, open, and raw.”

My definition of success is making a difference and have a successor, maybe not in the same business but someone who was inspired by me, who was empowered by me, who took life by the balls and reached their dreams faster than me. 

My wish for my future, no matter where I am or what I am doing, is to make a difference, to create beauty not just on another but in the world, to provide someone with a hand, a ear, or a shoulder to cry on. I want to inspire, empower, and to create something great, not just for me but for those directly surrounding me, my community, or the world. 

See, even when life throws you an accelerated curve ball or tries to drown you in a hurricane, you need to sit on your helmet, head butt those damn things, put on your floaters, and swim to your own safety. You are in control of you own life. I am in control of my own destiny. And your future and my future depends on ourselves. 

So I am asking you to write out your wish for your future and every day do something, even the smallest thing, that is going to take you closer to it. Everyday show gratitude. Thank The Universe, thank your mistakes, thank your successes, and thank every single person around you. 

You life is going to be amazing. You are going to make a difference. I AM GOING TO MAKE A DIFFERENCE. Believe in yourself. And when times are tough, toss your hair back, throw up your middle fingers, and exclaim- “I got this shit.”

My wish for my life is that you read this and you felt something. I always promised to be honest, open, and raw. Because of that, everything else will fall into place. 

Happy Wishing, Dreaming, Swimming, and Smacking Those Curveballs Out of the Park! 

Change & Show Gratitude 


Change is a scary fn thing. 

Needless to say, I have had a crap ton of change lately. Enough for a couple people’s worth.

 Mainly, my change in work. 

Don’t worry! I am still doing hair. 

When you work somewhere for over 5 years, you eat, sleep, & breathe that place. It becomes you. 

However, life likes to throw some curve balls at me. Too many of them and this one hit me plain in the face. 

Everyday it’s a struggle for me to say- Change is good. Everyday it’s painstaking to think- Everything happens for a reason. 

But let me tell you- I am blessed. 

I am blessed for my true supporters, my friends, my family. I am blessed I was given a gift to touch more than just hair. I am blessed to not only be given a creative mind but a good heart and damn good head on my shoulders. 

Even through this shitty part of life, I can still show gratitude. Gratitude towards those who have let me go. Gratitude to my clients, who are more friends and family than anything, who have stood by me. And gratitude to The Universe for giving me the strength to persevere.

For what you give, you will receive. 

Without this change, I wouldn’t believe in myself like I do now. I perhaps would have taken for granted the love my clients, friends, family, and The Universe have for me. I would have gotten comfortable and comfort stunts growth. 

So even though it’s a struggle and it’s painstaking- Change will the new adventure. Change will lead the way to bigger and better things. Change will bring out joy in the masses. 

I will be change and change will be good. 


So to my clients, my friends, and my family who are supporting me, thank you. Thank you for believing in me, loving me, and standing by me and my craft. Thank you for being patient and kind. Thank you for giving me the courage to go forth in my dreams. I am strong because you are strong with me. Thank you for taking this ride with me. I couldn’t do it alone. 

Change is just the beginning. 


Happy Living, Changing, & Forever Growing 

The Relationship With Your Stylist

For many people, men & women, the bond with a hair stylist is the most important “service” relationship of their lives. This relationship may stand the tests of time, lasting longer than friendships, jobs and even marriages.

You see them before (and after) big events & important times in your lives: weddings, new careers, births of babies, graduations, etc, etc. They see you through the bumps in the roads including break ups, funerals, losses of pets, and again, etc, etc. 

They become your closest friend without the ties. They see you at your worst and at your best. They make you feel better on the inside and out. You are in 100% infull contact with your hair stylist. 

The two main people you tell all your secrets to is your bar tender and hair dresser. 

As a hair dresser, I appreciate the fact that my clients open up to me, and I to them. It builds rapport and trust. 
With trust, my clients are not only able to be honest about their lives but also honest with what they want to achieve with their looks. 

What you feel on the inside will exude on the outside. I know that if my clients are having a bad day to spend a little extra time with the head massage and offer special styling at the end of the service. I don’t care if they are just going home to clean. They will clean up toys and do dishes looking like a super model. And guarenteed they feel even the smallest bit better on the inside.

With trust, my client’s expect me to give them my best professional opinion or ideas. They are then able to sit in my chair and actually relax. At home and work, they make all the decisions. Within the salon, they can be sure I will make the best decision for them and they will be comfortable with the results. 

It’s all about the experience. And excellence in service should be the way of life of a hairstylist. 


Love your clients as much as they love you. 

And women, find a stylist that you “connect” with. 

Happy being happy in and behind the chair! 

Reflections (A MUST READ, BREAK OUT THE TISSUES BLOG FROM A FELLOW BLOGGER) 


I had to share this with all of my readers, no the world. I am insanely proud to share this. 
A beautiful friend, coworker, and fellow blogger has written the most heartfelt blog. 

Reflections (From the SB Blog)
Now that you have wiped the tears and snot pouring from your nose, let’s make 2017 beautiful! Spread some love! Take care of you! Make the world a better place! Look at your reflection and say… DAMN! I got this! I rock! I kickass! And my life is beautiful! 

Happy 2017 My Lovelies! 


Thank You 2016 

This year, like so many before, has taught me a plethora of life lessons. I have always been so quick to dismiss the previous year with all its struggles and look towards the next with half-ass hope. 

This was one of the most difficult years in my life. Somewhere along the way I became lost. I started mourning the loss of the “good ol’ times” and began thinking, “What the hell! This isn’t how I imagined my life would be right now.” All of a sudden it was like I woke up and- poof! My marriage was hanging on by a single thread. My career, though lucrative, was now a constant grey area of new and unfamiliar responsibilities and struggles. My tribe of friends disappeared into the clouds of their own lives. And family issues, of course, had reared their ugly heads. 

In 2015, I got married. That whole year I lived in a drunken haze of happiness and support and attention of so many. I had my feet firmly planted in work and at home. Then in 2016, when the buzz wore off from the rainbows and butterflies, it was as if my life suddenly became a dark and gloomy cloud of blah. 

Somewhere in the middle of the year, I finally threw my arms up and screamed at The Universe, “I am getting help!” I said it with as much authority as a kid threatening to tell mom because, of course, mom would fix it. I believed “getting help” would be the mom coming to the rescue.  Little did I know then, that was the light peaking through the dark thunder clouds of my life. 

I started seeing a therapist. I’m sure that sounds cliché, typical in fact. But it was more than that. It was a declaration to finally take care of me. 

Seeing a therapist was just the bud that would eventually bloom into a flower of self discovery. I started reading “self-help” books. I started feverishly searching for more and more “help”. That small peaking stream of light started to become a gleaming ray of sunshine starting to warm me. 

See, I learned that taking care of me isn’t selfish. I didn’t have to be a martyr, sacrificing myself for the “greater good”. If you run a car low on gas long enough, you will sputter then die- on a country road 10 miles away from the nearest gas station. You will be no good to anyone. 

I had hit my breaking point. I felt alone in all of my doings. But, changing my way of thinking brought a sense of peace. Just knowing I was making the first steps in self-care was liberating. 

When you come out of the storm you won’t be the same person that walked in. That’s what the storm is all about. 

Every single thing you go through in this life molds and shapes you into the person you are today. Changing your way of thinking will affect the outcome. The storm won’t go away, but you will be prepared with your rain boots and umbrella and then splash in the puddles. 

I could have chosen to curl in a ball and cry and let all my struggles take over my life like an evil dictator. But, I chose to make a stand, reach out for help and inner peace, and to show gratitude.

Grat•i•tude

ˈɡradəˌt(y)o͞od/ noun 

the quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and to return kindness.

I know it’s hard to show gratitude to The Universe for what it feels like being grounded to an eternal hell. But here it goes… 

Dear 2016, 

It’s been a tough one, but I thank you. Thank you for teaching me that I am stronger than I thought and for giving me the strength to persevere through my struggles. Thank you for not allowing me to give up or lose hope or my sense of self. Thank you for introducing me to a more spiritual life and for kickstarting my journey to self discovery. Thank you for showing me that I am important and that it is selfless to take joy and find peace in self care. Thank you for make me more aware, mindful, and present. I am thankful for even the little time I had with my tribe and I am thankful for new or rekindled friendships. Thank you for pushing me and giving me the courage at work and at home. And finally I am thankful for what 2017 has to offer me. With my new learnings, I know I will be better equipt to deal with the bumps in the road. I can feel, in fact I know, 2017 will bless me with great promise of amazing opportunities and new chapters in my journey. To 2017, you will be my best year for I am a better person because of 2016. I look forward to what is to come and I am ready to conquer my life, love, and enjoy more laughter. 

Love, Me

More importantly, thank you to my readers and supporters. Though we may have never met, you give me reason. And I would like you to be the first to know that because of you and 2016, I have decided to take writing this blog to the next level. I have decided to start writing my first book. I am so grateful to you. Without all of you, I would never have thought I could. 

This has turned into more than just beauty blog, this is more than just life. We are all on a journey. A journey that throws curves balls one day and sets off fireworks the next. But because of you, I know I am not alone in any of my trials or tribulations. And I hope because of me, you have learned something that has helped you along the way, too. 

We are all on this Earth together and we all only get one life. Enjoy it. Show gratitude. Be present. And for heavens sake, love YOU! You rock. You kick ass. And I know 2017 will be your best year yet too.

Happy New Year! 


When the Weather (not the hair) is Frightful


Blah… it’s winter. 

While the season is perfect to get comfortable with a cup of hot cocoa, Netflix, & your cat, you can’t ignore the fact that the dry, dreary, plain yucky weather can wreak havoc on your hair. Don’t fret! There are plenty of ways you can protect your hair from the dreaded weather. 

Your hair starts to become more difficult to retain moisture, making it dry, brittle, and prone to breakage and damage, not to mention the frizz and static that often comes (though doesn’t go) with your winter wardrobe. However, these are all problems that can be avoided as long as you have the right hair care routine for winter. Don’t let your hair fall victim to the winter blues too! When Snowflakes Fall… From Your Scalp

Your scalp is drier and itchier than ever during the winter months because of the lack of moisture in the air. This is why your poor skin in dry and it seems you have to bathe with lotion. It leads to issues like dandruff and scalp irritation, which can lead to hair loss in severe cases. What most people don’t realize is that the dandruff problem can be manageable with the right care and a little love. 

Pureology Hydrate Shampoo & Conditioner (The Peppermint, Sage, & Rosemary create a cooling, invigorating feeling on your scalp relieving it of the itch and flakes.)

Redken Scalp Relief (This has powerful ingredients such as Zinc to relieve the agitation of the dryness and itch.)

Young Living Rosemary & Lavender Essential Oils (Mix with Coconut Oil as a mask or make a mist with distilled water & witch hazel for natural relief.) 2 Gifts Not Wanted for Christmas… Frizz & Static

One of the most annoying things about winter is all of the static and frizz. The hoodies, sweater, scarves, gloves, and beanies all seem to gang up on your hair, like your older aunts and grandmas wanting to smooch you at your holiday gatherings. To tackle this, wash your hair only with lukewarm water, NOT hot water, as the latter will strip away the natural oils and blow open the cuticle that protect and nourish your hair. Apply a leave-in conditioner or frizz fighting serum or lotion to keep your hair smooth.

Pureology Colour Fanatic Multi-Tasking Hair Beautifier (This provides 21 benefits including static reducing and frizz fighting.)

Redken Frizz Dismiss Regimen (My ultimate favorite for all hair types since it is customizable. It also includes “dryer” sheets for your hair to tame the frizz on the run.)

Young Living Sandalwood with Almond Oil as a serum is a natural and fantastic way to fight frizz. Shine Bright like a Diamond Pendent Your Husband Should Have Bought You (Instead of the Blender) 

The lack of moisture in winter not only dries out your scalp and makes your hair frizzy, but also leaves your hair looking dull, lifeless, as a blah. Ask your stylists about conditioning shine treatments such as a Redken Shades EQ Gloss. 

Pureology Shine Max (This serum adds light reflecting shine while making your hair soft and luxurious. This also tames stray fly aways without making you look like a grease pit.)

Redken Diamond Oil Pillow Proof Glow Dry (Honest to God, this is hair crack. Now only does it add insane shine without the weight of an oil, it protects against heat and blow dries your hair 50% faster.)

Honey with Young Living Roman Chamomile Essential Oil (Honey is a humectant that seals in the moisture and helps restore shine to dull and damaged hair. Roman Chamomile soothes scalp and adds softness to hair strands. Leave on for 30 minutes and rinse well.)Get Warm (With Cocoa, a Blankie, & Hair Mask)

Ensure your follicles get all the nourishment and love you can give them by warming them up a tad. Throw on your slippers, relax and moisturize your hair under a cap. Purchase a cheap shower cap at the dollar store and allow it to work wonders. Putting one on while deep conditioning will trap the heat, open the cuticle, and allow the conditioner to deeply penetrate the hair shaft.

Pureology Precious Oil Softening Hair Masque (This intensely moisturizes with Sunflower & Coconut Oil.)

Redken Diamond Oil Deep Facets Intensive Treatment Mask (This provides intensive nourishment and provides a protective layer of oils to help prevent damage.)

Warmed Olive Oil & Young Living Geranium (Smell fantastic while naturally giving your hair some much needed love.)Keep Your Hair Cool… Not Hot

Scorching hot water in the shower may feel great on a cold winter’s morning but you are causing more harm than good. Your skin and hair loses all it natural oils and your pores and hair cuticles remains open. Lock in moisture by rinsing with warm to cool, NOT hot. Fun tip: Apply a thin layer of coconut oil to your skin (and hair if your hair is thick and course) before rinsing. Your skin will remain silky and soft. Also, blow dry your hair on low or medium heat. Let’s take just 5 more minutes in the morning. It’s not that bad… and I promise you, you’ll thank me. Plus, it’s more time to hide from your kids and husbands. Towels and Hats and Friction… OH MY!

Rubbing your hair with a towel when you get out of the shower can cause some serious breakage. Your hair is at its weakest state when it is wet. Blot and squeeze the excess water out. Hats are another culprit for breakage. I get it, it’s freaking cold and we need hats-plain and simple. However, taking them on and off can cause friction, breakage, and horrible static. Try putting a silk bandana in the hat or wrapping a silk scarf around your head first before adorning your cute winter hat. Add Some Color to the Gray & Drab 

Spice up your look with a new color. Don’t go drastic since lord knows you will change your mind come spring. However, a little makeover does wonders for our mood. While your at it, treat yourself to a mani/pedi…. and maybe a glass of champagne. Apply some Young Living Stress Away or Peace & Calming and just relax. 


Happy Winter my little snowflakes! Be as unique as they are! 

Oil Love (The Holiday Edition) 

Happy Holiday Lovelies! It’s my most favorite time of year. This is year is even better because of my new found love for Young Living Essential Oils! There are so many recipes I am dying to share as a little gift to you.Diffuser Recipes: 

Holiday Rush: (Get your energy flowing for all the shopping, wrapping, baking, and more with them energetic blend.)

  • 2 drops En-R-Gee
  • 2 drops Clarity 
  • 2 drops Spruce

Christmas Spirit: (Fill your home with the perfect smells of the Holidays.) 

  • 4 drops Christmas Spirit
  • 1-2 drops Orange (depending on how much citrus you like) 

Pumpkin Pie: (It’s a staple of the Holidays! Fill your house with the smell without the added pounds.)

  • 4 drops Cinnamon Bark
  • 1 drop Clove
  • 1 drop Nutmeg 

Apple Pie (Another delicious staple. Fill your house with a smell like Grandma is baking.)

  • 3 drops Orange 
  • 2 drops Nutmeg
  • 1 drop Cinnamon Bark
  • 1 drop Clove 

Ginger Bread Cookies 

  • 3 drops Ginger
  • 2 drops Clove 
  • 2 drops Nutmeg
  • 1 drop Cinnamon Bark

Spiced Cider

  • 3 drops Ginger 
  • 2 drops Orange
  • 1 drop Cinnamon Bark 

On the Nice List (This blend will also clear your mind and release some holiday stress.)

  • 4 drops Stress Away
  • 2 drops Peppermint

Oh Christmas Tree

  • 4 drops Spruce 
  • 2 drops Frankincense 
  • 1 drop Cedarwood

Winter Hibernation (Curl up in your snuggie by the fire and take a nap with this blend.)

  • 3 drops Lavender 
  • 3 drops Cedarwood
  • 2 drop Orange 
  • 1 drop Thieves

Walking in a Winter Wonderland (Take a hike in the forest without freezing your tooshie off.) 

  • 3 drops Frankincense 
  • 2 drops Spruce
  • 1 drop Cedarwood 

DIY Gift Ideas: 

Pain Relief Roller (May be a great gift idea for those older in your life or those gym buffs.)

  • 10 drops Palo Santo 
  • 10 drops Peppermint 
  • 10 drops Frankincense 
  • Top with Grapeseed Oi

Sleep Roller (May be a great idea for those with restless kiddos.) 

  • 10 drops Lavender 
  • 8 drops Vetiver 
  • 6 drops Valerian 
  • 4 drops Cedarwood
  • 2 drops Frankincense
  • Top with Fractionated Coconut Oil

Focus Roller (Idea for students, business person, or entrepreneur.)

  • 10 drops Clarity
  • 8 drops Cedarwood
  • 6 drops Vetiver
  • 4 drops Peppermint
  • 2 drops Cobaiba
  • Top with Choice Carrier Oil

Foot Soak

  • 1/2 cup Baking Soda
  • 1 cup Espom Salt
  • 5 drops Essential Oils (Try using Peppermint or Lavender)
  • Place in glass container with pretty label

Sugar Scrub

  • 1 cup white sugar
  • 1/2 cup Coconut Oil
  • 6 drops Essential Oils (Try Lavender, Peppermint, Grapefruit, Stress Away, Bergamot, Valor)

    Whipped Body Butter (Oh and it feels & smells so good!) 

    • 1/2 cup each of Solid Coco Butter, Solid Shea Butter, Solid Coconut Oil, Olive Oil
    • 1/2 tsp Essential Oils (I used Peppermint, Lavender, & Vanilla) 
    • Heat in double boiler or microwave until solids are melted then place in fridge for 1 hour or until firm
    • Whip with hand mixer until fluffy
    • Add oils and mix again
    • Place in glass containers and decorate with labels, ribbon, etc

    Soy Candles (Actually way cheaper than store bought) 

    • Hot glue bottom of wick to bottom of whatever holder you decide to use (wicks can be purchased on Amazon)
    • Fill the jar, tea cup, etc with Soy Wax Flakes (easily bought from Amazon) 
    • Place in microwave and melt completely (Warning: Jar will be HOT)
    • Add more flakes and melt to fill
    • Add appropriate amount of your choice of Essential Oils (10 drops for pint mason jars)
    • Wrap wick around a pencil, stick, or spoon and lay on container to keep wick standing straight
    • Let cool completely
    • Cut wick, add a pretty label, and tie with ribbon 
    • Viola! 
    • (Some Name Ideas: Baked Goods, Men’s Night, Stess Away, Etc) 
    • (Can also add fresh herbs or flowers, glitter, candle dye, and more.)

    Cinnamon Salf Dough Ornaments or Gift Tags

    • 2 cups Flour
    • 1 cup Salt
    • 1/2 cup Cinnamon
    • 1 1/2 cup Very Hot Water
    • 5 drops Cinnamon Bark oil
    • 5 drops Clove oil
    • (Can add other oils you may like- Nutmeg, Thieves, Orange, Ginger)
    • Mix, roll out, cookie cut
    • Don’t forget the hole for the string (try using a straw)
    • Let dry for 24 hours 
    • Tie string
    • (Can write on them, spray them with clear, add glitter, paint, HAVE FUN)

    Play Dough (So fun for the kiddos… and smells better)

    • 2 16 oz boxes of Corn Starch
    • 1 20 oz bottle of Lotion (preferably unscented, natural lotion)
    • Mix together and divide 
    • Add Yellow Food Coloring & Lemon for Sugar Cookie Play Dough
    • Blue Food Coloring & Peppermint for Minty Christmas Fun
    • Red Food Coloring & Christmas Spirit or Cinnamon Bark
    • Green Food Coloring & Pine or Spruce
    • Brown Food Coloring & Ginger, Clove, Cinnamon Bark, & Nutmeg for Gingerbread 


    Holiday Cooking & Baking:

    • Add 1-2 drops Peppermint or Cinnamon Bark to your Brownies
    • Add Thyme, Rosemary, Sage, & Lemon to the Butter for your Turkey
    • Add 1 drop of Thieves to your crockpot of Hot (Spiked) Cider 
    • Add a Citrus Oil or Spicy Oil to your Sugar Cookies
    • Try adding Lavender Oil to your Hot Chocolate (pleasant surprise there)

    I could go on and on and on with ideas! But, I want to wish everyone a very merry holiday. Here’s to another fabulous years of blogging Hair, Makeup, Oil Love, Life. Thank you for being such loyal readers and caring about what I write. I am truly blessed.

    Happy Holidays!